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By: Toil and Trouble | better-dating.org

Toil and Trouble | better-dating.org — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 14:36:50 +0000

[...] more of my worrisome banter read Apolcalypse Now? in which I ask if any of you feel like you need a man to help out or if any of you want to start a [...]

By: Toil and Trouble

Toil and Trouble — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 13:32:53 +0000

[...] more of my worrisome banter read Apolcalypse Now? in which I ask if any of you feel like you need a man to help out or if any of you want to start a [...]

By: April

April — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 15:52:26 +0000

I’m just trying to remain grateful for my job/income, my apartment, and my kids remaining healthy. And avoid looking at my 401(k).

By: Moon Beam

Moon Beam — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 01:24:59 +0000

This is crazy, because I’ve totally been feeling like this lately. I was happy for a year by myself, but suddenly I’ve been craving a man’s presence. I miss having the male role not only for me, but also for my kids. I am very independent, but it is so scary, especially with the economy, to be a single mom. I have to do this by myself, if I lose my job I don’t have a partner to depend on. Right now I despise my job, but it’s not like I can go back to school or take a risk, because I have no other support. I hate feeling that I am going to be stuck in this unhappy place because I have no other choice. I hate waking up knowing, I’m it, I can’t screw up, because there is no one to lean on. I feel like I don’t get to enjoy my kids as much because I’m always worrying and stressing about money and all the things I need to do. Up until this point, I was so focused on ‘making it’ I didn’t worry about living life, but I feel it’s catching up to me, and I don’t know how to handle it. I think that we are all amazing to be doing what we single moms do, but sometimes I just want to be normal, not amazing. I want to come home to someone at night and get a kiss, to lay next to someone and know they will be there in the morning, someone to take the kids to the park with, to have that ring around my finger again. I miss it….I don’t miss him, I miss being married. I miss having a partner, I miss the help, even if it was only a little. I mean if my son wakes up in the middle of the night with a fever and I don’t have enough tylenol, I can’t just run to the store. I have to pack both kids up and head out in the middle of the night. I feel like I have grown incredibly on my own, but I feel I’m ready to share that with someone. I Sorry for venting, that felt so good to admit.

By: mssinglemama

mssinglemama — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 01:27:41 +0000

GG – Do you live in the Midwest?

SPD – really good points there my friend – as always.

Find Emily – Yes, too many horrible men in the world – and sometimes it appears all of the good ones are taken. So why bother wasting our time wanting one? Gender roles are being redefined, with women working and some men staying home. It’s a new world.

Amber – You’re SO right… single might be easier until it all blows over. My experience has been this – men are expensive. But that’s just my personal experience. I obviously don’t know how to pick them. Where are the men with jobs for crying out loud?

By: Amber

Amber — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 21:58:26 +0000

yes…I am feeling the primal thing as well. I want it mostly for the second income. You know…half on the bills would be a GREAT help at this point. =) But I keep in mind, God’s time is not our time and I have faith he has someone out there for me. And I do believe he wants to fulfill my hearts desires which is to not be alone FOREVER!!! I think we’re all worried about the economy…but having someone else in our lives might cause more problems…what if they lost their job…their burdens then become ours…the stress adds up either way! Probably better to stay single until this all blows over!

By: Findemilynow

Findemilynow — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 06:05:10 +0000

hmmm…where to start….I felt like this for about 3 years straight. I have a 10 year old; have never seen child support and had a horrible job. When I asked my dad for advice on how I might find more money, he said, “get married”. That sentiment so many of us were raised with … And that’s not even the real emotional need that we all have for security.

I’m always fighting misandry. Too many horrible men in the world. Thank God we don’t even need sperm to carry on our race anymore. For my son I try …

By: SingleParentDad

SingleParentDad — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 20:09:22 +0000

You don’t need anyone or anything, but you do deserve to feel happy and secure.

There was a reality TV experiment here, called Young Mums Mansion. They litterally stuck a load of single moms into a house, and left them to it. They proved it could really work, if you could find the right balance and place. Drawbacks I could see included, if you wanted to put money in, to buy a place, how it would work if you wanted it back, there are privacy issues as well. My grandparents live in a luxury flats place, that only allows the over-somethings to live there. They have quite a community going, perhaps that would work for other groups, like single parents.

Anyway, you and your son are wonderful people, how can it ever not be OK, whatever happens?

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 19:47:06 +0000

Another Single mother here! Sometimes I feel that way, when I need a manly job done. Hang selves in the garage, change a high ligh bulb, fix the garage disposal stuff like that is when I think “man, it would be nice to have a guy around. Not much in a hurry for all the other stuff that goes along with a “man”.

By: GG

GG — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 19:15:04 +0000

My parents met living in an Anglican commune and I thought the communal living idea has some serious merit. I actually thought about advertising for other single moms to live with me in my 5-bedroom monstrosity before I decided to sell it instead. Now I’d love to find a neighborhood of single parents to live in where we could all pitch in to help each other with the cooking, childcare, sports transportation, etc.

Damn Bush.