Comments on: Baggage check: I won’t let myself fall in love. http://mssinglemama.com/2008/07/12/baggage-check-i-wont-let-myself-fall-in-love/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:59:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: A Single Mom’s Guide to Finding a Manperson | Ms. Single Mamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/07/12/baggage-check-i-wont-let-myself-fall-in-love/#comment-24424 A Single Mom’s Guide to Finding a Manperson | Ms. Single Mama Tue, 04 Jan 2011 14:34:10 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=604#comment-24424 [...] Recognize that you have baggage. And own that baggage. It’s yours, not [...] [...] Recognize that you have baggage. And own that baggage. It’s yours, not [...]

]]> By: michinmiahsmommyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/07/12/baggage-check-i-wont-let-myself-fall-in-love/#comment-20611 michinmiahsmommy Thu, 30 Sep 2010 15:57:08 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=604#comment-20611 I THINK THE HARDEST PART TO THIS WHOLE THING IS TO BE OPEN TO THINGS. I HAVE BEEN A SINGLE MOM FOR ABOUT 6 MONTHS AND I HAVE MET THE GOOD THE BAD AND THEE UGLIEST OF MEN. I AM NOT JUST TALKING LOOKS EITHER. SOME HAVE TRIED TO SWEEP ME OFF MY FEET AND SOME JUST THOUGHT THEY COULD TALK ME OFF MY FEET. I HAVE SEEN AND HEARD A LOT OF GAME IN MY LIFE MY X HUSBAND WAS THE VERY BEST AT THE GAMES. SO THERE IS NOT TOO MUCH THAT GETS PASS ME. BUT I JUST WISH I WERE MORE OPEN. A LIFE LONG FRIEND OF MINES WANTS TO TRY AND HAVE AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP BUT I JUST THINK "GROSS, U WANT TO BUY A HOUSE AND MOVE ME AND THE KIDS CLOSER TO YOUR WORK" I DONT THINK SO. I CAN NOT SEE MYSELF BEING A WIFE AGAIN EVEN THOUGH I REALLY WANT TO BE A WIFE AGAIN ONE DAY.BUT COOKING AND CLEANING FOR ANOTHER MAN AND BELIEVING IN HIS DREAMS AND TRYING TO ACCOMPLISH MINES IS NOT WHAT I AM ON RIGHT NOW. I WISH ALL THE MR. RIGHTS WOULD JUST SLOW DOWN BECAUSE AS FAR AS RELATIONSHIPS GO I AM NOT READY TO COMMIT AND I DO NOT THINK ANYONE SHOULD TRY TO CHANGE THAT. I THINK THE HARDEST PART TO THIS WHOLE THING IS TO BE OPEN TO THINGS. I HAVE BEEN A SINGLE MOM FOR ABOUT 6 MONTHS AND I HAVE MET THE GOOD THE BAD AND THEE UGLIEST OF MEN. I AM NOT JUST TALKING LOOKS EITHER. SOME HAVE TRIED TO SWEEP ME OFF MY FEET AND SOME JUST THOUGHT THEY COULD TALK ME OFF MY FEET. I HAVE SEEN AND HEARD A LOT OF GAME IN MY LIFE MY X HUSBAND WAS THE VERY BEST AT THE GAMES. SO THERE IS NOT TOO MUCH THAT GETS PASS ME. BUT I JUST WISH I WERE MORE OPEN. A LIFE LONG FRIEND OF MINES WANTS TO TRY AND HAVE AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP BUT I JUST THINK “GROSS, U WANT TO BUY A HOUSE AND MOVE ME AND THE KIDS CLOSER TO YOUR WORK” I DONT THINK SO. I CAN NOT SEE MYSELF BEING A WIFE AGAIN EVEN THOUGH I REALLY WANT TO BE A WIFE AGAIN ONE DAY.BUT COOKING AND CLEANING FOR ANOTHER MAN AND BELIEVING IN HIS DREAMS AND TRYING TO ACCOMPLISH MINES IS NOT WHAT I AM ON RIGHT NOW. I WISH ALL THE MR. RIGHTS WOULD JUST SLOW DOWN BECAUSE AS FAR AS RELATIONSHIPS GO I AM NOT READY TO COMMIT AND I DO NOT THINK ANYONE SHOULD TRY TO CHANGE THAT.

]]> By: Flyinghttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/07/12/baggage-check-i-wont-let-myself-fall-in-love/#comment-14151 Flying Fri, 06 Nov 2009 11:17:43 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=604#comment-14151 [...] The gum leads me to thinking about anger and why we harbor it, why we carry hatred around with us like a heavy bag, like a tasteless and old nasty piece of gum. Not just single moms, but people in general. Why is it so damn hard to drop that baggage? [...] [...] The gum leads me to thinking about anger and why we harbor it, why we carry hatred around with us like a heavy bag, like a tasteless and old nasty piece of gum. Not just single moms, but people in general. Why is it so damn hard to drop that baggage? [...]

]]> By: Precious68http://mssinglemama.com/2008/07/12/baggage-check-i-wont-let-myself-fall-in-love/#comment-12092 Precious68 Wed, 19 Aug 2009 08:11:16 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=604#comment-12092 It was a loveless marriage, married for the wrong reasons which result to abusive and unhealthy marriage for me ... I have lost 8 years of my life having sexless nights close to life span I never had perfect 'O' in my life. Only consolation was i had a child in my second year of marriage. There were no affection, hugs or even kisses in the marriage - ok so this is a weird marriage made in hell... so there you go... we are from Asean country the east and generally traditional and enclosed society...which only makes it worst. So coming out from the marriage elevate my self worth and values not to mention it really safe me and my daughter from such detrimental situation.. I am so liberated and truly happy... I am FREE!!! I have not missed anything in the past yet now in need for someone special to make me a complete woman! But first, I am enjoying my singlehood and dating few men online from all four corners of the world lol ... Looking back, what baggage do you carry? I never exposed this to my online dates... Though I am financially independent but I have mortgage, credit cards and debts to settle in many more moons to come... I am also taking care of my aging parent living with me. Without their love and support I wouldn't be where I am today... My daughter 7 yo, has grown to be matured young lady always keeps me grounded. Finally little must I say, my ex does gives a hell of shocker or two each time his turn on visitation every week.... These are the baggages I am facing till the day I drop... My only hope if there is anyone who loves me he has better be fully aware and understand my standing and hopefully able to help me reduce my load (emotionally, morally and financially it will be a bonus) ... high tolerances, respect and love are must in sustaining a relationship. Seriously I really think I need to drop one or two if not all baggage I am carrying now before engaging into new relationship, I just have no idea how to do it? It was a loveless marriage, married for the wrong reasons which result to abusive and unhealthy marriage for me … I have lost 8 years of my life having sexless nights close to life span I never had perfect ‘O’ in my life. Only consolation was i had a child in my second year of marriage. There were no affection, hugs or even kisses in the marriage – ok so this is a weird marriage made in hell… so there you go… we are from Asean country the east and generally traditional and enclosed society…which only makes it worst. So coming out from the marriage elevate my self worth and values not to mention it really safe me and my daughter from such detrimental situation.. I am so liberated and truly happy… I am FREE!!! I have not missed anything in the past yet now in need for someone special to make me a complete woman!

But first, I am enjoying my singlehood and dating few men online from all four corners of the world lol … Looking back, what baggage do you carry? I never exposed this to my online dates… Though I am financially independent but I have mortgage, credit cards and debts to settle in many more moons to come… I am also taking care of my aging parent living with me. Without their love and support I wouldn’t be where I am today… My daughter 7 yo, has grown to be matured young lady always keeps me grounded. Finally little must I say, my ex does gives a hell of shocker or two each time his turn on visitation every week…. These are the baggages I am facing till the day I drop… My only hope if there is anyone who loves me he has better be fully aware and understand my standing and hopefully able to help me reduce my load (emotionally, morally and financially it will be a bonus) … high tolerances, respect and love are must in sustaining a relationship.

Seriously I really think I need to drop one or two if not all baggage I am carrying now before engaging into new relationship, I just have no idea how to do it?

]]> By: isishttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/07/12/baggage-check-i-wont-let-myself-fall-in-love/#comment-11084 isis Fri, 17 Jul 2009 00:15:48 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=604#comment-11084 What is my Babbage? what that hell is that. Babbage is a person last name. My simple understanding with love is that . IF it hurt it isn't LOVE. YOU HEART NEVER BREAK BUT YOUR EGO DOES. All the love is available to us right now. BECOME WHAT YOU LOOKING FOR : IF YOU WANT LOVE, BECOME LOVING. WE ARE THE RESULT OF WHAT WE LOOKING FOR.. YEAH HOW POWERFUL IS THAT. Every men/women that you ever met were a preparation for the next one. cheers ! What is my Babbage? what that hell is that.
Babbage is a person last name.
My simple understanding with love is that .
IF it hurt it isn’t LOVE.
YOU HEART NEVER BREAK BUT YOUR EGO DOES.
All the love is available to us right now.
BECOME WHAT YOU LOOKING FOR : IF YOU WANT LOVE, BECOME LOVING.
WE ARE THE RESULT OF WHAT WE LOOKING FOR.. YEAH
HOW POWERFUL IS THAT.
Every men/women that you ever met were a preparation for the next one.
cheers !

]]> By: Old habits.http://mssinglemama.com/2008/07/12/baggage-check-i-wont-let-myself-fall-in-love/#comment-6866 Old habits. Sun, 22 Feb 2009 15:23:09 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=604#comment-6866 [...] so different as well. She’s an eternal romantic while I’m a bit of a jaded cynic who protects my heart to a fault (sometimes). But while I know nothing about true love I do know quite a bit about [...] [...] so different as well. She’s an eternal romantic while I’m a bit of a jaded cynic who protects my heart to a fault (sometimes). But while I know nothing about true love I do know quite a bit about [...]

]]> By: A new frontier. | better-dating.orghttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/07/12/baggage-check-i-wont-let-myself-fall-in-love/#comment-4332 A new frontier. | better-dating.org Mon, 10 Nov 2008 14:18:39 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=604#comment-4332 [...] even uttering the word relationship makes my arm hairs stand on end, not out of joy but out of fear - I’ve decided to do some research. After all, it’s been years since I’ve been in [...] [...] even uttering the word relationship makes my arm hairs stand on end, not out of joy but out of fear – I’ve decided to do some research. After all, it’s been years since I’ve been in [...]

]]> By: A new frontier.http://mssinglemama.com/2008/07/12/baggage-check-i-wont-let-myself-fall-in-love/#comment-4322 A new frontier. Mon, 10 Nov 2008 03:16:41 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=604#comment-4322 [...] even uttering the word relationship makes my arm hairs stand on end, not out of joy but out of fear - I’ve decided to do some research. After all, it’s been years since I’ve been in [...] [...] even uttering the word relationship makes my arm hairs stand on end, not out of joy but out of fear – I’ve decided to do some research. After all, it’s been years since I’ve been in [...]

]]> By: A love song?http://mssinglemama.com/2008/07/12/baggage-check-i-wont-let-myself-fall-in-love/#comment-2978 A love song? Fri, 29 Aug 2008 23:32:08 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=604#comment-2978 [...] on my fight to let myself fall in love (as a single mom that’s easier said than done) read “Baggage Check: I Won’t Let Myself Fall in Love”. The comments alone made this post one of the [...] [...] on my fight to let myself fall in love (as a single mom that’s easier said than done) read “Baggage Check: I Won’t Let Myself Fall in Love”. The comments alone made this post one of the [...]

]]> By: How to date a single mom, part 4 | Ms. Single Mamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/07/12/baggage-check-i-wont-let-myself-fall-in-love/#comment-2768 How to date a single mom, part 4 | Ms. Single Mama Wed, 13 Aug 2008 02:02:56 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=604#comment-2768 [...] met at a bar. I called him after writing my baggage post which stirred up all kinds of Kris memories. But by the time he got there my sickness, which had [...] [...] met at a bar. I called him after writing my baggage post which stirred up all kinds of Kris memories. But by the time he got there my sickness, which had [...]

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