Comments on: A fairy tale ending? http://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/11/single-parents-date/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:59:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: The muddy single mom, a fairy tale.http://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/11/single-parents-date/#comment-4982 The muddy single mom, a fairy tale. Wed, 17 Dec 2008 06:24:45 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1246#comment-4982 [...] if I can’t wash away the old mud. I have to quit him… immediately (besides, I have a date tomorrow [...] [...] if I can’t wash away the old mud. I have to quit him… immediately (besides, I have a date tomorrow [...]

]]> By: LTPhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/11/single-parents-date/#comment-3327 LTP Wed, 17 Sep 2008 16:37:51 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1246#comment-3327 Believe it or not, the guy that I've just recently broken up with that I dated for almost two years, I met on Craig's List, which is free. I had posted something, he responded, and we dated for a long time. Prior to that, I had tried Match.com (which was pretty good but I think a lot of guys are just looking to hook-up). Since our recent break-up, a friend told me about PoF. I've emailed with a few guys but I'm not ready to date anyone really. I'm taking this break-up pretty hard. I did try SingleParentsMeet.com....it's awful. I think I just need to give myself time to get over this relationship....even if I feel lonely. I have friends and am trying to keep myself busy when the kids are with their dad. This wknd (coming up) is going to be tough for me....but I have lots of things scheduled so I'm not tempted to call or email. UGH. Why are break-ups so hard???? Believe it or not, the guy that I’ve just recently broken up with that I dated for almost two years, I met on Craig’s List, which is free. I had posted something, he responded, and we dated for a long time. Prior to that, I had tried Match.com (which was pretty good but I think a lot of guys are just looking to hook-up). Since our recent break-up, a friend told me about PoF. I’ve emailed with a few guys but I’m not ready to date anyone really. I’m taking this break-up pretty hard. I did try SingleParentsMeet.com….it’s awful.

I think I just need to give myself time to get over this relationship….even if I feel lonely. I have friends and am trying to keep myself busy when the kids are with their dad. This wknd (coming up) is going to be tough for me….but I have lots of things scheduled so I’m not tempted to call or email. UGH. Why are break-ups so hard????

]]> By: Mydriahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/11/single-parents-date/#comment-3253 Mydria Sun, 14 Sep 2008 03:40:37 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1246#comment-3253 Hello! First of all, let me just say that I love your site! I think it's a great idea that you go to bookstore instead of the library. I've been taking my son to the library in an effort to save money, but now that I'm ready to get out there and start dating, the bookstore may have to be the way to go! Hello! First of all, let me just say that I love your site!

I think it’s a great idea that you go to bookstore instead of the library. I’ve been taking my son to the library in an effort to save money, but now that I’m ready to get out there and start dating, the bookstore may have to be the way to go!

]]> By: Jaclynhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/11/single-parents-date/#comment-3240 Jaclyn Sat, 13 Sep 2008 13:13:45 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1246#comment-3240 I've tried Yahoo Personals ($24 a month). I was 25 at the time, so I didn't really get any matches of guys my age that weren't looking for "hook ups" or were at my emotional and mental level. However, I've been dating a man 6 years older than me going on 2 years now. He's really great and I'm very happy and my daughter loves his "creepy voices" (he'll play Barbies with us and does a terrible 'girl' voice). I wasn't looking for anything but casual, and with him, we were both looking for a friend that had undergone a nasty divorce...a friend to commisserate with, someone who understood. He posted a bad, and older, pic of himself because it was the most recent he had. He looked much heavier in the picture. When I met him, I immediately thought "He's so hot. Why did he post such a bad picture?" and from then, the date got better, etc. I'd like to say that I'm not your typical girl, I am definitely insecure, and I had a very traumatic childhood that still affects me today. Most men eventually cannot handle me (even though I don't feel I'm difficult, they just can't relate). This one is a keeper. No plans to marry ever again, but he enriches and enhances my life and vice versa. Drawback to Yahoo! Personals: they are still sending me emails for my 'Latest Matches'. I canceled my subscription after 2 dates w/ him because I inexplicably found the guy I didn't know I was looking for. I don't need more matches Yahoo -- I've been very happy with this match for nearly 2 years. The point I am making is that usually we find what we want when we aren't looking for it. When I joined, I was just looking for someone to hang out with and have fun to distract me from my divorce at that time. Just a playmate (minus the sex). Instead, I found something so much better that I thought I didn't want at that time. Well, that's my 2 cents I’ve tried Yahoo Personals ($24 a month). I was 25 at the time, so I didn’t really get any matches of guys my age that weren’t looking for “hook ups” or were at my emotional and mental level.

However, I’ve been dating a man 6 years older than me going on 2 years now. He’s really great and I’m very happy and my daughter loves his “creepy voices” (he’ll play Barbies with us and does a terrible ‘girl’ voice).

I wasn’t looking for anything but casual, and with him, we were both looking for a friend that had undergone a nasty divorce…a friend to commisserate with, someone who understood.

He posted a bad, and older, pic of himself because it was the most recent he had. He looked much heavier in the picture. When I met him, I immediately thought “He’s so hot. Why did he post such a bad picture?” and from then, the date got better, etc.

I’d like to say that I’m not your typical girl, I am definitely insecure, and I had a very traumatic childhood that still affects me today. Most men eventually cannot handle me (even though I don’t feel I’m difficult, they just can’t relate). This one is a keeper. No plans to marry ever again, but he enriches and enhances my life and vice versa.

Drawback to Yahoo! Personals: they are still sending me emails for my ‘Latest Matches’. I canceled my subscription after 2 dates w/ him because I inexplicably found the guy I didn’t know I was looking for. I don’t need more matches Yahoo — I’ve been very happy with this match for nearly 2 years.

The point I am making is that usually we find what we want when we aren’t looking for it. When I joined, I was just looking for someone to hang out with and have fun to distract me from my divorce at that time. Just a playmate (minus the sex). Instead, I found something so much better that I thought I didn’t want at that time.

Well, that’s my 2 cents

]]> By: Kimhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/11/single-parents-date/#comment-3225 Kim Sat, 13 Sep 2008 01:50:55 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1246#comment-3225 I've been on Match since late June and I'm having a ball! When I share my 2 cents worth about online dating I always tell people to be yourself, be honest, and just have fun! I've heard stories of women (and men) who don't get any "hits" using their real age, so they lower their age and post older pictures. They 'fess up on the first date, but that really p*sses me off. How dare someone start a relationship based on lies and deceit! Haven't most of us had enough of that already? Dating is so better for me at 50 than it was at 20: I'm not looking for my life partner (but I won't turn him away if he appears), I'm much more self-confident, so I *really* enjoy flirting, and I'm very up-front about only wanting to date casually, make new friends and hang out. If I feel a guy is leaning toward sex, I make it very clear pronto that I'm not looking for that right now. No drama, no expectations, and no commitments. And certainly no STDs! :o) I've met a few guys who weren't my match, but most of them have been really great. Maybe my results are not typical, but I highly recommend giving it a try. Use common sense, meet only in public places, and be careful. Oh, I recently heard about a site where you can plug in a guy's name and see if any women have posted bad experiences about him: www.womansavers.com. They claim to have millions of members, and while it's probably a crap shoot to find a guy on there that you're seeing, it still makes sense to have a site like that. I’ve been on Match since late June and I’m having a ball! When I share my 2 cents worth about online dating I always tell people to be yourself, be honest, and just have fun! I’ve heard stories of women (and men) who don’t get any “hits” using their real age, so they lower their age and post older pictures. They ‘fess up on the first date, but that really p*sses me off. How dare someone start a relationship based on lies and deceit! Haven’t most of us had enough of that already? Dating is so better for me at 50 than it was at 20: I’m not looking for my life partner (but I won’t turn him away if he appears), I’m much more self-confident, so I *really* enjoy flirting, and I’m very up-front about only wanting to date casually, make new friends and hang out. If I feel a guy is leaning toward sex, I make it very clear pronto that I’m not looking for that right now. No drama, no expectations, and no commitments. And certainly no STDs! :o ) I’ve met a few guys who weren’t my match, but most of them have been really great. Maybe my results are not typical, but I highly recommend giving it a try. Use common sense, meet only in public places, and be careful. Oh, I recently heard about a site where you can plug in a guy’s name and see if any women have posted bad experiences about him: http://www.womansavers.com. They claim to have millions of members, and while it’s probably a crap shoot to find a guy on there that you’re seeing, it still makes sense to have a site like that.

]]> By: debrahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/11/single-parents-date/#comment-3221 debra Fri, 12 Sep 2008 18:03:30 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1246#comment-3221 I met an AMAZING guy within 5 minutes of being on plenty of fish, we've only been seeing each other for about 3 weeks, but so far, he is the most compatible person I've met online or in person. However, within a week, I pulled my profile down, seemed like lots more creepy guys with nothing in particular to say who just wanted to chat/IM. I've had the most success with Match, but have taken a break from all of them now. I met an AMAZING guy within 5 minutes of being on plenty of fish, we’ve only been seeing each other for about 3 weeks, but so far, he is the most compatible person I’ve met online or in person. However, within a week, I pulled my profile down, seemed like lots more creepy guys with nothing in particular to say who just wanted to chat/IM. I’ve had the most success with Match, but have taken a break from all of them now.

]]> By: pisceshannahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/11/single-parents-date/#comment-3218 pisceshanna Fri, 12 Sep 2008 16:39:50 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1246#comment-3218 I've met a few guys on POF who seem cool. Never met anyone in person, but have chatted extensively. I think I need to get the guts to call someone already. I’ve met a few guys on POF who seem cool. Never met anyone in person, but have chatted extensively. I think I need to get the guts to call someone already.

]]> By: Aprilhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/11/single-parents-date/#comment-3217 April Fri, 12 Sep 2008 16:32:17 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1246#comment-3217 I hated online dating. HATED it. I need that personal connection. Unfortunately, rather hard to get when your life is work and being a mom. I guess we should go to a book store this weekend! Does this work with older kids? I hated online dating. HATED it. I need that personal connection. Unfortunately, rather hard to get when your life is work and being a mom. I guess we should go to a book store this weekend! Does this work with older kids?

]]> By: mssinglemamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/11/single-parents-date/#comment-3214 mssinglemama Fri, 12 Sep 2008 14:49:20 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1246#comment-3214 Amy - you're right. That's a really, really good point. And it wasn't a waste of time - shouldn't have put it that way because I really did enjoy his company. We shall see... you never know. And I am definitely going to hang out with him again soon. We already have plans for another concert in October. But that is a really important point and I'm glad you made it. Nice addition to this post. Kit Kat ... thanks you sweetie! Keep us posted on POF Amy – you’re right. That’s a really, really good point. And it wasn’t a waste of time – shouldn’t have put it that way because I really did enjoy his company. We shall see… you never know. And I am definitely going to hang out with him again soon. We already have plans for another concert in October.

But that is a really important point and I’m glad you made it. Nice addition to this post.

Kit Kat … thanks you sweetie! Keep us posted on POF

]]> By: Kitkat4real (SOLO dot MOM)http://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/11/single-parents-date/#comment-3212 Kitkat4real (SOLO dot MOM) Fri, 12 Sep 2008 13:01:34 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1246#comment-3212 I'm with Amy, although I do enjoy feeling the sparks when you first meet someone. That has happened in the past... yet here I am still single after being separated and divorced since 2003. So sparks don't get you to the finish line, obviously. They do however, help keep your interest. But in agreement with Amy, I do think that guys as friends can grow into something more... only you know your heart, so giving up on B&N so soon is a going with your gut thing. Now online dating, I have tried E-Harmony, Match, American Singles, Singlesnet, and more than I can even remember over these last three and a half years when I started dating again. Lately I have tried PlentyofFish and the verdict is still out on this free site. There are many cons to online dating... and I have many many stories, but, glutton for punishment or not, I am back at it again: filtering and a bit wiser for the wear. Keep us posted.... I know you will. Love your blog. I’m with Amy, although I do enjoy feeling the sparks when you first meet someone. That has happened in the past… yet here I am still single after being separated and divorced since 2003. So sparks don’t get you to the finish line, obviously. They do however, help keep your interest. But in agreement with Amy, I do think that guys as friends can grow into something more… only you know your heart, so giving up on B&N so soon is a going with your gut thing.

Now online dating, I have tried E-Harmony, Match, American Singles, Singlesnet, and more than I can even remember over these last three and a half years when I started dating again. Lately I have tried PlentyofFish and the verdict is still out on this free site. There are many cons to online dating… and I have many many stories, but, glutton for punishment or not, I am back at it again: filtering and a bit wiser for the wear.

Keep us posted…. I know you will. Love your blog.

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