Comments on: Single Mom S.O.S.: Body Check

By: Kira

Kira — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 19:09:01 +0000

No offense, but I think it is a bit arrogant to brag about the shape your body is in when you have women pouring their hearts out about their body issues. Next time you may be well served to use a bit more sensitivity and tact

By: Jane A

Jane A — Mon, 02 Apr 2012 05:46:28 +0000

LOL – I’m worried that a guy will even look twice at me because I’m a single Mum with 3 young kids, let alone the whole ‘what does my body look like after 3 caesars’ scenario. Post separation I probably look my best, stress kills my appetite so I have well and truly lost all baby weight and then some. But I do have some stretch marks, and a caesar scar, and after breast feeding 3 kids for a year each, well let’s not even go there. More scary for me is not “what will he think of my body?” but after being with my ex since I was 19, it’s “how on earth do I even start talking to to a guy, let alone get naked with him!”

By: TwinMama

TwinMama — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 06:35:35 +0000

I am SO self-concious about my body especially since i feel like with clothes on my body is deceiving I’m very petite 5′ 2″ size 1 but I my belly is stretched from the babies plus i nursed twins for a year haha and so I feel like when a guy meets me he expects something else I definitely don’t have the same confidence and don’t really have the urge to meet someone

By: David

David — Thu, 09 Jun 2011 16:44:28 +0000

As a guy, I think the body can definitely be a first point of attraction. If you have some cellulite, extra skin, or even stretch marks, it’s not going to matter if you’re with a guy who truly cares about you, those things are absolutely nothing that he is worried about. Trust me…guys are at least as concerned with the way they look in the bedroom for the first few times anyway. If you are comfortable with the skin you’re in, your guy will be comfortable with you too. It’s ok if you don’t feel like a model-just let us know you aren’t comfortable with your body and we’ll remind you that we do find you hot/sexy/attractive. “Nice guys” are going to understand that you are very self conscious about this, and will work to convince you that it’s nothing you should worry about. The way you look is most likely not the reason that things didn’t work out with your child’s father. If that was his reason for being unfaithful and/or leaving you, then you are better off without him. If someone isn’t able to look past your surface, do you really think they will make a good partner who will support you and love you?

By: Jenroyal

Jenroyal — Thu, 26 May 2011 18:06:05 +0000

Hi, first time visiting the site! It’s great btw
It is so nice to see so many comments regarding the post baby body image. I thought I was the only one suffering through it. I have been on raising my 3 kids alone now for 3 years. I’ve had a couple relationships in that time. The one thing I can say about the men I have been with is that none of them had a problem with my body. Its weird too because, I feel like I have a very low self image right now! Thanks for your “food for thought” comments

By: Nick Stanham

Nick Stanham — Sun, 28 Nov 2010 18:26:49 +0000

To be honest, I think the person themselves matter more than physical appearence. Most men would understand the trauma that pregnancy puts on a woman so would understand completely.

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By: Sherrie

Sherrie — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 21:09:54 +0000

I know a lot of woman are insecure about their bodies and have good reason. But, from personal expierence, Id have to say the only issue were my boobs, they shrunk but thankfuly still perky. I got lucky, and genetics are good. After my baby was 9 months I lost all the baby fat and more. I weighed 135 lbs before baby and I am 5′ 6″ tall. I gained up to 170 when pregnant. At 9 months post-partum I weighed avg 120lbs and wore size 4 pants. I never weighed that much since the begining of puberty. I didn’t diet, infact, after baby i was ADDICTED to sweets, eating ice cream and fudge every other day. The only thing i think i did to get slim was work and occasionaly exercising. Maybe most mothers dont work while theyre kids are babies, and i did since my kid was 1 1/2 months old. I just turned 21 when i had him but i dont think being young has anything to do with it. I love my body more than i ever had before and now my baby is 16 months and i have no problem wearing a bikini, no one can tell i have ever even had a baby.

By: Sweetbearies

Sweetbearies — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 00:13:16 +0000

You have to be happy with the shape of your body and not care what others think about it. I say eat healthy and exercise for health’s sake, but do not starve yourself to looks a certain way.

By: Abimom

Abimom — Wed, 26 May 2010 06:33:22 +0000

My guy wanted me preggers and wanted me after, though he hasn’t really seen the new bod. My little girl’s only 2 months old so I haven’t lost much of the weigh yet–a whopping 20lbs when I wasn’t small before. I never minded my old curvy body, not much. But now, I’m still wearing my pregnancy pants because the old jeans still don’t fit. I’ve got severe stretch marks and the skin is all loose and weird. My honey wanted a picture of me, I sent him one more than a year old when I was even smaller than I was when I got pregnant. He didn’t want it, said he wanted to see me, stretch marks and all, just as I was now, because that’s how he wants me.