Comments on: Will you ever have another one? http://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/21/will-you-ever-have-another-one/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:59:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Valeriehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/21/will-you-ever-have-another-one/#comment-1645 Valerie Sun, 25 May 2008 04:08:43 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=445#comment-1645 Thanks mssinglemama! Tim is amazing! I'm a therapist and it seems that we are so bad at applying what we know to our own situations. My coworkers think it is because we try to figure out what is going on with a guy rather than just saying that he is a jerk and moving on. It was hard for me to relate to the 50% my fault thing, but your response helped. I became completely involved in grad school and my nonprofit organization that I started for stray animals when my ex husband left. And baby's daddy... well, I ignored him too. I was so busy nursing every 1,2, or 3 hours (even at night for 10 months...lack of sleep made me crazy), working 50 hours a week, and doing everything around the house (including "guy things" like shoveling snow and mowing the lawn), I didn't give him attention either. I did have a great guy that helped me for the 2 years in between my divorce and my relationship with my baby's father. He was the best "no strings attached" sex partner. He knew what to say. He knew how to do everything. I had not been with anyone but my husband for 8 years. He was my neighbor and friend and we had amazing sex. Unfortunately he died of a heroin overdose last August. He didn't even do heroin when we got together. Mommypie, I know women who have found someone good and had a baby after 40. Don't give up just because you don't know anyone yet. It could happen at any time. I know how you feel. I look around and I am completely appalled by the options. Thanks mssinglemama! Tim is amazing! I’m a therapist and it seems that we are so bad at applying what we know to our own situations. My coworkers think it is because we try to figure out what is going on with a guy rather than just saying that he is a jerk and moving on. It was hard for me to relate to the 50% my fault thing, but your response helped. I became completely involved in grad school and my nonprofit organization that I started for stray animals when my ex husband left. And baby’s daddy… well, I ignored him too. I was so busy nursing every 1,2, or 3 hours (even at night for 10 months…lack of sleep made me crazy), working 50 hours a week, and doing everything around the house (including “guy things” like shoveling snow and mowing the lawn), I didn’t give him attention either. I did have a great guy that helped me for the 2 years in between my divorce and my relationship with my baby’s father. He was the best “no strings attached” sex partner. He knew what to say. He knew how to do everything. I had not been with anyone but my husband for 8 years. He was my neighbor and friend and we had amazing sex. Unfortunately he died of a heroin overdose last August. He didn’t even do heroin when we got together. Mommypie, I know women who have found someone good and had a baby after 40. Don’t give up just because you don’t know anyone yet. It could happen at any time. I know how you feel. I look
around and I am completely appalled by the options.

]]> By: mommypiehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/21/will-you-ever-have-another-one/#comment-1644 mommypie Sat, 24 May 2008 01:55:16 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=445#comment-1644 If WordPress didn't suck widgety eggs, I would so put that fetus on my site just for the parental reaction. BAHA! If WordPress didn’t suck widgety eggs, I would so put that fetus on my site just for the parental reaction. BAHA!

]]> By: mommypiehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/21/will-you-ever-have-another-one/#comment-1643 mommypie Sat, 24 May 2008 01:53:14 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=445#comment-1643 Well, after hitting the big 4-0 last month, I'm thinking my eggs will be drying up pretty darn fast. Which DOES make me sad, since I would LOVE my daughter to have a sibling. It kills me when she says she's lonely and has no one to play with. If there were someone in my life, it would definitely be on the table IN PLAIN VIEW, but seeing as there's not ... I'm just thankful to have one wonderful child. Well, after hitting the big 4-0 last month, I’m thinking my eggs will be drying up pretty darn fast. Which DOES make me sad, since I would LOVE my daughter to have a sibling. It kills me when she says she’s lonely and has no one to play with. If there were someone in my life, it would definitely be on the table IN PLAIN VIEW, but seeing as there’s not … I’m just thankful to have one wonderful child.

]]> By: Tinahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/21/will-you-ever-have-another-one/#comment-1642 Tina Fri, 23 May 2008 14:07:23 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=445#comment-1642 Someday I may have another one. I am on my first pregnancy now. I loved that little baby countdown! So cute, thanks! Your blog rules. Someday I may have another one. I am on my first pregnancy now. I loved that little baby countdown! So cute, thanks! Your blog rules.

]]> By: mssinglemamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/21/will-you-ever-have-another-one/#comment-1641 mssinglemama Fri, 23 May 2008 12:06:43 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=445#comment-1641 Valerie - urgghh. What a horrible story. Read this .... http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/category/therapy-who-me/ Tim Chard is amazing, he saved my sanity because I fear relationships too. Valerie – urgghh. What a horrible story. Read this ….

http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/category/therapy-who-me/

Tim Chard is amazing, he saved my sanity because I fear relationships too.

]]> By: Valeriehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/21/will-you-ever-have-another-one/#comment-1640 Valerie Fri, 23 May 2008 02:17:49 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=445#comment-1640 I have been struggling with this. My son will be a year old in two weeks. I am 34 years old and completely jaded about relationships. I have not dated anyone since I broke up 5 months ago with his father. I want a sibling for him, but I can't see myself with another guy. I don't trust them anymore. I don't trust my judgment. My husband of 5 years left me when I was in grad school for another woman. I got pregnant by a guy I was dating 2 years later who was going to marry me then left when my son was 6 months old. My friends at work are talking about having the next one and I feel devastated about my circumstances, I grew up with a brother, and I can't imagine my son not having a sibling. I have been struggling with this. My son will be a year old in two weeks. I am 34 years old and completely jaded about relationships. I have not dated anyone since I broke up 5 months ago with his father. I want a sibling for him, but I can’t see myself with another guy. I don’t trust them anymore. I don’t trust my judgment. My husband of 5 years left me when I was in grad school for another woman. I got pregnant by a guy I was dating 2 years later who was going to marry me then left when my son was 6 months old. My friends at work are talking about having the next one and I feel devastated about my circumstances, I grew up with a brother, and I can’t imagine my son not having a sibling.

]]> By: Lesliehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/21/will-you-ever-have-another-one/#comment-1639 Leslie Thu, 22 May 2008 14:11:41 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=445#comment-1639 Absolutely want more. I loved being pregnant but it was such an ugly time in my life, I'd love to do it again and just revel in it. It frustrates me mine will be some much older that I'd love to end up with someone who has children also for some siblings a bit closer. I think I'm going to make one of those babies for my friend so I can her watch her girl grow, too funny :P Absolutely want more. I loved being pregnant but it was such an ugly time in my life, I’d love to do it again and just revel in it.
It frustrates me mine will be some much older that I’d love to end up with someone who has children also for some siblings a bit closer.

I think I’m going to make one of those babies for my friend so I can her watch her girl grow, too funny :P

]]> By: Laurenhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/21/will-you-ever-have-another-one/#comment-1638 Lauren Wed, 21 May 2008 21:39:47 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=445#comment-1638 I LOVED being pregnant! Even though these first couple months have been hard, I would love to have more children in the future. It would also be awesome if I could get all my baby making out before I'm 30 -- I think being young was a big factor in my easy pregnancy and birth experience. And I had that widget on my Facebook profile when I was pregnant. It was so much fun! I LOVED being pregnant! Even though these first couple months have been hard, I would love to have more children in the future. It would also be awesome if I could get all my baby making out before I’m 30 — I think being young was a big factor in my easy pregnancy and birth experience.

And I had that widget on my Facebook profile when I was pregnant. It was so much fun!

]]> By: Emilyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/21/will-you-ever-have-another-one/#comment-1637 Emily Wed, 21 May 2008 20:00:54 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=445#comment-1637 I was just having this conversation last night with 2 other moms....I don't think I will be having anymore than my 1. Although I have always wanted more I have to many fears to deal with and I am only getting older everyday. Plus, I will be 41 when my son graduates and look forward to the fun I can have then. My fears are 1. I will again have placenta abruptus like I did with my son and will die this time. 2. Have gestational diabetes again and pregancy is not fun with it. 3. Have children with another man who will leave me a single mother of more than one child, which is hard enough. I was just having this conversation last night with 2 other moms….I don’t think I will be having anymore than my 1. Although I have always wanted more I have to many fears to deal with and I am only getting older everyday. Plus, I will be 41 when my son graduates and look forward to the fun I can have then. My fears are 1. I will again have placenta abruptus like I did with my son and will die this time. 2. Have gestational diabetes again and pregancy is not fun with it. 3. Have children with another man who will leave me a single mother of more than one child, which is hard enough.

]]> By: littlemansmomhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/21/will-you-ever-have-another-one/#comment-1636 littlemansmom Wed, 21 May 2008 18:29:48 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=445#comment-1636 Most certainly I would..in a heartbeat. I truly enjoyed being pregnant. The second time around though I'd like to have someone to share it with.... Most certainly I would..in a heartbeat. I truly enjoyed being pregnant. The second time around though I’d like to have someone to share it with….

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