Comments on: Single Mom S.O.S.: Her ex wants full custody! http://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Tue, 22 May 2012 16:28:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Lizhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-51790 Liz Mon, 19 Mar 2012 05:57:34 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-51790 Ok so I read some comments and it just blows my mind how messed up the system really is. Well I have a six year old daughter and a two year old daughter. My youngest daughter's father and I are friends and he is a good dad. My oldest daughter's father was abusive so I left him but have been in and out of court since she was a baby. He is very controling along with the rest of his family. After years of him not paying support he is now trying to get half custody. He has a recent battery charge against his current live in girlfriend and is not consistant with his visitation can he really get half custody now. What should I do? Ok so I read some comments and it just blows my mind how messed up the system really is. Well I have a six year old daughter and a two year old daughter. My youngest daughter’s father and I are friends and he is a good dad. My oldest daughter’s father was abusive so I left him but have been in and out of court since she was a baby. He is very controling along with the rest of his family. After years of him not paying support he is now trying to get half custody. He has a recent battery charge against his current live in girlfriend and is not consistant with his visitation can he really get half custody now. What should I do?

]]> By: Augustin3http://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-50450 Augustin3 Thu, 08 Mar 2012 03:58:56 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-50450 Hi ladies, and "robert" not cool buddy, most of these moms are hurting and not looking to get creeped on. This thread has been running for a few years now and I'm curios to see what happened with Tricia; by now your son is at least 13. My parents never broke up but if they had, and sometimes I wonder if they should have, I would have lived with dad. Mom was always loving and caring but very controlling. It's not a bad thing you know, I would still have loved my mom and visited her all the time {especially since my dad couldn't cook to save this planet if it was our only hope}. I am now a father, I am almost 30 and love my daughter to death {she's 5}. Mom and I broke up, she made many claims and so did I. First final order gave me residency with rights on religion, schooling/education, and equal on health. She wasn't happy and took me to court again, this time all that happened was court costs and heavily worded order to reinforce the second {I defended the position that mom should have equal access}. Not all dads are bad you know, we know our children very well and instinctively protect them and when we truly hone that we see that mom is important too. Dad in this case is happy to have his child wanting to live with him but needs to step back. What's mom doing that's so bad that you push that thought onto your child? Again, nothing wrong with son wanting to live with dad or mom as long as it's son's idea. I think that if he wants that, let him. Some of the moms here.... your children are not property and believe me when I tell you that the court is not biased. They will look at what the child wants, especially at the age of 8+. You think that moms have full rights to children but its not true, only reason why you assume that is that you hear 87% of moms have custody but don't realize that less than 2% go to trial and that it's a 50/50 split in who gets it. Being vindictive will show and bite you in the court. Again for Tricia, what did happen? and since then how is relationship with dad? Once things calm down most people just want to be at peace and be happy. Best of luck. Hi ladies, and “robert” not cool buddy, most of these moms are hurting and not looking to get creeped on. This thread has been running for a few years now and I’m curios to see what happened with Tricia; by now your son is at least 13. My parents never broke up but if they had, and sometimes I wonder if they should have, I would have lived with dad. Mom was always loving and caring but very controlling. It’s not a bad thing you know, I would still have loved my mom and visited her all the time {especially since my dad couldn’t cook to save this planet if it was our only hope}.

I am now a father, I am almost 30 and love my daughter to death {she’s 5}. Mom and I broke up, she made many claims and so did I. First final order gave me residency with rights on religion, schooling/education, and equal on health. She wasn’t happy and took me to court again, this time all that happened was court costs and heavily worded order to reinforce the second {I defended the position that mom should have equal access}. Not all dads are bad you know, we know our children very well and instinctively protect them and when we truly hone that we see that mom is important too. Dad in this case is happy to have his child wanting to live with him but needs to step back. What’s mom doing that’s so bad that you push that thought onto your child? Again, nothing wrong with son wanting to live with dad or mom as long as it’s son’s idea. I think that if he wants that, let him.

Some of the moms here…. your children are not property and believe me when I tell you that the court is not biased. They will look at what the child wants, especially at the age of 8+. You think that moms have full rights to children but its not true, only reason why you assume that is that you hear 87% of moms have custody but don’t realize that less than 2% go to trial and that it’s a 50/50 split in who gets it. Being vindictive will show and bite you in the court.

Again for Tricia, what did happen? and since then how is relationship with dad? Once things calm down most people just want to be at peace and be happy. Best of luck.

]]> By: Spring Baileyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-47271 Spring Bailey Fri, 03 Feb 2012 01:39:31 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-47271 I am going through a very similar situation right now. My ex and I have 50/50 joint physical custody. We share the kids everyother weekend. Our children are two little girls age 7 and 4. We are both great parents and love the girls dearly. We divorced 3 years ago. Both got remarried and that's when crap hit the fan. He now thinks his new wife is a better mom than i am and makes no bones about telling me so. He is taking me to court in March because he now wants full custody. He is claiming that i physically and psychologically abuse my girls. He complains that i don't change there nailpolish often enough, and they get bug bites and sunburns when they are with me. He thinks i am a terrible mother because i visit my kid for lunch at school and attned girl scout meetings. I wish i could get inside this guy's mind. The only conclusion i can come up with is that men like this suffer from narcissistic personality disorder. they can't go on in life unless they get everything they want and will continue to make your life a living hell as long as you live. Mind you he got everything he wanted out of our divorce. I walked away from our home and everything we had to become a single mom, work two jobs, and suffer financially. He has a very well paying job and had the nerve to try to get me to help pay off his 35,000 student loans when we divorced. There is so much more i could say but i would be typing for days!! His wife is behind him on all of this and agrees i am an unfit mother. she has 3 kids of her own and for one second i wish she would think about how whe would feel if she were in my shoes. She just does what she is told. i know.... i lived with her husband for 10 years. Of course all of this court stuff freaks me out but at the end of the day i know i am a great mom and i have done the best i can. The only ones who suffer in these situations are the kids, but sadly he does not see this. I understand what your friend is going through, but try not to let it get to you. You just have to be the bigger person here. I am going through a very similar situation right now. My ex and I have 50/50 joint physical custody. We share the kids everyother weekend. Our children are two little girls age 7 and 4. We are both great parents and love the girls dearly. We divorced 3 years ago. Both got remarried and that’s when crap hit the fan. He now thinks his new wife is a better mom than i am and makes no bones about telling me so. He is taking me to court in March because he now wants full custody. He is claiming that i physically and psychologically abuse my girls. He complains that i don’t change there nailpolish often enough, and they get bug bites and sunburns when they are with me. He thinks i am a terrible mother because i visit my kid for lunch at school and attned girl scout meetings. I wish i could get inside this guy’s mind. The only conclusion i can come up with is that men like this suffer from narcissistic personality disorder. they can’t go on in life unless they get everything they want and will continue to make your life a living hell as long as you live. Mind you he got everything he wanted out of our divorce. I walked away from our home and everything we had to become a single mom, work two jobs, and suffer financially. He has a very well paying job and had the nerve to try to get me to help pay off his 35,000 student loans when we divorced. There is so much more i could say but i would be typing for days!! His wife is behind him on all of this and agrees i am an unfit mother. she has 3 kids of her own and for one second i wish she would think about how whe would feel if she were in my shoes. She just does what she is told. i know…. i lived with her husband for 10 years. Of course all of this court stuff freaks me out but at the end of the day i know i am a great mom and i have done the best i can. The only ones who suffer in these situations are the kids, but sadly he does not see this. I understand what your friend is going through, but try not to let it get to you. You just have to be the bigger person here.

]]> By: mommyneedshelphttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-42630 mommyneedshelp Wed, 28 Dec 2011 18:05:33 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-42630 I have had full physical custody of my son for 3 years, and my ex now wants to take full custody, because he is angry with me. He is throwing all kinds of horrible accusations out there and trying to prove me unfit, but when we divorced, he GAVE me full custody. We never fought about it or even went to court, I asked for it, and he agreed. What chance does he have? We live in MN if that helps. I have had full physical custody of my son for 3 years, and my ex now wants to take full custody, because he is angry with me. He is throwing all kinds of horrible accusations out there and trying to prove me unfit, but when we divorced, he GAVE me full custody. We never fought about it or even went to court, I asked for it, and he agreed. What chance does he have? We live in MN if that helps.

]]> By: roberthttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-39340 robert Mon, 28 Nov 2011 14:27:43 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-39340 i raised four children with full custody and a no access order your children just grow up and hate you anyways now i am just looking to find a woman with a farm or ranch that i can live in the barn and work full time for free I just want to live in the country and work I have no family or friends integrity@cyg.net Robert if anyone knows a family or a woman that farms and wants free help its just the three of us now me 45 and my daughter 24 and my son 16 the others have been gone for five years now and they wont see me again so i just want to live my life and work for someone for a place to live i raised four children with full custody and a no access order

your children just grow up and hate you anyways

now i am just looking to find a woman with a farm or ranch that i can live in the barn and work full time for free
I just want to live in the country and work I have no family or friends
integrity@cyg.net Robert
if anyone knows a family or a woman that farms and wants free help
its just the three of us now me 45 and my daughter 24 and my son
16
the others have been gone for five years now
and they wont see me again so i just want to live my life
and work for someone for a place to live

]]> By: mariahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-39016 maria Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:21:18 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-39016 if you truly did all of the right things ...it will come out right....right actions right outcome ...mothers dont loose their kids if they are decent if you truly did all of the right things …it will come out right….right actions right outcome …mothers dont loose their kids if they are decent

]]> By: mariahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-39015 maria Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:18:50 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-39015 you should be should have stayed your hot behind in one place and did the right thing....but noooo love interests always supercede the kids .....i hope it was good to you you should be should have stayed your hot behind in one place and did the right thing….but noooo love interests always supercede the kids …..i hope it was good to you

]]> By: mariahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-39014 maria Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:16:24 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-39014 you sound like an excellent normal human being for a change ...after i read some of those other posts in here you sound like an excellent normal human being for a change …after i read some of those other posts in here

]]> By: mariahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-39012 maria Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:12:02 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-39012 get your daughter NOW ...stop being weak get your daughter NOW …stop being weak

]]> By: mariahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-39011 maria Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:10:37 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-39011 You sound like you have some serious issues ..with accepting responsibilities...and if you think a mother for a drunk is such a great life for a kid ..the booze must have deluted your thinking ....so lets see your a drunk you pick bad man to father your children and additional bad man because you dont learn anything from previous mistakes ..what you need is to sober up ..and take responsibility for your actions you incredible useless human being ...the problem with folks like YOU always an excuse why they are drubks weak or druggies ....put your child up for adoption ..apparently you are both useless as parents. You sound like you have some serious issues ..with accepting responsibilities…and if you think a mother for a drunk is such a great life for a kid ..the booze must have deluted your thinking ….so lets see your a drunk you pick bad man to father your children and additional bad man because you dont learn anything from previous mistakes ..what you need is to sober up ..and take responsibility for your actions you incredible useless human being …the problem with folks like YOU always an excuse why they are drubks weak or druggies ….put your child up for adoption ..apparently you are both useless as parents.

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