Last night I was running around cleaning like crazy. (I have a house guest coming, a very handsome house guest from Denmark and also one of the sweetest men I’ve ever known). So I’m bustling around cleaning as much as I can because Benjamin was at his father’s.
Then I hear it. Beeeupp.
The text beep.
Hmmm…could it be the bar guy texting me again?
Yep. I have completely written him off twice now. The first time for just letting my last text go unanswered and the second time when he asked me out a few days later via text…
And tonight the poor guy tried again:
Text Case #3
His Text: How was your weekend?
My Text: Lovely. Yours?
No response. And then three hours later.
His Text: Lovely also. I’m bad at text messages. My response time is about two days.
Yes, I’m thinking – you’re really bad at texting and even worse at asking a girl out.
My Text: I hate texting too. Next time call me.
If and when he does call I can’t help but think it will be incredibly awkward. We met over a week ago, just a fun encounter at a bar. You know the drill. Not even interested. (Purple Octopuses). To get me, albeit that he’s an adorable engineer, he’d have to knock my front door down or something.
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Maybe it’s an engineer thing? My Mr ‘long…um…lunch’ texter is like this too. We talked on the phone before we went out, have been out three times, but he just prefers texting…no idea why. He is incredibly intelligent, articulate, good looking, but I sense he is just a little shy and he is more comfortable flirting this way?! Everyone has their own style I guess.
But, yeah, don’t text me, then put your phone down and not respond for 2 hours….c’mon!
Hold the phone. A “handsome house guest” from Denmark? Who is this guy?… It’s like watching the trailer of a new romance movie, and it gets cut in the middle. Who is this fellow? How do you know him?
Inquiring minds want to know! Oooooh.
Oooooh….saving that for another day … stay tuned. : )
You texted him back? WTF! I thought you’d written him off.
I think it’s totally lame that this guy is moving so slow with you. I’d knock your door down if I was 10 years younger and knew where you lived! Well, I might try ringing the doorbell first.
Damn. Wish someone would knock my door down.
Well, asking a woman out via text message is lame, but its the technology age. I’ve had nieces get broken up with via text message.
Yes, sometimes there is just something quick you want to say that doesn’t require a phone call, or you aren’t in a place that you can talk on the phone…but how lame and disconnected are we becoming.
I once chatted with a guy online. I type 100 WPM, but I don’t expect others to type that fast…but I’d reply and 10 minutes would go by before he’d reply back. Either he’s really slow, talking to other people at the same time and got distracted…either way, if the online chatting was that bad (his dialogue was even worse, btw) then he’s not going to get my phone number, much less a date.
Hey! I hope it’s okay that I found your blog. I’m also following you on Twitter. Hope that doesn’t make me a stalker, LOL. Awesome blog! I am so envious — mine is really lame and noob-ish by comparison. But I’d love your thoughts and feedback, it’s only the start and I can only get better.
Can’t wait to hear more about the Denmark dude and again, loving your blog!
I use texting primarily as a flirting tool…it works best if you’ve established a good connection and you want to do a bit of flirting during the week. Like say if you meet someone on a Saturday, you can text/flirt during the week and set something up for next Friday. This maintains the connection and keeps the other person thinking about you. Beyond that, texting sucks. Make calls.
For your text guy, it sounds like he doesn’t know what he’s doing. He’s should know his connection with you is tenuous and he needs to do a bit more work (via phone) to establish his cred if he’s looking for a date.
Lance – I think you’re dead on. Poor guy doesn’t know what he’s doing. Normally, I have just helped him out and called … but like you said, the connection is tenuous.
Lara – you are such a stalker! Kidding. Of course, it’s okay – just don’t pass it on to anyone else in the office or I’ll dump hot coffee on your head. : )
DH – I texted him back b/c this is actually kind of funny at this point – or some kind of sick experiment.
I’d text back that you’re busy cleaning for a hot houseguest haha get on with it guy!
Still no phone call. The guy is a chicken shit. So funny.