Comments on: Can he commit? Check his cab light. http://mssinglemama.com/2008/08/06/can-he-commit/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Thu, 24 May 2012 03:18:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: A new frontier.http://mssinglemama.com/2008/08/06/can-he-commit/#comment-4392 A new frontier. Thu, 13 Nov 2008 01:56:36 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=865#comment-4392 [...] Can He Commit? Check His Cab Light. [...] [...] Can He Commit? Check His Cab Light. [...]

]]> By: A new frontier. | better-dating.orghttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/08/06/can-he-commit/#comment-4333 A new frontier. | better-dating.org Mon, 10 Nov 2008 14:18:57 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=865#comment-4333 [...] Can He Commit? Check His Cab Light. [...] [...] Can He Commit? Check His Cab Light. [...]

]]> By: Livingalmostlargehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/08/06/can-he-commit/#comment-2714 Livingalmostlarge Sat, 09 Aug 2008 03:16:56 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=865#comment-2714 The older you are, the better you know yourself. My college roommate's parents were married after 3 months of dating and are still happy 30+ years together. They had her about 1 year after marriage. By the way at the time they were 35 and 36. They meet on a summer vacation. I meet her dad at 19 and asked him how he knew? His response? I just knew, I was older, already had been engaged and it didn't work. And after a few weeks it began to feel right. Then after 2 months, I knew I couldn't let her go. That was it for them both. It was wildly romantic, but then I heard the same story about 10 years later from my older brother. He was 35 and she was 33, and they married less than a year of dating. They were so much more experienced. The older you are, the better you know yourself. My college roommate’s parents were married after 3 months of dating and are still happy 30+ years together. They had her about 1 year after marriage.

By the way at the time they were 35 and 36. They meet on a summer vacation. I meet her dad at 19 and asked him how he knew?

His response? I just knew, I was older, already had been engaged and it didn’t work. And after a few weeks it began to feel right. Then after 2 months, I knew I couldn’t let her go. That was it for them both.

It was wildly romantic, but then I heard the same story about 10 years later from my older brother. He was 35 and she was 33, and they married less than a year of dating. They were so much more experienced.

]]> By: Katiehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/08/06/can-he-commit/#comment-2713 Katie Thu, 07 Aug 2008 21:41:03 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=865#comment-2713 Well today, rignt now, it is off. Things just feel weird right now and I am too stressed with everything else going on in my life to fight it. I give. And now I am going to go have a good cry. Well today, rignt now, it is off. Things just feel weird right now and I am too stressed with everything else going on in my life to fight it. I give. And now I am going to go have a good cry.

]]> By: Danhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/08/06/can-he-commit/#comment-2712 Dan Thu, 07 Aug 2008 07:35:12 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=865#comment-2712 My cab was demolished 4 years ago. It took a while to fix it, but now it's in great shape. Since turning on my light about a year ago- I've come across some I didn't want to stop for; others, I wanted to stop for but they didn't even glanced at my direction. One flagged me down but then she didn't want to get in; she later decided to track me down, but I was already in some other part of town. For a while there, I was talking to someone though the window but she decided not to get in- I called her but she didn't return my calls. Lo and behold!- after a year, I finally have a passenger, very very new, she literally just got inside the cab, but the cab door is still open- it's that close to getting this fare but we're still figuring out if it's a good match- she's thinking if she wants to stay in the cab and close the door so that we can get going, and in my part, whether she's a passenger that I'd want to be with for the long haul- so we're taking it one step at a time. My cab was demolished 4 years ago. It took a while to fix it, but now it’s in great shape. Since turning on my light about a year ago- I’ve come across some I didn’t want to stop for; others, I wanted to stop for but they didn’t even glanced at my direction. One flagged me down but then she didn’t want to get in; she later decided to track me down, but I was already in some other part of town. For a while there, I was talking to someone though the window but she decided not to get in- I called her but she didn’t return my calls. Lo and behold!- after a year, I finally have a passenger, very very new, she literally just got inside the cab, but the cab door is still open- it’s that close to getting this fare but we’re still figuring out if it’s a good match- she’s thinking if she wants to stay in the cab and close the door so that we can get going, and in my part, whether she’s a passenger that I’d want to be with for the long haul- so we’re taking it one step at a time.

]]> By: Ms. Single Mamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/08/06/can-he-commit/#comment-2711 Ms. Single Mama Wed, 06 Aug 2008 22:47:19 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=865#comment-2711 Katie - we were commenting at the same time. Definitely applies to us both. But when a man's cab light is "on" and he's attractive - sexy - successful, he isn't perceived as "desperate" he's perceived as "a total catch." Make sense? Not that we're all perceived as desperate when our cab light is truly on... women I mean - but it is tougher if we're ready to settle down. Katie – we were commenting at the same time. Definitely applies to us both. But when a man’s cab light is “on” and he’s attractive – sexy – successful, he isn’t perceived as “desperate” he’s perceived as “a total catch.”

Make sense? Not that we’re all perceived as desperate when our cab light is truly on… women I mean – but it is tougher if we’re ready to settle down.

]]> By: Katiehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/08/06/can-he-commit/#comment-2710 Katie Wed, 06 Aug 2008 22:44:08 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=865#comment-2710 I don't know, I think this theory can apply to both women and men. There have been times where my cab light has been off, blinking, and on. Right now, I think it is still blinking, but I am not sure. I don’t know, I think this theory can apply to both women and men. There have been times where my cab light has been off, blinking, and on. Right now, I think it is still blinking, but I am not sure.

]]> By: mssinglemamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/08/06/can-he-commit/#comment-2709 mssinglemama Wed, 06 Aug 2008 22:43:33 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=865#comment-2709 Alexis - well, now that you know about the "Cab Light" might help ... I hope : ) So hard when the non-cab light man is the father. Same here. Shannon - Mine is totally OFF - well, goes day by day I guess. Today it's semi-on, tomorrow could be OFF again - need to wait until it's on at least 4 days out of 7! Solo Mama - totally, wanted to write that myself actually. What if it's on and then it turns off or fades into a flicker? Pisces Hanna - Funny - headlights - LOL. Kit - LOVE your analogy - idling and running out of gas. Awesome point. Goin Crazy - Yes, always "Us" never "Me" - makes it hard for me to figure out what I want though. Hence this blog and my constant ramblings. Alexis – well, now that you know about the “Cab Light” might help … I hope : ) So hard when the non-cab light man is the father. Same here.

Shannon – Mine is totally OFF – well, goes day by day I guess. Today it’s semi-on, tomorrow could be OFF again – need to wait until it’s on at least 4 days out of 7!

Solo Mama – totally, wanted to write that myself actually. What if it’s on and then it turns off or fades into a flicker?

Pisces Hanna – Funny – headlights – LOL.

Kit – LOVE your analogy – idling and running out of gas. Awesome point.

Goin Crazy – Yes, always “Us” never “Me” – makes it hard for me to figure out what I want though. Hence this blog and my constant ramblings.

]]> By: goin-crazyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/08/06/can-he-commit/#comment-2708 goin-crazy Wed, 06 Aug 2008 17:58:39 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=865#comment-2708 Timing is an important part of any relationship. I may meet the man of my dreams one of these days. He may be perfect is way, shape and form. But is he ready to pay bills? Share a house? Take care of 2 kids that he did not create? Be a role model? He may be ready for me but not for the us. In my life, there is no me, just an us. Timing is an important part of any relationship. I may meet the man of my dreams one of these days. He may be perfect is way, shape and form. But is he ready to pay bills? Share a house? Take care of 2 kids that he did not create? Be a role model? He may be ready for me but not for the us. In my life, there is no me, just an us.

]]> By: kit4realhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/08/06/can-he-commit/#comment-2707 kit4real Wed, 06 Aug 2008 15:27:09 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=865#comment-2707 I think timing is crucial. You could meet the "perfect" guy that meets all your expectations; and he "not" be ready for a committed relationship and you're already in that mode, mentally and emotionally. So it is best to let someone like that go unless you are willing to put your own life into 'idle' mode while you wait to see if they "turn their light on." I think this analogy is great. Just hope if someone "idles" they don't run out of gas while they sit waiting for what may never happen. :) I think timing is crucial. You could meet the “perfect” guy that meets all your expectations; and he “not” be ready for a committed relationship and you’re already in that mode, mentally and emotionally. So it is best to let someone like that go unless you are willing to put your own life into ‘idle’ mode while you wait to see if they “turn their light on.” I think this analogy is great. Just hope if someone “idles” they don’t run out of gas while they sit waiting for what may never happen. :)

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