Comments on: O’ Daddy, Where Art Thou?

By: Rosalyn

Rosalyn — Tue, 17 May 2011 06:28:57 +0000

I am a new single parent and I feel this way a lot…..It it sooo comforting to know I am not alone.

By: ashlynn2410

ashlynn2410 — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 05:21:39 +0000

I am new to this site and I have to tell you I have been sucked in… hard.. i love what i’m reading and i’m catching up but let me tell you it has been a breathe of fresh air to read. There comes a time when you feel like you are the only single mother out there and its nice to see i’m not going through things that someone else hasn’t! My Daughter did this with her babysitter’s husband, we are good friends outside of her watching “r” but when her husband would come home from work it was immediate DADDY! because she heard her son’s calling out to him. she also did this with my Brother in laws, her father is slightly absent meaning not consistatly in her life and thank god for the men in my life, my amazing father and my wonderful brothers in law… it is such a heartbreaking thing when they call out, but like you said you can’t force him to be involved. thank you for this blog it has been a godsend i just started reading two days ago and i will continue!

By: mslaura

mslaura — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 23:16:41 +0000

My 3 year old daughter does not know her dad. She had spent a week with him when she was born, another week before her first birthday, and a series of about 3 one hour visits when she was two. That is it and he has been completely out of the picture for over a year now. With that said she asks me where her daddy is and why she doesn’t have one. I don’t even know where he is, so how can I answer it. One time she even said her daddy was dead! She has gone through times where she called strangers dad and until now I thought I was the only one who experienced that. Someone told her this weekend that she could share her candy with her mom and dad and she said “But I don’t have a dad, just a mom.” I don’t know who was more embarassed the lady who said that or me. I don’t know what to tell her. I don’t know if someday her dad won’t just show up again and then what? I will say that reading posts on this site has made me feel less alone and therefore a little better. My best friend who was pregnant when I was just found out she is pregnant again. It is so hard. I was looking around to see if anyone else ever feels bad about that.

By: Jessica_L

Jessica_L — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 17:51:53 +0000

My son is very clingy to any males. If he has a friend their dad becomes his dad. Any male we are around (my uncles, cousins, etc) is automatically his best friend and won't let them out of his sight. He doesn't call them daddy, but asks me often when we will have our "own daddy to live with us all the time". I try to explain that he has a daddy, but he says we need one just for us. Heartbreaker!

By: NotADad

NotADad — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 16:48:37 +0000

Well, I'm 51, male (please keep claws withdrawn as I'm clearly behind enemy lines), and have been pretty much alone for nearly 20 years after splitting with my long term female. We did not have kids, too much responsibility to handle back then. I often wish I had children. If a nice little kid called me "Daddy", I would probably go all soppy on the spot and start talking marriage or adoption. I can't imagine anything nicer.

By: MARY

MARY — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 11:28:31 +0000

WELL MY SON CALLS EVERY MAN HE SEES DADDY ESPICALLY AT WALMART HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I GUESS THAT ITS A SINGLE MOM THING.

FAYETTEVILLE, NORTH CAROLINA

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 20:42:46 +0000

my best friend was 17 when her son was born; we would take him everywhere with us…the mall, on long drives, whatever. and eventually he too started this habit…it was funny at first (we were 18 year old girls…) and then she had to have the daddy talk with him. His dad joined the military and claimed the boy wasn’t even his. but she is a fantastic mom who now has two little boys and a wonderful husband.

By: non

non — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 20:15:48 +0000

I want to thank you for this blog. I was looking for advice on another subject but found most of the posts really supportive.

My beautiful daughter has a dad who lives in another city. She only sees him every six weeks or two months now. She clings to men and seems not to be able to discern between male acquaintances and family friends (she hugs men we don’t know very well). She also called other men “daddy” when she was younger.

The clinginess is a little scary. I think your son will grow out of calling all men “daddy,” and from everything you have written here, it seems he will know enough about boundaries to be able to establish appropriate behavior and attachments.

Thanks again for your blog.

By: MommyandMatthew

MommyandMatthew — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 01:06:57 +0000

My son is two and does the exact same thing with different men we see… i mean they dont even look anything like his father. We just recently had hardwood floors put down in our house and my son kept calling all the men doing the work his daddy and wanting to play with them and hug them! It might have been funny in there eyes but it broke my heart! His daddy gets him everyother weekend and i share him half the day with him on holidays and birthdays and things like that but his daddy just lets his parents get our son on all those weekends and holidays. He sees his daddys face atleast once a week but he doesn’t call him daddy for some reason… he calls him by his first name! I’m so scared that my kid is just feeling really rejected or that he is terribly confused!

By: How to Date a Single Mom, Part 3

How to Date a Single Mom, Part 3 — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 03:09:17 +0000

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