Flatten Your Fear & Win a Flat Iron!

by mssinglemama on June 21, 2008

We all have fears.

If you read my blog, you know I’ve got plenty. Namely my fear of commiting to the wrong guy, my fear of my ex-husband watching our son solo for 36 hours a week or his absence from our lives. I like to think I’ve come leaps and bounds in the past year in conquering them, but I still have a ways to go.

Now it’s your turn to step into the confessional.

Tell me about something that shakes you to your core. Maybe you’re afraid of snakes, men, other parents at the playground, your boss, pickles and bologna, your teenager, asking men out … I don’t care what it is. Describe your fear and then tell me how you are going to conquer it.

I’m hoping your comment will turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy. And the prize for spilling your guts? A Hana Salon ceramic flat iron ($199.00) courtesy of Misikko.com.

After reading my post reviewing their FHI Hair Dryer the nice people over at Misikko.com offered me two ceramic flat irons, one for myself and one for one of you! This flat iron is top of the line, and as my mom would say it’s – “Slicker than bat s*%T!” It’s light weight, comes in a snazzy black travel case and heats up in seconds. Read more about the flat iron here.

How to win:

1. Name your fear

2. Tell me your game plan to conquer your fear

First Place Prize:

A fabulous Hana Salon ceramic flat iron, valued at $199.99!!!

Second Place Prize:

A copy of Single Mom Seeking by Rachel Sarah.

Third Place Prize:

A copy of Accidentally on Purpose by Mary Pols.

Deadline:

I’ll take entries until Friday July 27, 2008.

Rules:

Be serious, funny or insightful, but above all – be honest. Leave your fear in the comment field. Bloggers- If you would like to enter this contest by writing your own post go ahead, just leave a link here. I’ll be judging the best entry … and guys, feel free to enter – I’m sure there’s a woman in your life who would kill for this flat iron.

Inspiration:

This amazing post by single dad Jim Everson on how he conquered his fear of swimming.

[Photo Credit: hattaway.co.nz]

Related posts:

  1. Will he call? On asking men out…flat out.
  2. Single Mama Beauty Tip #2

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Anna June 21, 2008 at 11:19 pm

I’m afraid something awful will happen to me and my son will be an orphan. (Do they even still call parentless children orphans anymore? I hope I never find out.) I’m even more terrified that something will happen to me and my son’s absent sperm donor will pop back up to claim him. Gives me chills just thinking about it. I’m not doing much about it though…the idea of going to a lawyer and drawing up a will to leave my son to my mother in the event of my death sort of freaks me out. Yuck.

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Chad June 21, 2008 at 11:29 pm

Well, I am certainly not interested in any of your prizes unless flatiron means a really good steak. Just looking through blogs and saw your fear of commitment. Actualy, after reading further…..I noticed you have a fear of your ex watching your child for more than a day and also a fear of him not being there. I am a single dad and I have my son three days a week. My son is a little over 2.5. One of my biggest fears is to not be there or have hime here. I think being a dad is natural, its life choices that catch up and make it difficult. Anyways, my biggest fear is sharks. I have a recurring nightmare of being trapped in water with a bunch of huge great white sharks swimming around me. They never bite but I am terrified anyway. As far as commitment goes……Its normal to be afraid after a failed relationship. If you are anything like me, you are pouring yourself into anything but new relationships. Hence, the blog. I wish you the best of luck.

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Debbie June 21, 2008 at 11:48 pm

After leaving my husband of 7 years, my greatest fear was not being able to make it on my own. And, frankly, I didn’t. My son and I lived with my parents and they paid for my divorce (more than $100K!, which I’m paying back a little at a time). But, after 2.5 years of healing and getting back to me – I decided I needed to challenge myself. So I applied for an amazing job on the West Coast – and got it! I just moved and am overwhelmed by the cost of living/finding a school. As an aside – I’m now making the same amount of money I was 10 years ago before my marriage… so essentially I’m starting ALL OVER. And yes, my fear is that I won’t be able to handle city living as a solo mom. What am I doing to get over my fear? Well, I’m holding my nose and diving into the deep end with the confidence that I am brave (I left my husband) and smart (I had a kick-ass career before I met my ex) and that my deep and abiding faith (which I found real relief and refuge in during these past two+ years) will sustain us. Unlike in my 20s when I was w/o a child or a relationship, I could make a gazzilion mistakes – and I would beat myself up. Now at the age of 41 with the responsibilities of raising an amazing little man – I know that mistakes happen – but the beauty of it is the mistakes I make today aren’t as big because of the past mistakes and lessons I have learned. I’ll bite off a little everyday until I’ve mastered it. I’ll give myself a break – and ask for help when I need it. And I’ll try to remain optimistic…

Oh and I’ll pray!

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shannon June 22, 2008 at 9:59 am

I’m horrified of two major things. And I’m going to blog about them. The thought of writing this post even scares me. But I’m going to do it. Come on over to my blog and check it out.

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osolomama June 22, 2008 at 12:01 pm

I have two fears. Like Anna, I fear that something might happen to me and I will make my daughter an orphan AGAIN (she is adopted from China); the other is that by some fluke or happenstance, she might not find something soul-fulfilling to do with her life.

At the root of these fears is the only fear there is–loss of control–the fear that no matter what I do, it might not work out as planned. Yes, I might die. So I have to take care of myself. Yes, she might be left parentless, so my daughter needs someone to step into that role without hesitation should the unthinkable happen. You can plan for all that but you can’t control how it all works out when you’re six feet under. OK, so that’s fear #1.

Fear #2. I have no fear of my daughter becoming a teen or giving me the “look” (at 11, it’s already happened) or wandering this world without me. But I do worry about something stupid killing her curiosity and drive. A bad or obsessive relationship that suddenly makes her forget about herself? Doesn’t look the obsessive type, but if it should happen, please, God, make it quick. . .with no long-term consequences. What about some nitwit telling her she doesn’t have the __________ make it in ____________? What if she tries and fails? What if she can’t get up again? What if I can’t do anything about it? What if, what if. . .

So what to do. Well, I don’t dwell on this stuff 95% of the time because it makes you insane. Second, I try to teach her to think about her choices. We talk a lot about what it means to have work to do that you love. We also talk about setbacks and what they mean–I talk about mine too. I try to nurture her current career interest (being a chef) without turning it into a compulsory destination because when mommy wants it for you, it isn’t the same thing.

Right now as I write this, my daughter is playing hide-and-seek with three friends. She is kneeling beside my computer table and just reached out to pat my leg, as if to say, “No one but you knows I’m here.” So there’s my fear in a nutshell! No one else knows this child like I do. But one day she’ll have to make that landing stick all by herself.

This was a wonderful exercise, Ms. Single Mama. Thank you!

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Naomi June 22, 2008 at 2:48 pm

I am afraid that I am going to give my daughter and son the same weird insecurities and phobias that I have. I fear being too mean sometimes. I am afraid that my husband will never get his act together financially and that I will have to do something about it. Too many fears!

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Ms. Single Mama June 22, 2008 at 3:20 pm

These are awesome everyone – but to qualify for the contest you have to describe, as best as you can, how you plan on defeating your fear.

If you want to edit a previous comment – just leave another one.

Good luck!!! And keep those fears coming. : )

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April June 22, 2008 at 5:02 pm

I’m afraid I’ll die while my little one is still young and she won’t know anything about me. I’ve already talked to my girl’s dad just in case this ever happens and we’ve promised to share great memories with her in the event that she loses a parent while she’s young.

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osolomama June 22, 2008 at 7:50 pm

OK, here’s my post with THE PLAN.

I have two fears. Like Anna, I fear that something might happen to me and I will make my daughter an orphan AGAIN (she is adopted from China); the other is that by some fluke or happenstance, she might not find something soul-fulfilling to do with her life.

At the root of these fears is the only fear there is–loss of control–the fear that no matter what I do, it might not work out as planned. Yes, I might die. So I have to take care of myself. Yes, she might be left parentless, so my daughter needs someone to step into that role without hesitation should the unthinkable happen. You can plan for all that but you can’t control how it all works out when you’re six feet under. OK, so that’s fear #1.

THE PLAN
1. Stay healthy and keep medical appt’s–body, teeth, bones, etc.
2. Switch my life insurance to my alma mater plan, where I can get more $$ for less $$.
3. Talk to my daughter. She needs to know that if something happens to me, it will be awful but she will be safe. I’ll fess up: we have never had this conversation. My bad.
4. Check in with the designated guardian to ensure that he is still comfortable with an arrangement we made 10 years ago. His life has changed too. Pledges you made a decade ago have a habit of galloping into the horizon.

Fear #2. I have no fear of my daughter becoming a teen or giving me the “look” (at 11, it’s already happened) or wandering this world without me. But I do worry about something stupid killing her curiosity and drive. A bad or obsessive relationship that suddenly makes her forget about herself? Doesn’t look the obsessive type, but if it should happen, please, God, make it quick. . .with no long-term consequences. What about some nitwit telling her she doesn’t have the __________ make it in ____________? What if she tries and fails? What if she can’t get up again? What if I can’t do anything about it? What if, what if. . .

THE PLAN
1. Refuse to dwell on this stuff for too long because it makes you insane.
2. Teach my daughter to think about her choices. Well, I already do that–don’t know if it counts.
3. Keep talking about what it means to have work to do that you love.
4. Explain that setbacks are inevitable. Failure is just an opportunity to learn more about yourself.
5. Nurture my daughter’s career longings without making it a family affair. That means shutting up my mouth when she comes home from junior chef’s school and says it was either wildly good or bad. Almost impossible to do, but I’ll try.

Right now as I write this, my daughter is playing hide-and-seek with three friends. She is kneeling beside my computer table and just reached out to pat my leg, as if to say, “No one but you knows I’m here.” So there’s my fear in a nutshell! No one else knows this child like I do. But one day she’ll have to make that landing stick all by herself.

This was a wonderful exercise, Ms. Single Mama. Thank you!

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Oakland Mama June 22, 2008 at 10:26 pm

Hi Ms Single Mama and Friends…Thanks for an inspirational and thought-provoking blog.

As any parent, my biggest fear is that something will happen to my children. But as a recently-singled mama, I’ve been doing a lot of soul-searching about relationship fears and why we are (many of us) afraid to be alone. Splitting with my spouse of 10 yrs scared me to death. Several months later, I still find myself thinking it would be better to be in that angry, passionless marriage than be alone. I have asked myself time and again WHY I would rather be unhappy than be alone and it comes down to fear.

I am terrified of never again feeling the safe, secure and confident feeling I had when I believed that he and I were together forever.

How do I get past that? I write, I read books, I read and interact with other mamas on blogs like this. And I recently made a bet with my hair dresser that I’d go on at least one date before my next cut and color…which may explain why my roots look so bad right now.

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tidemon June 23, 2008 at 4:01 am

Well, dear MSM…
I am scared of flying bugs! Any kind flying bugs, such as bees, flies, cockroach, moth, and even birds!!! The funny part is that i am trying to be brave in front of the kids, but my heart is racing like crazy and i feel like peeing in my pant! Sorry about the info….
My plan has been to simply close my eyes until they go away, but it does not always work so easily when the kids are screaming and i am the one in charge of chasing them. Beurkkk!!

(just thinking about it makes me ‘beurk’, but i’m smiling about my silly actions…) =)

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Shannon June 23, 2008 at 9:59 am

I’m just making my plan more clear in my post. :) I think it’s there but I don’t want to be disqualified! My curly hair loves good flat irons!

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Alexis June 23, 2008 at 10:46 am

I’ve been trying to think about what my biggest fear is…and I’m thinking it’s the fear that I will never be in love again. I fear that the love of my life happened when I was 26, and maybe that was it. 5 years leter and I still haven’t felt anything even close. My son’s father was never a real love for me…he was an accidently on purpose person. I am a person that loves to be in love, however, I’m not even sure what that feels like anymore. I am trying to conquer this fear by learning to love myself by myself- and it is working but I understand it’s a process that takes time. I am also trying to be content with myself and my beautiful son only…meaning trying to think that falling in love with a man isn’t something I need. But man oh man do I want it…or maybe it’s the passion I want…and the intimacy i want too. Other than that, I’m not sure how else to conquer this fear. I’ve tried blocking it out- and it works most of the time. I do know that I have a lot of love to give to so many things and people.

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Lara Kretler June 23, 2008 at 11:55 am

I am terrified that I’ve missed my chance to be a mom. I am afraid of looking back on my life and having one huge regret – that I never had a child. I’m petrified that my father is right (again – he usually is, darn him!) and that my old age will be lonely, sad and meaningless without having been a mother. I’m afraid that without kids, someday my beloved husband could die before me, leaving me without a smaller version of him to love and spend the rest of my life with.

All this said, there’s not a whole lot I can do about it because I simply don’t know if having a baby is right for my husband and I. We’re on the fence about it and have been as long as we’ve known each other. We adore the kids in our life and love having them come visit and spend time with us, but we equally love when those kids go back to their own parents and families. We love our family of two – yes, we ARE a family even without kids, despite what my dad says. We adore our closeness and how crazy about each other we’re able to remain throughout the years, since our focus and devotion to each other is undiluted and unwavering.

This is my greatest fear. I wish I could have a crystal ball and look into the future to see a version of my life with a child, and a version of my current life continuing as is, so I would know the right answer. Alas, we don’t get a dress rehearsal for this thing called life.

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juler June 23, 2008 at 1:49 pm

I hope that i could get the cash value instead… I really need cash than the product you are saying… :)

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going-crazy June 23, 2008 at 5:05 pm
Niki P. June 23, 2008 at 9:46 pm

Well, my fears are unconquerble I think. I worry about my kids becoming ill. I take precautions short of putting them in a bubble. This is just life and I have no control over it.
As far as dating as a single parent- I have been doing it for 3 years now. When you stop looking, when you stop thinking that every man you meet is a potential date/boyfriend/husband- this is when you will meet your prince charming. His name might not be charming, he might not look like prince charming but he will be a good decent man that wants to be with you and take care of you and your son. Stop looking for him and he will eventually come into your life. I promise. Open your mind and your eyes and stop looking for him!! You will find each other and it wil be good. Just plain good.

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erinmaha05 June 23, 2008 at 11:08 pm

My biggest fear is NEVER GRADUATING COLLEGE. After high school, I went straight into a 2 year program for HR Management at a community college. I got pregnant the beginning of my 2nd year, and ended up changing my major to Medical Transcription. The father abused me and I haven’t seen him since I was 4 months pregnant, so here I am, a single mom struggling to even pay for college, let alone have time to study and work full time. I’m 21. I am not mature enough for this. haha. :) Anyway, I changed my major back to HR Management, but this last semester, I needed to work MORE so that I could pay my bills…..doing it alone was MUCH harder than I could’ve ever imagined. So I took all my classes online…8 of them, to be exact. I ended up not doing too well in one of them…..so, I dropped it so I wouldn’t get a failing grade. So…in August, I am going back to school for what should be one class, but I wouldn’t qualify for grants if I wasn’t a part time student, so I am really taking THREE classes, working full time, being the full time mommy/daddy and i pray to GOD i can finish this up. So then I can smile and say, it only took me 3 and a half years to finish my two year program. I seriously worry daily that I will never finish.

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erinmaha05 June 23, 2008 at 11:10 pm

PS obviously to overcome this fear, I am going to have work harder than ever to graduate in December. :) STUDY STUDY STUDY….work work work…..parent parent parent…..that’s my plan!!!!!!!!!

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pisceshanna June 24, 2008 at 12:31 pm

OMG I’m going to have to cowboy-up for this one. I’ll try to formulate it in my blog soon.

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Stephanie June 24, 2008 at 12:48 pm

Not being the mom I want to be for my son because of family baggage. PS – how do I win the hairdryer instead ? :)

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marchmommy June 25, 2008 at 8:20 am

I am terrified that I will never again be the free crazily happy person I was before I met my daughter’s father and she was conceived. Don’t get me wrong, I love my daughter very much and wouldn’t want my life to be without her, but so much unhappiness has been in my life since then that it’s hard to find my way back with all the new responsibility, isolation, and exhaustion. I really really hope the person who loved practical jokes and dancing like a maniac in the rain will be able to push through the mommyness and disappointment that is me now and reign again. I really miss her. And I want my daughter to know her.
How will I get back my old me? I don’t completely know yet. And I wonder if I WILL be able to return to to that carefree mindset completely with a child. Maybe the new old me will have to be a combination of both worlds.
My plan so far:
1. Laugh. A lot. At least as much as possible.
2. Wear mascara every day.
3. Immediately banish all thoughts of my ex, my family’s unsupportiveness, worries about the future–basically all negative thoughts. (easier said than done!).
4. Get my daughter to drink from a bottle so I can have a few hours to myself to be young and free again without having my boobs on call.
5. Sleep. Nuff said.
Here’s hoping I can be completely happy again someday!
Thanks mssinglemama for the nudge to write these fears down, I think it helps.

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Emily June 25, 2008 at 5:53 pm

What a great question! My greatest fear is that my son will grow up to be just like his father and grandfather. That my sweet, sensitive, inquisitive two-year old, who thanks people for everything and gives a thousand hugs, will transform, I won’t be able to stop it, and one day I’ll come home to find that the hole in the wall to patch is from him, or that he’s drunk, or that he broke his hand from punching something other than the wall.

So, my plan is a) to leave the house where my-soon to be ex and his father live (Done!) b) to surround my son with positive male role models (my dad, my brother, coaches, friends, who ever I can find as he grows older) c) to talk to him a lot about emotions and the dangers of alcohol abuse, and alcoholism running in the family, acceptable ways to deal with anger and stress, etc. d) to enroll him in sports programs as soon as he is old enough, so that he has an outlet for energy and stress, and finally e) to make sure that any other men I bring into his life through mine, either as friends or something more, are VERY positive role models also – cuz even though I’ve gotten really got with drywall patches after ten years, it never got any easier emotionally.

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pisceshanna June 26, 2008 at 3:45 pm
mommypie June 26, 2008 at 4:49 pm

Okay, first off, I’m with everyone else — the fear of something terrible happening to my daughter is the worst. Or me leaving her an orphan. It’s all been covered, and I honestly don’t know how to conquer them. I can do my best to keep her safe and not kick the bucket myself, but ultimately it’s out of my hands.

Truth? I’m afraid of the unseen. The Boogeyman. Spooks. The dark.

I’m afraid if I leave my shoes right side up, on the floor in my room at night, someone/thing will magically appear in them while I sleep. They absolutely canNOT be facing the bed or anywhere NEAR my head. God only KNOWS what could happen.

So, the shoes go in the closet. Which tackles two things at once — an irrational fear AND a messy bedroom.

Unless I throw a sweatshirt over them like a six-year-old from the safety of my bed. And then the messy solution doesn’t apply.

Have I mentioned Steven King and I are soul twins?

And I don’t EVEN want to go into my fear of leaving the stove on at night. I check that thing 50 times before going to bed. You’ll be happy to know I’m currently conquering THAT little fear with drugs. (The legal kind.) Yay!

And appropriately placed fire extinguishers.

OCD. It’s good to be crazy.

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Jessica June 27, 2008 at 1:28 am

I fear life. Not to live, but the fear of my life and where it is going. I have so many goals and aspirations for myself, when I was younger I had a path… I seriously had my life planned out.. be finished with undergraduate degree by 22, and starting law school at 23. Well. along the way, at 20 I was derailed- by a cute boy with a certain appeal. We ended up getting married and I was pregnant soon after. My life is now owned by the Air force, as my husband is currently serving under them.. and well I have to put my dreams and goals on hold at the moment. This strikes so much fear in me because I feel like I will never amount to anything, that I will just be a “susie home-maker” my whole life, which is not who I am on this inside. Don’t get me wrong, I love taking care of my family… but at times I just want to get back on track and look fear in the eyes and take what this life gives me. Maybe when I was younger, my path was to be a lawyer, but now my lives journey will have a different ending.. And how am I to know, I must put it all out on the line and say… come an get me life, I’m ready for whatever you’re dealing…….

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bunnyb June 27, 2008 at 4:57 am

Wow! What do I fear? Well, I guess right now it would be the death of my significant other and not having any money.

So my plan is to be happy always with my hubby and not make him stressed and be a burden to him. We can all try, right? :) And of course, save, save, save money!

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osolomama June 27, 2008 at 9:22 am

Hmm. Whoever said single parents are too (fill in your choice of stupid word here–immature, unstable, stressed out, pathetic) to think deeply and act responsibly toward their kids can go take a flying you-know. That’s what I get from these posts.

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Krystine June 27, 2008 at 10:18 am

My biggest fear is that I will become like my mother….My mother was a very cold person towards me and I never felt loved or wanted. She made me work to pay for all of the things she should have supplied me like clothes and school supplies…which is fine however..whenever I would collect the money from my job I would be so happy and feel accomplished and I would hide it in a new place in my room…as always time after time my mother found the hiding place and stole my money..she received $1000 a month in child support from my father and I never saw a dime of it. I wasnt aloud to have new clothes or anything I needed…but she would spend so much on my siblings it always just really hurt me…she was emotionaly and physically abusive towards me and I am soo afraid of repeating this cycle. HOWEVER
..I am 6 months pregnant with my first and I am with a wonderful man (my hubby) whom I know will never let me be this way and I myself refused to let myself get to her level!! I am soo very excited to meet my baby and have more children, and I will be equally loving to each and never ever let myself abuse them the way my mother did me. I already love my baby and I cant wait to meet him and im just soo excited I know that this will keep me from letting myself become her. My children are my plan to conquer this fear!!

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chris June 27, 2008 at 11:29 am

just like everyone else i fear that something will happen to me and my kids will be alone or that something will happen to them. i’ve got no strategy on how to conquer these fears i just accept them.

i do have a fear of big flying bugs. i live in the south and there are tons of gigantic flying roach/beetle/mutant prehistoric type bugs especially in the summer time. whenever i go outside they fly right at me – no one else, just me. sounds crazy, but it’s true. don’t know how to conquer the fear, but i do know how to conquer the bugs – adams flea and tick spray does the trick! i carry it with me everytime i go outside. those nasty evil bugs know i mean business now and this week i’ve only had two fly at me. R.I.P. freaky giant beetles. wow i’m silly today!

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hipchick June 27, 2008 at 1:20 pm

My biggest fear, is the fear of abandonement. I have always known that there was a reason why I cannot make a relationship work and iInew it stemmed from my childhood but wasn’t really sure how it all came into play until recently. Therapy is how I am coping with this fear and recently my, wonderful therapist made this all make sense to me. It’s really hard to understand but now it is all clear. My mom left my father when I was eleven and I chose to stay with him because I thought I needed to, in order to take care of him, when actually my repressed feelings really wanted my mother to insist that I go with her. What this all boils down to is my mother basically abandoned me and now I have issues with men and relationships and no self worth. It is really hard to deal with and I hope and pray that through therapy and lots of money I can get this resolved for me and for my daughter. I never want her to be alone and face the challenges I’ve had to face in my life.

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Emily June 27, 2008 at 10:34 pm

My fear is a fear of being alone for the rest of my life. I like having a man in my life to share my life with. I think happiness multiplies when it is shared. I’m scarred that I will never meet someone who gets me, who understands me, and loves me for who I am. To conquer my fear, I am not going to try to over come it. Instead, I am going to try to be completely content with my life as it is. I am living the life I want without a man in it. Maybe I will meet someone who makes me happy and who loves me and who I love. Maybe I won’t. But I don’t want to spend my life worrying about it. I want to live my life, love it, and enjoy it. I don’t want to waste any of my life wishing it was different than it is. That is best for me and best for my daughter. I want her to see what a strong woman her mama is and see that her mama doesn’t need a man to save her or make her happy. My happiness shouldn’t be based on whether or not I have a man in my life.

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singleworkingmommy June 27, 2008 at 11:10 pm

Sliding in during the Nth hour… I wrote a post about it. The post was eye-opening to even me, so thanks for forcing me to think/write about it.

http://singleworkingmommy.wordpress.com/2008/06/28/my-worst-fear/

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mssinglemama June 28, 2008 at 8:32 am

Contest entries are closed everyone!! But feel free to leave comments in response to some of these fears, I’ll leave the comments open.

This will be so incredibly hard to judge. I want to give each of you a flat iron and a giant hug for entering and for being so honest. Each one of these has really either moved me to tears, made me laugh or opened my eyes to a different frame of mind about this single mom thing.

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Brittany April 22, 2009 at 5:43 am

First, am I too late? According to my calendar, July 27, 2008 was some time ago . . .

; )

My biggest fear is that I will not be able to provide for my son WITHOUT getting hitched to the first man who shows (or showed, rather) an interest in doing just that.

My solution?

Lawyer up! I'm starting law school this fall and my singular goal is to provide a kick-ass life for my son. (And ok, to buy a pony. Childhood dreams die hard, is all I'm saying.) Frankly, though, the potential financial benefits hold a distant second to the absolute thrill I got when I prepared my divorce papers (and my ex's, for that matter) ALL BY MYSELF. I've always been fiercely independent, but that was a new high.

Bottom line, I do think I'll get married again (or at least enter into a domestic partnership), but it will have nothing to do with finding a provider. Maybe instead I'll look for someone willing to stay home while I bring in the big bucks. I've never been a very good cook anyway . . .

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Brittany April 22, 2009 at 5:47 am

Haha I didn't realize this was ACTUALLY from 2008. How funny that it showed up on the first page today? Maybe I clicked on something inadvertently?? Anyway, it's still the truth, and it never hurts to put that in writing. Positive affirmations!

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