Comments on: Single Mom S.O.S.: Her ex wants full custody! http://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:59:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Spring Baileyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-47271 Spring Bailey Fri, 03 Feb 2012 01:39:31 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-47271 I am going through a very similar situation right now. My ex and I have 50/50 joint physical custody. We share the kids everyother weekend. Our children are two little girls age 7 and 4. We are both great parents and love the girls dearly. We divorced 3 years ago. Both got remarried and that's when crap hit the fan. He now thinks his new wife is a better mom than i am and makes no bones about telling me so. He is taking me to court in March because he now wants full custody. He is claiming that i physically and psychologically abuse my girls. He complains that i don't change there nailpolish often enough, and they get bug bites and sunburns when they are with me. He thinks i am a terrible mother because i visit my kid for lunch at school and attned girl scout meetings. I wish i could get inside this guy's mind. The only conclusion i can come up with is that men like this suffer from narcissistic personality disorder. they can't go on in life unless they get everything they want and will continue to make your life a living hell as long as you live. Mind you he got everything he wanted out of our divorce. I walked away from our home and everything we had to become a single mom, work two jobs, and suffer financially. He has a very well paying job and had the nerve to try to get me to help pay off his 35,000 student loans when we divorced. There is so much more i could say but i would be typing for days!! His wife is behind him on all of this and agrees i am an unfit mother. she has 3 kids of her own and for one second i wish she would think about how whe would feel if she were in my shoes. She just does what she is told. i know.... i lived with her husband for 10 years. Of course all of this court stuff freaks me out but at the end of the day i know i am a great mom and i have done the best i can. The only ones who suffer in these situations are the kids, but sadly he does not see this. I understand what your friend is going through, but try not to let it get to you. You just have to be the bigger person here. I am going through a very similar situation right now. My ex and I have 50/50 joint physical custody. We share the kids everyother weekend. Our children are two little girls age 7 and 4. We are both great parents and love the girls dearly. We divorced 3 years ago. Both got remarried and that’s when crap hit the fan. He now thinks his new wife is a better mom than i am and makes no bones about telling me so. He is taking me to court in March because he now wants full custody. He is claiming that i physically and psychologically abuse my girls. He complains that i don’t change there nailpolish often enough, and they get bug bites and sunburns when they are with me. He thinks i am a terrible mother because i visit my kid for lunch at school and attned girl scout meetings. I wish i could get inside this guy’s mind. The only conclusion i can come up with is that men like this suffer from narcissistic personality disorder. they can’t go on in life unless they get everything they want and will continue to make your life a living hell as long as you live. Mind you he got everything he wanted out of our divorce. I walked away from our home and everything we had to become a single mom, work two jobs, and suffer financially. He has a very well paying job and had the nerve to try to get me to help pay off his 35,000 student loans when we divorced. There is so much more i could say but i would be typing for days!! His wife is behind him on all of this and agrees i am an unfit mother. she has 3 kids of her own and for one second i wish she would think about how whe would feel if she were in my shoes. She just does what she is told. i know…. i lived with her husband for 10 years. Of course all of this court stuff freaks me out but at the end of the day i know i am a great mom and i have done the best i can. The only ones who suffer in these situations are the kids, but sadly he does not see this. I understand what your friend is going through, but try not to let it get to you. You just have to be the bigger person here.

]]> By: mommyneedshelphttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-42630 mommyneedshelp Wed, 28 Dec 2011 18:05:33 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-42630 I have had full physical custody of my son for 3 years, and my ex now wants to take full custody, because he is angry with me. He is throwing all kinds of horrible accusations out there and trying to prove me unfit, but when we divorced, he GAVE me full custody. We never fought about it or even went to court, I asked for it, and he agreed. What chance does he have? We live in MN if that helps. I have had full physical custody of my son for 3 years, and my ex now wants to take full custody, because he is angry with me. He is throwing all kinds of horrible accusations out there and trying to prove me unfit, but when we divorced, he GAVE me full custody. We never fought about it or even went to court, I asked for it, and he agreed. What chance does he have? We live in MN if that helps.

]]> By: roberthttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-39340 robert Mon, 28 Nov 2011 14:27:43 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-39340 i raised four children with full custody and a no access order your children just grow up and hate you anyways now i am just looking to find a woman with a farm or ranch that i can live in the barn and work full time for free I just want to live in the country and work I have no family or friends integrity@cyg.net Robert if anyone knows a family or a woman that farms and wants free help its just the three of us now me 45 and my daughter 24 and my son 16 the others have been gone for five years now and they wont see me again so i just want to live my life and work for someone for a place to live i raised four children with full custody and a no access order

your children just grow up and hate you anyways

now i am just looking to find a woman with a farm or ranch that i can live in the barn and work full time for free
I just want to live in the country and work I have no family or friends
integrity@cyg.net Robert
if anyone knows a family or a woman that farms and wants free help
its just the three of us now me 45 and my daughter 24 and my son
16
the others have been gone for five years now
and they wont see me again so i just want to live my life
and work for someone for a place to live

]]> By: mariahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-39016 maria Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:21:18 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-39016 if you truly did all of the right things ...it will come out right....right actions right outcome ...mothers dont loose their kids if they are decent if you truly did all of the right things …it will come out right….right actions right outcome …mothers dont loose their kids if they are decent

]]> By: mariahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-39015 maria Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:18:50 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-39015 you should be should have stayed your hot behind in one place and did the right thing....but noooo love interests always supercede the kids .....i hope it was good to you you should be should have stayed your hot behind in one place and did the right thing….but noooo love interests always supercede the kids …..i hope it was good to you

]]> By: mariahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-39014 maria Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:16:24 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-39014 you sound like an excellent normal human being for a change ...after i read some of those other posts in here you sound like an excellent normal human being for a change …after i read some of those other posts in here

]]> By: mariahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-39012 maria Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:12:02 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-39012 get your daughter NOW ...stop being weak get your daughter NOW …stop being weak

]]> By: mariahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-39011 maria Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:10:37 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-39011 You sound like you have some serious issues ..with accepting responsibilities...and if you think a mother for a drunk is such a great life for a kid ..the booze must have deluted your thinking ....so lets see your a drunk you pick bad man to father your children and additional bad man because you dont learn anything from previous mistakes ..what you need is to sober up ..and take responsibility for your actions you incredible useless human being ...the problem with folks like YOU always an excuse why they are drubks weak or druggies ....put your child up for adoption ..apparently you are both useless as parents. You sound like you have some serious issues ..with accepting responsibilities…and if you think a mother for a drunk is such a great life for a kid ..the booze must have deluted your thinking ….so lets see your a drunk you pick bad man to father your children and additional bad man because you dont learn anything from previous mistakes ..what you need is to sober up ..and take responsibility for your actions you incredible useless human being …the problem with folks like YOU always an excuse why they are drubks weak or druggies ….put your child up for adoption ..apparently you are both useless as parents.

]]> By: hlwhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-30445 hlw Wed, 31 Aug 2011 13:47:57 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-30445 For one its obvious the mother couldnt get sole custody, second the boy wants to be with the fatjer and the girl wants to be with the mom, sounds like the mom just wants the kids to herself and do whats in the best interest of the child, to many moms use parental alienation to drive off the other parent well now judges are finally seeing how screwed up the kids get. I have custody of my two year old and it was hard but The only one who loses is the child, my ex gets all visitation she wants but doesnt choose too but good parents understand that a child NEEDS both and there shouldnt be limits and games on a parennts relationship with a child. For one its obvious the mother couldnt get sole custody, second the boy wants to be with the fatjer and the girl wants to be with the mom, sounds like the mom just wants the kids to herself and do whats in the best interest of the child, to many moms use parental alienation to drive off the other parent well now judges are finally seeing how screwed up the kids get. I have custody of my two year old and it was hard but The only one who loses is the child, my ex gets all visitation she wants but doesnt choose too but good parents understand that a child NEEDS both and there shouldnt be limits and games on a parennts relationship with a child.

]]> By: jeannehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/04/25/single-mom-sos-her-ex-wants-full-custody/#comment-30207 jeanne Mon, 29 Aug 2011 01:04:54 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=375#comment-30207 dear carla, i totally empathize with you.i am a single mother of five. my ex is also a police officer and he is extremely manipulative.my three oldest said they wanted to live with him and he encouraged them to do so and made my life at home with the three oldest very difficult.the two youngest didnt mind being with me.the courts ordered me to pay him child support,i had to move into a smaller apartment.he now lives in a home with his wife and our kids.he has three incomes...mine,his ,and his wifes.i couldnt afford to keep the kids part time and pay him child support.everyday i worry that my kids are sad that they are not with me more...but they are getting all that they need, have plenty of room to live,and seem happy when i call.everyday i feel an immense guilt for my decision;but i am going to school,will graduate in may with my bachelors degree.hopefully i will get a better paying job and be able to afford a bigger place .then i can go for partial custody again.i still have shared legal custody.until then i will see the kids weekend and as often extra that i can.pto's,school commitees,etc.i bring them to church every sunday and i have relied very heavily on our blessed father to help me along the way and teach me how to walk the higher ground and have faith that all of us will be ok with these changes.god bless carla... dear carla,
i totally empathize with you.i am a single mother of five. my ex is also a police officer and he is extremely manipulative.my three oldest said they wanted to live with him and he encouraged them to do so and made my life at home with the three oldest very difficult.the two youngest didnt mind being with me.the courts ordered me to pay him child support,i had to move into a smaller apartment.he now lives in a home with his wife and our kids.he has three incomes…mine,his ,and his wifes.i couldnt afford to keep the kids part time and pay him child support.everyday i worry that my kids are sad that they are not with me more…but they are getting all that they need, have plenty of room to live,and seem happy when i call.everyday i feel an immense guilt for my decision;but i am going to school,will graduate in may with my bachelors degree.hopefully i will get a better paying job and be able to afford a bigger place .then i can go for partial custody again.i still have shared legal custody.until then i will see the kids weekend and as often extra that i can.pto’s,school commitees,etc.i bring them to church every sunday and i have relied very heavily on our blessed father to help me along the way and teach me how to walk the higher ground and have faith that all of us will be ok with these changes.god bless carla…

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