Crazy how MySpace and Facebook have changed the way we date. In just a few seconds you can scope out your ex’s relationship status, flirtatous comments and daily activities. Twitter makes it even worse. Maybe I should go on a delete binge tonight.
How often do you delete your the Ex-Profiles on MySpace and Facebook? Can you do it? Do you think I can?
Deleting an ex is like permanently severing all ties…but then I think of the ex’s who were my friends - the ones I genuinely want to stay in touch with. And then I think of the sting when I see their “latest activity.”
I vote for delete.
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I also vote delete! It’s tough, but so much healthier!
I’m loving your blog. I just started my own about my crazy custody drama…. mombyhalf.wordpress.com. Meander over if you have a chance!
Facebook will be the death of me! (I just wrote about how I saw that Anna’s father has been doing things on Facebook over the past week yet hasn’t said a word to me).
I’ve actually deleted almost all my ex’s/random flings (I still have one ex as a friend just because we really are friends, and then Anna’s father… but that’s it). Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be able to see what those old flings are doing, but I know it would just drive me crazy!
Myspace… is my horrible addiction.
I keep up with Dingo and the EX there….
It’s not good…it’s not healthy…but in my head…I think it will “prove” something if I find it….
Thank God the ex isn’t on any of those or I’d not be able to *not* look. I do snoop an ex on myspace, I wish he’d keep his page private so I couldn’t haha it’s just morbid curiosity now but I still feel like a stalker.
You have to delete. Otherwise, it’s like an alcoholic hanging out in a liquor store!
Great post.
I avoid my ex online like the plague. Although, I am a bit curious I find it’s better to cut all ties.
myspace is my worst enemy right now. women i went on a few dates on or dated for a bit leave comments from time to time saying hey or what have you. thos drives my girl crazy. i do have a number of female friends who are just friends, however she thinks it is odd to have so many. she was cheated on by several men including THE EX, so i try to be sensitive to that.
but i must say i am guilty of “stalking” those i have dated to see the new flame or to gain satisfaction from their failed relationships. muahahahha.
Do you find yourself talking trash and saying names while browsing their profiles?
I just recently deleted the soon-to-be-ex, and the ex was never a “friend” on Myspace…however..dot..dot..dot…Myspace has this nasty little option where you can save profiles privately as a “favorite,” you know, so you don’t have to keep searching for them, nor do you have to actually list them as a friend. Both of the ex-men are on there and they will never know.
ps…did I mention I know the soon-to-be-ex’s log on info and I check his inbox/outbox CONSTANTLY??!! *Slap me now!*
For me it’s the opposite. I unfortunately found my husbands ex-the one that was dating him in between the two times that I did. Yeah she was the rebound. Ha ha to her. But I can’t help but look and see her antics and see exactly WHY it is he’s with me. It feels good to see her be so juvenile.
Oh, I used to have my ex-husbands password for his email and it was so fun, until I was a total moron and slipped that I knew it… and he changed it. That was really fun.
These stories are all fantastic! Thanks for sharing and I’m glad I’m not alone. But I lose interest. After a few weeks I just stop checking…but for some reason I don’t delete them. Because every few months, I want to see what they’re up to…hmmm…
This virtual world is nuts.
Yeah, I try not to write about my personal goings on because I know my son’s mother will be all over my a*s*s. And its not like I’m doing anything anyway. But I’ve got a widget on my web site that lets me track who was there (city, time of visit, pages visited, exit pages, etc.) and i know my son’s mother has visted pages of females who are listed on my blogroll.
when do you change your status to single from in a relationship after you breakup? I was kinda shocked when my ex as of 2 days ago already changed it !dang put yourself back on the market don't wait another second.
Facebook drives me crazy. I found my son's father, who took off before he was even born, on there. What makes it worse is I know he is living really close by. We aren't friends and I can't see his page but it still bothers me that it's even there. My son is now 13 and soon will be wanting to know about this man… and I have nothing to say.
very nice post.. i really like it thanks!!!
Oh, I used to have my ex-husbands password for his email and it was so fun, until I was a total moron and slipped that I knew it… and he changed it. That was really fun.