Comments on: Flatten Your Fear & Win a Flat Iron!

By: Brittany

Brittany — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 05:47:14 +0000

Haha I didn't realize this was ACTUALLY from 2008. How funny that it showed up on the first page today? Maybe I clicked on something inadvertently?? Anyway, it's still the truth, and it never hurts to put that in writing. Positive affirmations!

By: Brittany

Brittany — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 05:43:26 +0000

First, am I too late? According to my calendar, July 27, 2008 was some time ago . . .

; )

My biggest fear is that I will not be able to provide for my son WITHOUT getting hitched to the first man who shows (or showed, rather) an interest in doing just that.

My solution?

Lawyer up! I'm starting law school this fall and my singular goal is to provide a kick-ass life for my son. (And ok, to buy a pony. Childhood dreams die hard, is all I'm saying.) Frankly, though, the potential financial benefits hold a distant second to the absolute thrill I got when I prepared my divorce papers (and my ex's, for that matter) ALL BY MYSELF. I've always been fiercely independent, but that was a new high.

Bottom line, I do think I'll get married again (or at least enter into a domestic partnership), but it will have nothing to do with finding a provider. Maybe instead I'll look for someone willing to stay home while I bring in the big bucks. I've never been a very good cook anyway . . .

By: Flatten Your Fear Contest Winners! « Ms. Single Mama

Flatten Your Fear Contest Winners! « Ms. Single Mama — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 01:53:44 +0000

[...] Flatten Your Fear Contest Winners! Posted on June 29, 2008 by mssinglemama This was so hard! My fear this week has been trying to choose a winner of my Flatten Your Fear & Win a Flat Iron Contest. [...]

By: mssinglemama

mssinglemama — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 12:32:23 +0000

Contest entries are closed everyone!! But feel free to leave comments in response to some of these fears, I’ll leave the comments open.

This will be so incredibly hard to judge. I want to give each of you a flat iron and a giant hug for entering and for being so honest. Each one of these has really either moved me to tears, made me laugh or opened my eyes to a different frame of mind about this single mom thing.

By: singleworkingmommy

singleworkingmommy — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 03:10:50 +0000

Sliding in during the Nth hour… I wrote a post about it. The post was eye-opening to even me, so thanks for forcing me to think/write about it.

http://singleworkingmommy.wordpress.com/2008/06/28/my-worst-fear/

By: Emily

Emily — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 02:34:33 +0000

My fear is a fear of being alone for the rest of my life. I like having a man in my life to share my life with. I think happiness multiplies when it is shared. I’m scarred that I will never meet someone who gets me, who understands me, and loves me for who I am. To conquer my fear, I am not going to try to over come it. Instead, I am going to try to be completely content with my life as it is. I am living the life I want without a man in it. Maybe I will meet someone who makes me happy and who loves me and who I love. Maybe I won’t. But I don’t want to spend my life worrying about it. I want to live my life, love it, and enjoy it. I don’t want to waste any of my life wishing it was different than it is. That is best for me and best for my daughter. I want her to see what a strong woman her mama is and see that her mama doesn’t need a man to save her or make her happy. My happiness shouldn’t be based on whether or not I have a man in my life.

By: hipchick

hipchick — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 17:20:21 +0000

My biggest fear, is the fear of abandonement. I have always known that there was a reason why I cannot make a relationship work and iInew it stemmed from my childhood but wasn’t really sure how it all came into play until recently. Therapy is how I am coping with this fear and recently my, wonderful therapist made this all make sense to me. It’s really hard to understand but now it is all clear. My mom left my father when I was eleven and I chose to stay with him because I thought I needed to, in order to take care of him, when actually my repressed feelings really wanted my mother to insist that I go with her. What this all boils down to is my mother basically abandoned me and now I have issues with men and relationships and no self worth. It is really hard to deal with and I hope and pray that through therapy and lots of money I can get this resolved for me and for my daughter. I never want her to be alone and face the challenges I’ve had to face in my life.

By: chris

chris — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 15:29:11 +0000

just like everyone else i fear that something will happen to me and my kids will be alone or that something will happen to them. i’ve got no strategy on how to conquer these fears i just accept them.

i do have a fear of big flying bugs. i live in the south and there are tons of gigantic flying roach/beetle/mutant prehistoric type bugs especially in the summer time. whenever i go outside they fly right at me – no one else, just me. sounds crazy, but it’s true. don’t know how to conquer the fear, but i do know how to conquer the bugs – adams flea and tick spray does the trick! i carry it with me everytime i go outside. those nasty evil bugs know i mean business now and this week i’ve only had two fly at me. R.I.P. freaky giant beetles. wow i’m silly today!

By: Krystine

Krystine — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 14:18:34 +0000

My biggest fear is that I will become like my mother….My mother was a very cold person towards me and I never felt loved or wanted. She made me work to pay for all of the things she should have supplied me like clothes and school supplies…which is fine however..whenever I would collect the money from my job I would be so happy and feel accomplished and I would hide it in a new place in my room…as always time after time my mother found the hiding place and stole my money..she received $1000 a month in child support from my father and I never saw a dime of it. I wasnt aloud to have new clothes or anything I needed…but she would spend so much on my siblings it always just really hurt me…she was emotionaly and physically abusive towards me and I am soo afraid of repeating this cycle. HOWEVER
..I am 6 months pregnant with my first and I am with a wonderful man (my hubby) whom I know will never let me be this way and I myself refused to let myself get to her level!! I am soo very excited to meet my baby and have more children, and I will be equally loving to each and never ever let myself abuse them the way my mother did me. I already love my baby and I cant wait to meet him and im just soo excited I know that this will keep me from letting myself become her. My children are my plan to conquer this fear!!

By: osolomama

osolomama — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 13:22:33 +0000

Hmm. Whoever said single parents are too (fill in your choice of stupid word here–immature, unstable, stressed out, pathetic) to think deeply and act responsibly toward their kids can go take a flying you-know. That’s what I get from these posts.