Comments on: Single Mom S.O.S.: Body Check http://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/04/single-mom-sos-body-check/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:59:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: TwinMamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/04/single-mom-sos-body-check/#comment-45539 TwinMama Wed, 18 Jan 2012 06:35:35 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1153#comment-45539 I am SO self-concious about my body especially since i feel like with clothes on my body is deceiving I'm very petite 5' 2" size 1 but I my belly is stretched from the babies plus i nursed twins for a year haha and so I feel like when a guy meets me he expects something else I definitely don't have the same confidence and don't really have the urge to meet someone I am SO self-concious about my body especially since i feel like with clothes on my body is deceiving I’m very petite 5′ 2″ size 1 but I my belly is stretched from the babies plus i nursed twins for a year haha and so I feel like when a guy meets me he expects something else I definitely don’t have the same confidence and don’t really have the urge to meet someone

]]> By: Davidhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/04/single-mom-sos-body-check/#comment-27386 David Thu, 09 Jun 2011 16:44:28 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1153#comment-27386 As a guy, I think the body can definitely be a first point of attraction. If you have some cellulite, extra skin, or even stretch marks, it's not going to matter if you're with a guy who truly cares about you, those things are absolutely nothing that he is worried about. Trust me...guys are at least as concerned with the way they look in the bedroom for the first few times anyway. If you are comfortable with the skin you're in, your guy will be comfortable with you too. It's ok if you don't feel like a model-just let us know you aren't comfortable with your body and we'll remind you that we do find you hot/sexy/attractive. "Nice guys" are going to understand that you are very self conscious about this, and will work to convince you that it's nothing you should worry about. The way you look is most likely not the reason that things didn't work out with your child's father. If that was his reason for being unfaithful and/or leaving you, then you are better off without him. If someone isn't able to look past your surface, do you really think they will make a good partner who will support you and love you? As a guy, I think the body can definitely be a first point of attraction. If you have some cellulite, extra skin, or even stretch marks, it’s not going to matter if you’re with a guy who truly cares about you, those things are absolutely nothing that he is worried about. Trust me…guys are at least as concerned with the way they look in the bedroom for the first few times anyway. If you are comfortable with the skin you’re in, your guy will be comfortable with you too. It’s ok if you don’t feel like a model-just let us know you aren’t comfortable with your body and we’ll remind you that we do find you hot/sexy/attractive. “Nice guys” are going to understand that you are very self conscious about this, and will work to convince you that it’s nothing you should worry about. The way you look is most likely not the reason that things didn’t work out with your child’s father. If that was his reason for being unfaithful and/or leaving you, then you are better off without him. If someone isn’t able to look past your surface, do you really think they will make a good partner who will support you and love you?

]]> By: Jenroyalhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/04/single-mom-sos-body-check/#comment-27185 Jenroyal Thu, 26 May 2011 18:06:05 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1153#comment-27185 Hi, first time visiting the site! It's great btw It is so nice to see so many comments regarding the post baby body image. I thought I was the only one suffering through it. I have been on raising my 3 kids alone now for 3 years. I've had a couple relationships in that time. The one thing I can say about the men I have been with is that none of them had a problem with my body. Its weird too because, I feel like I have a very low self image right now! Thanks for your "food for thought" comments Hi, first time visiting the site! It’s great btw
It is so nice to see so many comments regarding the post baby body image. I thought I was the only one suffering through it. I have been on raising my 3 kids alone now for 3 years. I’ve had a couple relationships in that time. The one thing I can say about the men I have been with is that none of them had a problem with my body. Its weird too because, I feel like I have a very low self image right now! Thanks for your “food for thought” comments

]]> By: Nick Stanhamhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/04/single-mom-sos-body-check/#comment-22597 Nick Stanham Sun, 28 Nov 2010 18:26:49 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1153#comment-22597 To be honest, I think the person themselves matter more than physical appearence. Most men would understand the trauma that pregnancy puts on a woman so would understand completely. To be honest, I think the person themselves matter more than physical appearence. Most men would understand the trauma that pregnancy puts on a woman so would understand completely.

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]]> By: Sherriehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/04/single-mom-sos-body-check/#comment-18872 Sherrie Wed, 04 Aug 2010 21:09:54 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1153#comment-18872 I know a lot of woman are insecure about their bodies and have good reason. But, from personal expierence, Id have to say the only issue were my boobs, they shrunk but thankfuly still perky. I got lucky, and genetics are good. After my baby was 9 months I lost all the baby fat and more. I weighed 135 lbs before baby and I am 5' 6" tall. I gained up to 170 when pregnant. At 9 months post-partum I weighed avg 120lbs and wore size 4 pants. I never weighed that much since the begining of puberty. I didn't diet, infact, after baby i was ADDICTED to sweets, eating ice cream and fudge every other day. The only thing i think i did to get slim was work and occasionaly exercising. Maybe most mothers dont work while theyre kids are babies, and i did since my kid was 1 1/2 months old. I just turned 21 when i had him but i dont think being young has anything to do with it. I love my body more than i ever had before and now my baby is 16 months and i have no problem wearing a bikini, no one can tell i have ever even had a baby. I know a lot of woman are insecure about their bodies and have good reason. But, from personal expierence, Id have to say the only issue were my boobs, they shrunk but thankfuly still perky. I got lucky, and genetics are good. After my baby was 9 months I lost all the baby fat and more. I weighed 135 lbs before baby and I am 5′ 6″ tall. I gained up to 170 when pregnant. At 9 months post-partum I weighed avg 120lbs and wore size 4 pants. I never weighed that much since the begining of puberty. I didn’t diet, infact, after baby i was ADDICTED to sweets, eating ice cream and fudge every other day. The only thing i think i did to get slim was work and occasionaly exercising. Maybe most mothers dont work while theyre kids are babies, and i did since my kid was 1 1/2 months old. I just turned 21 when i had him but i dont think being young has anything to do with it. I love my body more than i ever had before and now my baby is 16 months and i have no problem wearing a bikini, no one can tell i have ever even had a baby.

]]> By: Sweetbearieshttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/04/single-mom-sos-body-check/#comment-18474 Sweetbearies Thu, 15 Jul 2010 00:13:16 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1153#comment-18474 You have to be happy with the shape of your body and not care what others think about it. I say eat healthy and exercise for health's sake, but do not starve yourself to looks a certain way. You have to be happy with the shape of your body and not care what others think about it. I say eat healthy and exercise for health’s sake, but do not starve yourself to looks a certain way.

]]> By: Abimomhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/04/single-mom-sos-body-check/#comment-17472 Abimom Wed, 26 May 2010 06:33:22 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1153#comment-17472 My guy wanted me preggers and wanted me after, though he hasn't really seen the new bod. My little girl's only 2 months old so I haven't lost much of the weigh yet--a whopping 20lbs when I wasn't small before. I never minded my old curvy body, not much. But now, I'm still wearing my pregnancy pants because the old jeans still don't fit. I've got severe stretch marks and the skin is all loose and weird. My honey wanted a picture of me, I sent him one more than a year old when I was even smaller than I was when I got pregnant. He didn't want it, said he wanted to see me, stretch marks and all, just as I was now, because that's how he wants me. My guy wanted me preggers and wanted me after, though he hasn’t really seen the new bod. My little girl’s only 2 months old so I haven’t lost much of the weigh yet–a whopping 20lbs when I wasn’t small before. I never minded my old curvy body, not much. But now, I’m still wearing my pregnancy pants because the old jeans still don’t fit. I’ve got severe stretch marks and the skin is all loose and weird. My honey wanted a picture of me, I sent him one more than a year old when I was even smaller than I was when I got pregnant. He didn’t want it, said he wanted to see me, stretch marks and all, just as I was now, because that’s how he wants me.

]]> By: christinhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/04/single-mom-sos-body-check/#comment-14885 christin Wed, 23 Dec 2009 06:37:56 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1153#comment-14885 I've been single since about halfway through my pregnancy with my daughter who just turned one. Needless to say, i was apprehensive of getting back into the dating scene. I was most worried about the fact that I'm 24 yrs old and most the women guys my age are dating have not had children. so i was feeling like i was up against lots of young girls whose bodies looked much better than mine. well come to find out, guys aren't looking at the parts you're worried about. they are going to look at the parts of your body they find most attractive, so don't point out the bad parts. I have been seeing my guy now for 2 months and he said it's all about the confidence. he told me i walk with a strut even in my birthday suit which makes him not even notice the stretch marks and saggy skin. stay fabulous and strut your stuff! I’ve been single since about halfway through my pregnancy with my daughter who just turned one. Needless to say, i was apprehensive of getting back into the dating scene. I was most worried about the fact that I’m 24 yrs old and most the women guys my age are dating have not had children. so i was feeling like i was up against lots of young girls whose bodies looked much better than mine. well come to find out, guys aren’t looking at the parts you’re worried about. they are going to look at the parts of your body they find most attractive, so don’t point out the bad parts.

I have been seeing my guy now for 2 months and he said it’s all about the confidence. he told me i walk with a strut even in my birthday suit which makes him not even notice the stretch marks and saggy skin.

stay fabulous and strut your stuff!

]]> By: Heidi (SingleWorkingMama)http://mssinglemama.com/2008/09/04/single-mom-sos-body-check/#comment-12003 Heidi (SingleWorkingMama) Sun, 16 Aug 2009 03:19:24 +0000 http://mssinglemama.com/?p=1153#comment-12003 It's all in how you carry yourself. If you accept your stretch marks and other battlescars of being a Mama, so will your suitor! Let's face it... How many guys have perfect bodies? Not too many. And it doesn't stop us from being attracted to 'em! Same goes for us. I call my stretch marks (which my daughter told me "look like wood" - haha) my Mama Tattoos. Sure, I wish I was perkier than I am in certain areas these days, but we can look to Victoria for help in that department. ;-) It’s all in how you carry yourself. If you accept your stretch marks and other battlescars of being a Mama, so will your suitor! Let’s face it… How many guys have perfect bodies? Not too many. And it doesn’t stop us from being attracted to ‘em! Same goes for us. I call my stretch marks (which my daughter told me “look like wood” – haha) my Mama Tattoos. Sure, I wish I was perkier than I am in certain areas these days, but we can look to Victoria for help in that department. ;-)

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