Comments on: Want men to start falling from the sky?

By: Goddess Divine

Goddess Divine — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 02:29:54 +0000

I can relate to your story 100%. I am at the point where I am perfectly happy being single. I enjoy my own company. How did I get there? I am a student, I work part time, I workout daily, and I chase after a four year old. It sometimes feels like I don’t have the energy for dating. The reality, however, is that I don’t make time for worrying about it. I am content with my life, and anyone who wants to join the team would have to be a pretty special guy! Because I am a special lady. I know that to today. And that is the key to both my happiness, my daughter’s happiness, and anyone else’s happiness. Own your fabulous-ness ladies!

By: Leah

Leah — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 16:45:50 +0000

this is such a fabulous piece. You can spend all your energy and effort chasing after men, with little to no satisfying results… or you can follow your bliss and really find the life (and someday, perhaps) the partner, you want!

I especially liked #2 — suck it up. When I was whiny and negative about single motherhood/my life, it was a huge man repellent and also turned ME off! LOL Acceptance has led to embracing life, with its challenges, and that is sucha better place to be.

By: mssinglemama

mssinglemama — Sun, 08 Jun 2008 01:58:48 +0000

Chem…I lost my father, who was also my family’s rock nine years ago…I’m so sorry that you’re mom is gone too. Remember this – she lives on in your memories and in what you do with those memories. Hugs to you … big hugs and thanks for sharing her story!

By: chem

chem — Sun, 08 Jun 2008 01:16:01 +0000

Hey Singlemama I thank you too, I am not a single mom but I was raised by one.

My parents were married for a few years. Most of my childhood was myself and 3 other siblings being raised by a single mother.

For years I’ve drew my strength from my single mother, who put us 4 girls through college and graduate school. I saw myself as invincible, if she could do it alone with the 4 of us….I could do anything.

It wasnt until she passed recently that I’ve felt very alone. As I said I’m not a single parent, however I am single.

Its like I’ve forgotten what I was a part of or what I witnessed as a child. A single woman doing it….doing it all….

Now some say thats why I’m single, I’m too independent. I also realize some of these feelings come from missing my rock, my mom.

As said by others this post has reminded me of the need to love and live for myself.

So thanks!

By: mssinglemama

mssinglemama — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 02:24:52 +0000

I’m so glad you all love this post … took me a while to write it – to get this all out – and an even longer time to get to this point .

Alexis: Your comment absolutely, 100% made my day – and brought tears to my eyes. Thank YOU!

By: Alexis

Alexis — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 14:59:05 +0000

Thank you for writing this, thank you for writing everything really. And thank you to everyone for commenting. Finding and reading this blog has opened so so many doors to my mind, my heart, and my soul. Singlemamahood has become something I can cherish now. Finding this site was my first step to figuring out a lot….my newest mission: to love myself and be content with everything I have been given. This post really hit when I realized I can’t love my son to the fullest without really loving myself first. I cannot waste anymore time dreaming about a man to make my family complete. I have all I need. Thank you again.

By: QTMama

QTMama — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 02:07:11 +0000

I have to agree here. When I was away recently on my trip, I would join my man at the place he worked. He was up on stage singing, I was out in the crowd watching, alone. I wasn’t looking for someone to join me. And it was like the ultimate guy catcher for some reason.

Great post.

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 23:24:09 +0000

This is a fantastic post. The first tip – forget about them – is true in that you should focus on yourself, and Ms Single Mama outlines those steps to perfection. I especially liked the line “After the first year, I stopped daydreaming about help from a man.”

As a single dad, I stopped daydreaming about help from a woman, and instead focused on my self, got out with my kids, surrounded myself with friends, found happiness with my situation. If you’re happy with yourself, you don’t need someone else to fix it.

That doesn’t mean I’ll be single forever. It just means that a relationship will complement me, not complete or fix me.

Great post, MSM.

By: ModernSingleMomma

ModernSingleMomma — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 19:01:57 +0000

I love this post, Alaina. I see a book deal coming on– becoming content with yourself is the first step to happiness all across the human board…single or not, parent or not. You are such an inspiration! Can iHeart sign you? =) We’ll be moving into the realm of publishing soon, nothing is outside the realm of possibility. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, strong, hip, sexy, loving and self-content single parents….is the Zeitgeist baby!

By: Tonya

Tonya — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 15:06:47 +0000

Great post. And thanks for the intro to Tim Chard. I am adding his blog to my blog roll.

Really, if you think about it, if you do love yourself, the rest of these items fall into place, don’t they?

If you love yourself, you are more likely to send love out into your life ahead of you. When you do that, you attract more love. Like attracts like. Love attracts love.

There is always another way of looking at a situation. True, sometimes it seems like life is unfair or that things will never change. You have to relax into the situation you are currently in. You are there for a reason. Once you stop fighting it (what you resist, persists), then it can change into something else. I just wrote a blog post regarding this on Friday. It begins with this beautiful quote:

“Once you have started seeing the beauty of life, ugliness starts disappearing. If you start looking at life with joy, sadness starts disappearing. You cannot have heaven and hell together, you can have only one. It is your choice.”

~Osho

Thank you for your blog. I love your insights!