Comments on: Minor crisis or blessing in disguise? You tell me. http://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/09/minor-crisis-or-blessing-in-disguise-you-tell-me/ Single Mom Dating, Love, and Life Advice Fri, 19 Mar 2010 04:18:51 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: laurieofthesevenstories http://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/09/minor-crisis-or-blessing-in-disguise-you-tell-me/#comment-1516 laurieofthesevenstories Wed, 14 May 2008 01:41:04 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=411#comment-1516 I think that this is matter of personal choice, and that you should do whatever your instincts tell you to do. I can tell you that at one time or another, all of my children slept with me. The oldest who are 13,10, and 6 no longer ever come to my bed. My little girl, who is five, is in between staying in her bed and coming to mine. The baby, who is 15 months is a nightly guest. All in all, I don't mind, and the truth is that it doesn't last forever, as nothing in childhood does. I think that this is matter of personal choice, and that you should do whatever your instincts tell you to do. I can tell you that at one time or another, all of my children slept with me. The oldest who are 13,10, and 6 no longer ever come to my bed. My little girl, who is five, is in between staying in her bed and coming to mine. The baby, who is 15 months is a nightly guest.
All in all, I don’t mind, and the truth is that it doesn’t last forever, as nothing in childhood does.

]]> By: kelly007 http://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/09/minor-crisis-or-blessing-in-disguise-you-tell-me/#comment-1515 kelly007 Mon, 12 May 2008 12:14:56 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=411#comment-1515 The music from the Glow Worm is pretty loud, now that I think about it. The one I have is small (smaller than the one I remember having a bazillion years ago) and you press it's tummy for a song that stay on for about 30 seconds. I also saw a Sea Horse type thing at Target (just looked on the website to find a link for you, not on there) that seemed pretty relaxing. Ocean-like sounds. :) The music from the Glow Worm is pretty loud, now that I think about it. The one I have is small (smaller than the one I remember having a bazillion years ago) and you press it’s tummy for a song that stay on for about 30 seconds. I also saw a Sea Horse type thing at Target (just looked on the website to find a link for you, not on there) that seemed pretty relaxing. Ocean-like sounds. :)

]]> By: Beth http://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/09/minor-crisis-or-blessing-in-disguise-you-tell-me/#comment-1514 Beth Sat, 10 May 2008 21:58:46 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=411#comment-1514 Just my two cents...I wouldn't let that become a habit. My daughter was sleeping in her bed for two years, all by herself, and my husband let her sleep in our bed for a night or two, and she never left. She's six now and STILL comes in the middle of the night and climbs in bed with us. Forget having a normal sex life with that going on! Just my two cents…I wouldn’t let that become a habit. My daughter was sleeping in her bed for two years, all by herself, and my husband let her sleep in our bed for a night or two, and she never left. She’s six now and STILL comes in the middle of the night and climbs in bed with us. Forget having a normal sex life with that going on!

]]> By: erinmaha05 http://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/09/minor-crisis-or-blessing-in-disguise-you-tell-me/#comment-1513 erinmaha05 Sat, 10 May 2008 01:50:34 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=411#comment-1513 Well, I dated a guy who's 12 year old sister started doing that when she was younger...and still did it when she was 12. Finally, when she turned 13 they decided she should sleep in her own room. No, she defintely had some major sleeping issues after that. Dont do it!!! Well, I dated a guy who’s 12 year old sister started doing that when she was younger…and still did it when she was 12. Finally, when she turned 13 they decided she should sleep in her own room. No, she defintely had some major sleeping issues after that. Dont do it!!!

]]> By: singleworkingmommy http://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/09/minor-crisis-or-blessing-in-disguise-you-tell-me/#comment-1512 singleworkingmommy Sat, 10 May 2008 00:37:48 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=411#comment-1512 I sleep with Son every night. He sleeps with his dad when he, rarely, spends the night. It works for us, but sometimes I do think he (and I) would get a better night's sleep if he would sleep in his own bed. I'm just too tired to fight at this point, and pssstt I kinda love it. He'll grow out of it soon enough. He won't be 13 and sleeping in my bed, so all is good for now, I think. I sleep with Son every night. He sleeps with his dad when he, rarely, spends the night.

It works for us, but sometimes I do think he (and I) would get a better night’s sleep if he would sleep in his own bed. I’m just too tired to fight at this point, and pssstt I kinda love it.

He’ll grow out of it soon enough. He won’t be 13 and sleeping in my bed, so all is good for now, I think.

]]> By: Rebs http://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/09/minor-crisis-or-blessing-in-disguise-you-tell-me/#comment-1511 Rebs Fri, 09 May 2008 23:00:41 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=411#comment-1511 Just find the speaker for the music and put a big ol' piece of duct tape over it. It'll muffle it just enough and, usually, the speakers on those kind of toys are inside, on the hard body, and then covered by the soft, um, outer-casing (what an odd thing to try and describe). The rule around here is that she can only crawl into bed with me once it's sunny out, but that's fairly easy in our place since we're on one level with bdrms beside each other. Just find the speaker for the music and put a big ol’ piece of duct tape over it. It’ll muffle it just enough and, usually, the speakers on those kind of toys are inside, on the hard body, and then covered by the soft, um, outer-casing (what an odd thing to try and describe).

The rule around here is that she can only crawl into bed with me once it’s sunny out, but that’s fairly easy in our place since we’re on one level with bdrms beside each other.

]]> By: singlemomseeking http://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/09/minor-crisis-or-blessing-in-disguise-you-tell-me/#comment-1510 singlemomseeking Fri, 09 May 2008 22:25:28 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=411#comment-1510 Yep, I remember those two-year-old nightmares. I was sure that something was horribly wrong. Growing up can be scary!! I'm still working on the bed-boundaries over here, so don't use me as a model... But in hindsight, I wish I'd sanctioned off my bedroom as "Mommy's room" (oh, wait, I didn't have a two-bedroom place until recently!). I will add: although get EXACTLY what you mean... try to keep the guys out of your bed if that's where you are right now. "Using" your kid to keep in order to keep a man out... will backfire, surely. I mean that in the kindest way. I've been there. xoxo Yep, I remember those two-year-old nightmares. I was sure that something was horribly wrong. Growing up can be scary!!

I’m still working on the bed-boundaries over here, so don’t use me as a model… But in hindsight, I wish I’d sanctioned off my bedroom as “Mommy’s room” (oh, wait, I didn’t have a two-bedroom place until recently!).

I will add: although get EXACTLY what you mean… try to keep the guys out of your bed if that’s where you are right now. “Using” your kid to keep in order to keep a man out… will backfire, surely. I mean that in the kindest way. I’ve been there. xoxo

]]> By: Alexis http://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/09/minor-crisis-or-blessing-in-disguise-you-tell-me/#comment-1509 Alexis Fri, 09 May 2008 21:45:11 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=411#comment-1509 The waking up at night is seriously an issue for all of us mamas! I agree with the separation anxiety and also it's probably just a phase. Miles (my little guy) used to sleep so well and for the past two months- not so good. I battle too with what to do...being a working mama. As much as I hate getting up 3 times in the night...I truly love to be able to snuggle him when he does get up- we don't get enough time for that during the day. Also- the Ex factor takes him over night once a week...and I always think he gets confused at night as to where he is and who is there. It makes my skin crawl to think of his confusion....but maybe i'm still sucking things up a bit and not totally free. I would try to keep him in his own bed for the majority of the time...but always go with the mama instincts. The waking up at night is seriously an issue for all of us mamas! I agree with the separation anxiety and also it’s probably just a phase. Miles (my little guy) used to sleep so well and for the past two months- not so good. I battle too with what to do…being a working mama. As much as I hate getting up 3 times in the night…I truly love to be able to snuggle him when he does get up- we don’t get enough time for that during the day. Also- the Ex factor takes him over night once a week…and I always think he gets confused at night as to where he is and who is there. It makes my skin crawl to think of his confusion….but maybe i’m still sucking things up a bit and not totally free.
I would try to keep him in his own bed for the majority of the time…but always go with the mama instincts.

]]> By: mssinglemama http://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/09/minor-crisis-or-blessing-in-disguise-you-tell-me/#comment-1508 mssinglemama Fri, 09 May 2008 19:09:01 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=411#comment-1508 A Glow WORM!!! HOLY CRAP!!! That's genius!!! Wait ... do Glow Worms stay on? I just read an Amazon review and the users said they're too loud, the music. Wonder if they have any without music? A Glow WORM!!! HOLY CRAP!!! That’s genius!!!

Wait … do Glow Worms stay on? I just read an Amazon review and the users said they’re too loud, the music. Wonder if they have any without music?

]]> By: kelly007 http://mssinglemama.com/2008/05/09/minor-crisis-or-blessing-in-disguise-you-tell-me/#comment-1507 kelly007 Fri, 09 May 2008 18:41:40 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=411#comment-1507 GREAT idea about the nightlight...does he have a Gloworm?? GREAT idea about the nightlight…does he have a Gloworm??

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