Comments on: The man I should have married.

By: syrona

syrona — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 00:15:24 +0000

I just wanted to say I’ve found all your stories really inspirational, I’m only 18, and my boyfriend has just proposed (we aren’t getting married till after uni though when we can afford it) everyone thinks that were too young, that we don’t know enough yet to know what love is and we need more experience in order to make this sort of decision, but we know this is it, the real thing, and it’s given me such confidence to know so many women who are older and wiser still believe they should have married young, so I know this is an old thread, but I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your stories its really helped me know I should just follow my heart, and that just because I’m young, doesn’t mean I don’t know that this is the man I should be with.

By: ed

ed — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 19:24:08 +0000

Yup just another relationship you screwed up because it was easier to leave than to figure things out. Bravo.

By: mssinglemama

mssinglemama — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 03:29:54 +0000

So sad. But now you're both in different places. We can't re-create the past – can we? But we can learn from it. So glad you found this post so you at least know you're not the only one kicking themselves.

By: sandi

sandi — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 23:48:31 +0000

I didnt marry the one I should have. I met him when i was 19 and his type of love was so intense that i didnt get it. I hurt him real bad…a few years down the line i tried to get back with him again and again and all he said was NO. Somehow i just couldnt hear it because in my head and heart his voice was saying one thing but his actions were saying another…Now i am married to a wonderful man who loves me completely and he married someone a few months after i married. I was ok for the first one year but all of a sudden i have been thinking about him again…damn it I wish i could just erase that and move on…

By: Mandy

Mandy — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 21:24:59 +0000

It is so comforting to know I am not alone. I threw away a love which I know I will never experience again and now he is engaged less than 6 months later to someone else. I was married and unhappy when we met. He was 16 years younger than me. In my head i thought it was insanity and infatuation on my part, but I failed to listen to my heart until it was too late. That 'infatuation' was in my heart and soul for 5 years. He has the most beautiful heart and soul I have ever known and he wanted to marry me. My husband and I seperated 3 years ago but it took me a long time to let go of my marriage although I knew my heart and soul was not with my husband. I just loved him with my head and all the practicalities of our life. I told my new love to go away as I needed space and time to get myself strong again after 23 years of marriage. Finally after 5 years he did. And by the time I ditched the baggage 6 months later my wonderful guy was gone and with another . I can't blame him at all and I love him more than I can say in words. I miss him every minute of everyday and wish I had just gone with my heart from the start. But I guess it was a lesson i needed to learn …..

By: Apples

Apples — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 06:28:18 +0000

I married him…. Yes this might confuse some who know that I am a divorced-solo-mother of one. I still say that the man I divorced and the man I married although legally and physically the same person were two total different people. Maybe thats just the way I coped with it who knows….

By: phiasmom

phiasmom — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 00:37:51 +0000

He’s single still?!! Go for it! There are two guys I should have married (well, I would have only married one of them) and always regret it.

By: Kim - My Crew Magazine

Kim - My Crew Magazine — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 21:34:06 +0000

I should have married Sam Perkins! I acted like an idiot when we dated. We were so connected and intune, I was too immature at the time. It goes down as the worst regret of all time. I loved that man. Still do.

By: PhenomenalMama

PhenomenalMama — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 21:16:14 +0000

I don’t think I have one, honestly.

I do have a man that I wish I hadn’t given up on so easily….or rather, maybe more like a man I’d wished I’d met at a different time in my life. I didn’t get to know him well enough to figure out if he was ‘marriage material’ or not.

I will probably always wonder “what if” about him.

By: Susan

Susan — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 21:12:47 +0000

Golly, the man I should have married, or the man I THOUGHT I should have married was my first love. He crushed my heart and I’ve not been the same since. I had a second chance with him just a year ago but we didn’t make it…but we might have if we married each other when I was 18! I’m not kidding. We might have made it but I know too much now…it’s so hard to date as a single parent AND when I know myself so well…I really wish I’d married younger EXCEPT I adore my kids and I really don’t have regrets…