A letter to my future husband.

by mssinglemama on July 21, 2008

This could be a letter to no body. To the air. To the moon. To whoever is listening. Because I may never get married again. But I just felt like writing a love letter to somebody … so why not him?

He who is a distant figment of my imagination but maybe if I start envisioning myself in a relationship I can move closer to ditching that baggage.

Dear Mr. Husband Man:

I know you’re out there.

I might be 86 by the time we meet, but at least we will have finally found each other. I can feel you if I shut my eyes tight enough. I know you will love me like no one ever has. I know you will understand me. You’ll help me open myself up, let myself go. I think your patience will compliment my impulsiveness. You’ll be the calm to my storm and I to yours.


It exists.

I’ve seen it. Have you? Or have you just seen glimmers of it? You must believe in it though because you’re my future husband and that’s a job requirement – one of the reasons why I’ll love you so much.

The magic will be even easier when you meet Benjamin. Once you do you’ll understand why I told you on our first date that he needed to happen.

He is my everything. His eyes. His nose. His heart.

Every little piece of him started in my soul and now all of those little pieces are walking around – talking, hugging, loving and laughing – a bright and beautiful little boy with a soul of his own. And I made him! I’ll probably remind you of this often and make fun of you because you can’t make one. You’ll laugh and then maybe I’ll decide to make more … with your help.

So…where are you? When are you going to pop into my life? How is it going to happen? Will we ever even meet?

I wonder what you’re doing right now?

It’s a Monday night.

You’re probably home. Working on something. I think you like to work a lot…or maybe you’ve finished working and you’re reading, writing or creating before you crawl into bed.

I also wanted to tell you that I’m not ready to meet you yet. Almost… but not quite. I’m working on it. I am dating but I won’t settle for anything less than – you. And when we do find each other (just a heads up) I’m sure I’ll ask you out.

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{ 35 comments… read them below or add one }

jonathan July 22, 2008 at 2:46 am



bug56 July 22, 2008 at 3:55 am

Bittersweet… I Love it.


noarmsjames July 22, 2008 at 4:00 am

haha great!


Dawn July 22, 2008 at 8:48 am

That was great.


jonb July 22, 2008 at 9:24 am

Watch “Across the Universe,” I think it may be the best love story i have ever seen. And it is a phenominal work of art.


Katherine July 22, 2008 at 9:52 am

Amazing… and I think you have read my mind, or at least heard my prayers :)


pajama momma July 22, 2008 at 10:45 am


so romantic


littlemansmom July 22, 2008 at 11:07 am

damn…where’d I put that box of tissues….*sniff*


Jessee July 22, 2008 at 11:20 am

I’ll join the rest of the teary-eyed folks…


Alexis July 22, 2008 at 11:40 am

Yup, gotta tear….Sounds like it came from my heart. Magic- we all gotta believe!


T July 22, 2008 at 11:55 am

Wonderful! I think its good that you know you’re not ready yet. Things always happen when you’re not ready yet… (but you really ARE!)


minnesotameetskarnataka July 22, 2008 at 12:41 pm

Great letter!

Half the battle seems to be knowing what you want.

I also agree with T-sometimes things do happen when you think you aren’t ready.


Atomic Punk July 22, 2008 at 1:18 pm

You will feel the pull most when you are truly ready. You will be inexorably drawn to that person; wherever he may be. You will meet and you will know.

That’s what happened for me at least. We were engaged four months later.

Now we’re getting divorced.


(That’s the big tuba making the sound big tubas make in cartoons and bad comedy routines).


mssinglemama July 22, 2008 at 1:51 pm

A – Punk:

Been there, done that myself. Never again will I marry someone after less than 2 years of engagement – don’t care who they are.

Had to respond to that one.

And I can’t believe I made you all teary eyed … I guess this is pretty romantic. I’m already getting love e-mails. Guys, if you’re going to send me a sweet e-mail, please keep out any reference to how hot you are. That’s just gross. I don’t care.


J-Fo July 22, 2008 at 2:05 pm

A-punk is a buzz kill. I’ll never see a chick-flick with A-punk!! :) Great post!


Liz July 22, 2008 at 2:33 pm

Absolutely love it.


lifeinthesack July 22, 2008 at 3:51 pm

great post! you should watch Practical Magic. I’m trying to start a network of people in the blogging sphere that are in a similar space, male and female alike. A space that encourages us to keep growing so we can become closer to who we want to be and in turn eventually be more prepared for when/if that mr or ms right comes along. care to join?


George July 22, 2008 at 3:53 pm

My god! That has to be one of the sweetest things I have ever read. Oh Mr. Husband Man is out there for your alright! And when you find each other, he just better thank his lucky stars to found his princess!


marchmommy July 22, 2008 at 4:21 pm

Oh thank you for writing that, it was amazing, especially the part about Benjamin…priceless.
You have inspired me, I think I will go write my own letter…only it’s gonna be private until Mr. Right comes along!
Thank you!


modernsinglemomma July 22, 2008 at 5:32 pm

You get ready honey, because once you put something out there, the Universe sets its wheels in motion to deliver. I”m not kidding. This was a rockn’ post, and the only thing not bringing that man to your door right now is the disclaimer at the end that you aren’t quite ready yet.
Let me just tell you that its very wierd, magic and wonderful the way the universe works. I wasn’t ready for the longest time to meet someone I could fall in love with. Then one day I was, I felt the shift inside and did a spontaneous prayer for a man who ” Spiritually grounds me, mentally excites and uplifts me and physically makes me want to rip his clothes off with my teeth.”
Literally the next day my love affair with the man in Moselely began and its just gotten sweeter over the past month.
You be careful now…you are definitely summoning your future husband. He is out there and just waiting or you to lift that disclaimer on the timing ;)


tanzheike July 22, 2008 at 6:44 pm
HIP_M0M July 23, 2008 at 8:49 am

This is fabulous – and the first post of yours that I’ve read. I look forward to sharing your posts with my readers and I hope you might do the same.


Ms. Single Mama July 23, 2008 at 9:39 am

Life in the Sack – of course! What’s your URL?

George – that was the sweetest comment ever – thank you!

Liz & J-Fo – you two rock, glad you liked it.

Morgan – (Modern Single Momma) – did you read my latest post. Just got a free offer to try Match.com, not sure if that’s what you’re talking about – but now I’m totally freaking out. Because no, I am NOT ready. So I’m keeping that line in there…

Hip_Mom – I’ll check out your site, thanks.


Melissa July 23, 2008 at 10:02 am

Love it! Girl, come on over and share your stories with us at SingleSisterhood.com

One of the best benefits to the free Single Sister Sign-Inis, in tradition of women throughout time and culture, we share our stories, for they unite, enlighten and empower us. Through our stories of love and life we learn we are not alone.


SeriouslyKaren July 23, 2008 at 10:20 am

I love this. And eventually I’d love to see his response :)


QTMama July 23, 2008 at 10:37 am

*nodding* I need to borrow this letter for myself, I think.


OneManThreeKids July 25, 2008 at 5:44 pm

This rocks!

Reminds me of the letters I wrote to my potential kids before I was ever married. I did it after a woman I dated and got pregnant. She decided to have an abortion against my wishes. At the time I thought she was robbing me of my chance to have kids, a family. I showed them to my oldest a few months back and she was touched of the things I visioned about her, what we would do together.

Is it true that if you can dream it, you can obtain it?


cisforcow July 29, 2008 at 2:05 pm

you couldn’t have worded it more perfectly


lifeinthesack July 31, 2008 at 10:39 am

Sorry it took me so long to get back to you, the internet was down for a few days My URL is http://lifeinthesack.wordpress.com I look forward to hearing from you!


sheng February 15, 2009 at 2:46 am

i truly love this letter … it seems that what's on your mind is what's on my mind too…
all single moms will truly love this…

we'll wait for our future husband then… :)


Janet April 7, 2009 at 9:54 pm

Oh wow, this is so beautiful! You really ARE a romantic, aren't you? :)


cibele September 10, 2009 at 8:26 pm

lovely lovely letter. I still believe that there is someody for me as well!


Levi'smama August 10, 2011 at 1:26 am

it truly is a blessing i have found your blog. your words really pull my heart strings. i could make a river with the tears this one brought, you are such a inspiration.


SavoredLife February 18, 2012 at 1:13 pm

Hmmmm…. ;)


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