Comments on: Cabin Fever, Part 3 http://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/22/cabin-fever-part-3/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Thu, 24 May 2012 03:18:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Cabin Fever, Part 4http://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/22/cabin-fever-part-3/#comment-3728 Cabin Fever, Part 4 Mon, 06 Oct 2008 23:54:41 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1337#comment-3728 [...] Cabin Fever, Part 3 [...] [...] Cabin Fever, Part 3 [...]

]]> By: Dating Single Parents: Can it Work?http://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/22/cabin-fever-part-3/#comment-3576 Dating Single Parents: Can it Work? Sat, 27 Sep 2008 18:45:29 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1337#comment-3576 [...] Cabin Fever, Part 3 [...] [...] Cabin Fever, Part 3 [...]

]]> By: LTPhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/22/cabin-fever-part-3/#comment-3529 LTP Wed, 24 Sep 2008 19:37:44 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1337#comment-3529 Well most people have said what I was going to the other night when my laptop was acting possessed and prevented me from posting. At any rate, I would wait on the kids--for so many reasons but I know you see that already. And you are right --as Amy suggested--that this time should be about you two getting to know one another. Why add more pressure to that situation when you are worrying if you are impacting your kids? As for the distance, I am just out of a 2-year long distance relationship (that you read all about earlier today, LOL) and it worked for us--mostly. At times I would feel like his part-time girlfriend....and didn't like that feeling so much. But b/c he is high-strung and a workaholic, it often worked for the best. He does know my children--but thankfully they are not heart-broken by his absence as we tried to keep our time separate from kid-time. They actually bring up his dogs more than him!! Kids are resiliant but you can never tell how they will react--so I would just hold off on that. I'm happy for you though....it sounds exciting. Does he have a single brother? That lives in Georgia? That likes cute, blonde, freckled women? Just kidding. : ) Well most people have said what I was going to the other night when my laptop was acting possessed and prevented me from posting. At any rate, I would wait on the kids–for so many reasons but I know you see that already. And you are right –as Amy suggested–that this time should be about you two getting to know one another. Why add more pressure to that situation when you are worrying if you are impacting your kids? As for the distance, I am just out of a 2-year long distance relationship (that you read all about earlier today, LOL) and it worked for us–mostly. At times I would feel like his part-time girlfriend….and didn’t like that feeling so much. But b/c he is high-strung and a workaholic, it often worked for the best. He does know my children–but thankfully they are not heart-broken by his absence as we tried to keep our time separate from kid-time. They actually bring up his dogs more than him!! Kids are resiliant but you can never tell how they will react–so I would just hold off on that.

I’m happy for you though….it sounds exciting. Does he have a single brother? That lives in Georgia? That likes cute, blonde, freckled women? Just kidding. : )

]]> By: KThttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/22/cabin-fever-part-3/#comment-3527 KT Wed, 24 Sep 2008 16:15:30 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1337#comment-3527 Well, you need to see the guy. You do not find that kind of connection often. Logistics be damned. You must find a way. How? I do not know. I am currently separated from my husband. Not sure if we'll reconcile or divorce. Hard to say at this point. So I have no advice but I am curious about the answer in case I am ever in your situation. I can say I am a child of divorce. I was 10 when my parents split. They were good enough about only introducing us to people they were serious about. But my dad did not marry the first girlfriend I met and I got over it just fine. My mom married each of her boyfriends (she was a mess) and divorced each of them, and I survived. I attribute that to a strong father. My mom was a mess. My dad was stable and strong and the woman who is now my stepmom and has been for 20 years is strong and stable. So, if you aren't acting inappropriately. I don't see why you can't find a way to see each other with the kids around. Don't sleep in his bed while they are in the house. No PDA. I'm sure there are other rules that you will need to follow........but seriously.....you need to see him again, so figure it out!! And good luck!!!! Well, you need to see the guy. You do not find that kind of connection often. Logistics be damned. You must find a way.

How? I do not know. I am currently separated from my husband. Not sure if we’ll reconcile or divorce. Hard to say at this point. So I have no advice but I am curious about the answer in case I am ever in your situation.

I can say I am a child of divorce. I was 10 when my parents split. They were good enough about only introducing us to people they were serious about. But my dad did not marry the first girlfriend I met and I got over it just fine. My mom married each of her boyfriends (she was a mess) and divorced each of them, and I survived. I attribute that to a strong father. My mom was a mess. My dad was stable and strong and the woman who is now my stepmom and has been for 20 years is strong and stable.

So, if you aren’t acting inappropriately. I don’t see why you can’t find a way to see each other with the kids around. Don’t sleep in his bed while they are in the house. No PDA. I’m sure there are other rules that you will need to follow……..but seriously…..you need to see him again, so figure it out!!

And good luck!!!!

]]> By: littlemansmomhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/22/cabin-fever-part-3/#comment-3524 littlemansmom Wed, 24 Sep 2008 15:15:27 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1337#comment-3524 Baby steps sweets...there's no hurry. A few more stolen evenings/days/whatever are in order before introductions...I believe when the time is right, you won't have to think about it too hard. I'm SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO excited for your new adventure.....and sooooooooooooooooooo looking forward to hearing new stories! :) Baby steps sweets…there’s no hurry. A few more stolen evenings/days/whatever are in order before introductions…I believe when the time is right, you won’t have to think about it too hard.

I’m SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO excited for your new adventure…..and sooooooooooooooooooo looking forward to hearing new stories! :)

]]> By: Lesliehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/22/cabin-fever-part-3/#comment-3522 Leslie Wed, 24 Sep 2008 14:59:05 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1337#comment-3522 I'd say definitely find a way to sneak in a little more alone time. But I don't see the harm in doing a group camp out. Then you get the added benefit of seeing him interact with others and other people's thoughts on him! I’d say definitely find a way to sneak in a little more alone time. But I don’t see the harm in doing a group camp out. Then you get the added benefit of seeing him interact with others and other people’s thoughts on him!

]]> By: Amy In Sedonahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/22/cabin-fever-part-3/#comment-3514 Amy In Sedona Wed, 24 Sep 2008 02:32:34 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1337#comment-3514 Ive been reading your posts since the end of June when I became a single mama and all I can tell you is go out there and have fun! Dont worry about the rules, you need to take control of your life and do it for yourself! Im sure Benjamin will have a blast too! Ive been reading your posts since the end of June when I became a single mama and all I can tell you is go out there and have fun! Dont worry about the rules, you need to take control of your life and do it for yourself! Im sure Benjamin will have a blast too!

]]> By: Heatherhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/22/cabin-fever-part-3/#comment-3512 Heather Wed, 24 Sep 2008 01:54:32 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1337#comment-3512 Sounds like you've come to a marvelous decision. I'm thrilled that you've started this discussion today, as I am about to take the leap into the single mom dating world. :) Sounds like you’ve come to a marvelous decision.
I’m thrilled that you’ve started this discussion today, as I am about to take the leap into the single mom dating world. :)

]]> By: Laurenhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/22/cabin-fever-part-3/#comment-3509 Lauren Tue, 23 Sep 2008 23:48:16 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1337#comment-3509 I can't offer any advice, but... I'm so freakin' excited for you!!! I can’t offer any advice, but… I’m so freakin’ excited for you!!!

]]> By: Thttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/22/cabin-fever-part-3/#comment-3508 T Tue, 23 Sep 2008 20:59:39 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1337#comment-3508 Yay girl!!! I'm excited to hear about the sparks and the camp fire!! Yeah, spend some time with the guy and get to know him better. The kids can wait. I can't add anymore than what others have said here. I'm just happy for you to have found someone who brings back some flutterbies!!! :) Yay girl!!! I’m excited to hear about the sparks and the camp fire!!

Yeah, spend some time with the guy and get to know him better. The kids can wait. I can’t add anymore than what others have said here.

I’m just happy for you to have found someone who brings back some flutterbies!!! :)

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