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Do you keep up with your ex on MySpace or Facebook?

by mssinglemama on April 14, 2008

Crazy how MySpace and Facebook have changed the way we date. In just a few seconds you can scope out your ex’s relationship status, flirtatous comments and daily activities. Twitter makes it even worse. Maybe I should go on a delete binge tonight.

How often do you delete your the Ex-Profiles on MySpace and Facebook? Can you do it? Do you think I can?

Deleting an ex is like permanently severing all ties…but then I think of the ex’s who were my friends - the ones I genuinely want to stay in touch with. And then I think of the sting when I see their “latest activity.”

I vote for delete.

{ 15 comments… read them below or add one }

chatanika 04.14.08 at 11:27 am

I also vote delete! It’s tough, but so much healthier!

I’m loving your blog. I just started my own about my crazy custody drama…. mombyhalf.wordpress.com. Meander over if you have a chance!

Lauren 04.14.08 at 12:07 pm

Facebook will be the death of me! (I just wrote about how I saw that Anna’s father has been doing things on Facebook over the past week yet hasn’t said a word to me).

I’ve actually deleted almost all my ex’s/random flings (I still have one ex as a friend just because we really are friends, and then Anna’s father… but that’s it). Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be able to see what those old flings are doing, but I know it would just drive me crazy!

ana.biosis 04.14.08 at 12:29 pm

Myspace… is my horrible addiction.

I keep up with Dingo and the EX there….

It’s not good…it’s not healthy…but in my head…I think it will “prove” something if I find it….

Leslie 04.14.08 at 12:31 pm

Thank God the ex isn’t on any of those or I’d not be able to *not* look. I do snoop an ex on myspace, I wish he’d keep his page private so I couldn’t haha it’s just morbid curiosity now but I still feel like a stalker.

Matt 04.14.08 at 12:40 pm

You have to delete. Otherwise, it’s like an alcoholic hanging out in a liquor store! :) Great post.

sparklingmama 04.14.08 at 2:28 pm

I avoid my ex online like the plague. Although, I am a bit curious I find it’s better to cut all ties.

jon b 04.14.08 at 8:23 pm

myspace is my worst enemy right now. women i went on a few dates on or dated for a bit leave comments from time to time saying hey or what have you. thos drives my girl crazy. i do have a number of female friends who are just friends, however she thinks it is odd to have so many. she was cheated on by several men including THE EX, so i try to be sensitive to that.

but i must say i am guilty of “stalking” those i have dated to see the new flame or to gain satisfaction from their failed relationships. muahahahha.

Do you find yourself talking trash and saying names while browsing their profiles?

writebrite 04.15.08 at 8:08 am

I just recently deleted the soon-to-be-ex, and the ex was never a “friend” on Myspace…however..dot..dot..dot…Myspace has this nasty little option where you can save profiles privately as a “favorite,” you know, so you don’t have to keep searching for them, nor do you have to actually list them as a friend. Both of the ex-men are on there and they will never know.

ps…did I mention I know the soon-to-be-ex’s log on info and I check his inbox/outbox CONSTANTLY??!! *Slap me now!* :)

Shannon 04.15.08 at 9:38 am

For me it’s the opposite. I unfortunately found my husbands ex-the one that was dating him in between the two times that I did. Yeah she was the rebound. Ha ha to her. But I can’t help but look and see her antics and see exactly WHY it is he’s with me. It feels good to see her be so juvenile.
Oh, I used to have my ex-husbands password for his email and it was so fun, until I was a total moron and slipped that I knew it… and he changed it. That was really fun.

mssinglemama 04.15.08 at 9:40 pm

These stories are all fantastic! Thanks for sharing and I’m glad I’m not alone. But I lose interest. After a few weeks I just stop checking…but for some reason I don’t delete them. Because every few months, I want to see what they’re up to…hmmm…

This virtual world is nuts.

kevin 05.01.08 at 3:31 pm

Yeah, I try not to write about my personal goings on because I know my son’s mother will be all over my a*s*s. And its not like I’m doing anything anyway. But I’ve got a widget on my web site that lets me track who was there (city, time of visit, pages visited, exit pages, etc.) and i know my son’s mother has visted pages of females who are listed on my blogroll.

misc 03.21.09 at 1:20 am

when do you change your status to single from in a relationship after you breakup? I was kinda shocked when my ex as of 2 days ago already changed it !dang put yourself back on the market don't wait another second.

Laura 06.16.09 at 10:32 pm

Facebook drives me crazy. I found my son's father, who took off before he was even born, on there. What makes it worse is I know he is living really close by. We aren't friends and I can't see his page but it still bothers me that it's even there. My son is now 13 and soon will be wanting to know about this man… and I have nothing to say.

Angel Blue Eyes 07.13.09 at 1:02 am

very nice post.. i really like it thanks!!!

Natural Menopause 07.13.09 at 1:03 am

Oh, I used to have my ex-husbands password for his email and it was so fun, until I was a total moron and slipped that I knew it… and he changed it. That was really fun.

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