Comments on: The man I should have married. http://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/13/the-man-i-should-have-married/ Single Mom Dating, Love, and Life Advice Fri, 19 Mar 2010 04:18:51 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: mssinglemama http://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/13/the-man-i-should-have-married/#comment-7175 mssinglemama Fri, 06 Mar 2009 03:29:54 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1487#comment-7175 So sad. But now you're both in different places. We can't re-create the past - can we? But we can learn from it. So glad you found this post so you at least know you're not the only one kicking themselves. So sad. But now you're both in different places. We can't re-create the past – can we? But we can learn from it. So glad you found this post so you at least know you're not the only one kicking themselves.

]]> By: sandi http://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/13/the-man-i-should-have-married/#comment-7169 sandi Thu, 05 Mar 2009 23:48:31 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1487#comment-7169 I didnt marry the one I should have. I met him when i was 19 and his type of love was so intense that i didnt get it. I hurt him real bad...a few years down the line i tried to get back with him again and again and all he said was NO. Somehow i just couldnt hear it because in my head and heart his voice was saying one thing but his actions were saying another...Now i am married to a wonderful man who loves me completely and he married someone a few months after i married. I was ok for the first one year but all of a sudden i have been thinking about him again...damn it I wish i could just erase that and move on... I didnt marry the one I should have. I met him when i was 19 and his type of love was so intense that i didnt get it. I hurt him real bad…a few years down the line i tried to get back with him again and again and all he said was NO. Somehow i just couldnt hear it because in my head and heart his voice was saying one thing but his actions were saying another…Now i am married to a wonderful man who loves me completely and he married someone a few months after i married. I was ok for the first one year but all of a sudden i have been thinking about him again…damn it I wish i could just erase that and move on…

]]> By: Mandy http://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/13/the-man-i-should-have-married/#comment-6638 Mandy Fri, 13 Feb 2009 21:24:59 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1487#comment-6638 It is so comforting to know I am not alone. I threw away a love which I know I will never experience again and now he is engaged less than 6 months later to someone else. I was married and unhappy when we met. He was 16 years younger than me. In my head i thought it was insanity and infatuation on my part, but I failed to listen to my heart until it was too late. That 'infatuation' was in my heart and soul for 5 years. He has the most beautiful heart and soul I have ever known and he wanted to marry me. My husband and I seperated 3 years ago but it took me a long time to let go of my marriage although I knew my heart and soul was not with my husband. I just loved him with my head and all the practicalities of our life. I told my new love to go away as I needed space and time to get myself strong again after 23 years of marriage. Finally after 5 years he did. And by the time I ditched the baggage 6 months later my wonderful guy was gone and with another . I can't blame him at all and I love him more than I can say in words. I miss him every minute of everyday and wish I had just gone with my heart from the start. But I guess it was a lesson i needed to learn ..... It is so comforting to know I am not alone. I threw away a love which I know I will never experience again and now he is engaged less than 6 months later to someone else. I was married and unhappy when we met. He was 16 years younger than me. In my head i thought it was insanity and infatuation on my part, but I failed to listen to my heart until it was too late. That 'infatuation' was in my heart and soul for 5 years. He has the most beautiful heart and soul I have ever known and he wanted to marry me. My husband and I seperated 3 years ago but it took me a long time to let go of my marriage although I knew my heart and soul was not with my husband. I just loved him with my head and all the practicalities of our life. I told my new love to go away as I needed space and time to get myself strong again after 23 years of marriage. Finally after 5 years he did. And by the time I ditched the baggage 6 months later my wonderful guy was gone and with another . I can't blame him at all and I love him more than I can say in words. I miss him every minute of everyday and wish I had just gone with my heart from the start. But I guess it was a lesson i needed to learn …..

]]> By: Apples http://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/13/the-man-i-should-have-married/#comment-6141 Apples Sat, 31 Jan 2009 06:28:18 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1487#comment-6141 I married him.... Yes this might confuse some who know that I am a divorced-solo-mother of one. I still say that the man I divorced and the man I married although legally and physically the same person were two total different people. Maybe thats just the way I coped with it who knows.... I married him…. Yes this might confuse some who know that I am a divorced-solo-mother of one. I still say that the man I divorced and the man I married although legally and physically the same person were two total different people. Maybe thats just the way I coped with it who knows….

]]> By: phiasmom http://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/13/the-man-i-should-have-married/#comment-6135 phiasmom Sat, 31 Jan 2009 00:37:51 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1487#comment-6135 He's single still?!! Go for it! There are two guys I should have married (well, I would have only married one of them) and always regret it. He’s single still?!! Go for it! There are two guys I should have married (well, I would have only married one of them) and always regret it.

]]> By: Kim - My Crew Magazine http://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/13/the-man-i-should-have-married/#comment-6130 Kim - My Crew Magazine Fri, 30 Jan 2009 21:34:06 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1487#comment-6130 I should have married Sam Perkins! I acted like an idiot when we dated. We were so connected and intune, I was too immature at the time. It goes down as the worst regret of all time. I loved that man. Still do. I should have married Sam Perkins! I acted like an idiot when we dated. We were so connected and intune, I was too immature at the time. It goes down as the worst regret of all time. I loved that man. Still do.

]]> By: PhenomenalMama http://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/13/the-man-i-should-have-married/#comment-6129 PhenomenalMama Fri, 30 Jan 2009 21:16:14 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1487#comment-6129 I don't think I have one, honestly. I do have a man that I wish I hadn't given up on so easily....or rather, maybe more like a man I'd wished I'd met at a different time in my life. I didn't get to know him well enough to figure out if he was 'marriage material' or not. I will probably always wonder "what if" about him. I don’t think I have one, honestly.

I do have a man that I wish I hadn’t given up on so easily….or rather, maybe more like a man I’d wished I’d met at a different time in my life. I didn’t get to know him well enough to figure out if he was ‘marriage material’ or not.

I will probably always wonder “what if” about him.

]]> By: Susan http://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/13/the-man-i-should-have-married/#comment-6128 Susan Fri, 30 Jan 2009 21:12:47 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1487#comment-6128 Golly, the man I should have married, or the man I THOUGHT I should have married was my first love. He crushed my heart and I've not been the same since. I had a second chance with him just a year ago but we didn't make it...but we might have if we married each other when I was 18! I'm not kidding. We might have made it but I know too much now...it's so hard to date as a single parent AND when I know myself so well...I really wish I'd married younger EXCEPT I adore my kids and I really don't have regrets... Golly, the man I should have married, or the man I THOUGHT I should have married was my first love. He crushed my heart and I’ve not been the same since. I had a second chance with him just a year ago but we didn’t make it…but we might have if we married each other when I was 18! I’m not kidding. We might have made it but I know too much now…it’s so hard to date as a single parent AND when I know myself so well…I really wish I’d married younger EXCEPT I adore my kids and I really don’t have regrets…

]]> By: mae http://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/13/the-man-i-should-have-married/#comment-6127 mae Fri, 30 Jan 2009 20:02:45 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1487#comment-6127 The man i shouldve married is now married i'm also married have been for 10 years now he just married in 2007 and i have to say we had a fling together about 6 years ago and it was like we never broke up he was not with anyone then shame on me yes i was married as i said i have thought about him ever since i got married and then now 10 years later i think of him everyday its tortue i have kids he still has none and i could never rip my family up i do also love my hubby so just take your time in things is all i can say so ya have no regrets later but i see i'm not alone in this which is a real relief. The man i shouldve married is now married i’m also married have been for 10 years now he just married in 2007 and i have to say we had a fling together about 6 years ago and it was like we never broke up he was not with anyone then shame on me yes i was married as i said i have thought about him ever since i got married and then now 10 years later i think of him everyday its tortue i have kids he still has none and i could never rip my family up i do also love my hubby so just take your time in things is all i can say so ya have no regrets later but i see i’m not alone in this which is a real relief.

]]> By: Lindsey http://mssinglemama.com/2008/10/13/the-man-i-should-have-married/#comment-4372 Lindsey Wed, 12 Nov 2008 00:33:14 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1487#comment-4372 He was my college beau. I kept breaking up w/him because I felt I needed to grow up & be my own person before committing to him for the rest of my life. But I did want to marry him eventually. He got tired of waiting (or thought I didn't really care) & found someone else. They were divorced after 3 yrs. We haven't had any contact in 25 yrs. We've both married & divorced others & are both now married to others. And not a day goes by that I don't miss him. Still. He was my college beau. I kept breaking up w/him because I felt I needed to grow up & be my own person before committing to him for the rest of my life. But I did want to marry him eventually. He got tired of waiting (or thought I didn’t really care) & found someone else. They were divorced after 3 yrs. We haven’t had any contact in 25 yrs. We’ve both married & divorced others & are both now married to others. And not a day goes by that I don’t miss him. Still.

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