Comments on: Turn-offs and Red Flags: What are yours?

By: Gayle

Gayle — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 18:33:29 +0000

Turn-Off’s:
High-waisted Jerry Seinfeld-style jeans with shirt tucked in without a belt, and a big-ass cell phone hanging from the waistband of the jeans. (In general, I like a man to look fairly modern style-wise).

If the topic of Vas Vegas comes up, he does the thumbs-up and says, “Vegas Baby!”

When strolling in at 4:30 pm for a 4:00 appointment is okay, and then I’m the one being uptight because he loses track of time…EVERY time.

Red-Flags:
When having general opinions that are different (ie politics), he pushes to convince me he’s right. Refuses to agree to disagree.

Can’t accept my love of celebrity gossip.

By: mssinglemama

mssinglemama — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 05:08:11 +0000

Okay everyone – it’s unanimous – bad teeth = turn off.

This is HYSTERICAL. My favorite post ever perhaps thanks to all you and your comments. I love my readers, I love my readers … I have the coolest readers ever! Yes.

Kisses!

By: mommypie

mommypie — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 21:40:02 +0000

Turn Offs: Bad oral hygiene, someone who obviously pays no attention to what I say, judgemental, small-minded, lack of compassion, lack of ambition

Red Flags: Being under 30.

By: tami

tami — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 18:55:01 +0000

Turn Offs- yucky teeth, pushing to impress, pretending to be what you are not, bad attitudes

Red Flags: any control issues, instability, blaming & risky behaviors, lack of eye contact

By: Andrea

Andrea — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 18:44:45 +0000

Hurrah!

By: mssinglemama

mssinglemama — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 18:06:27 +0000

Okay Andrea … I’ll make it three divorces! : )

By: Jim

Jim — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 17:25:22 +0000

…but my wife was crazy!

And today I found out my divorce is final. Bittersweet moment – a little more bitter than sweet.

By: Andrea

Andrea — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 16:13:58 +0000

(Hello. I’m a lurker.)

Turn-offs: strong cologne. lack of ambition (doesn’t have to be work-related, but have some goals for gods’ sake). ultra-religious. conservative. self-absorption. pseudo-intellectualism.

red flags: sexism/misogyny (you’ve got a problem with women, or feminism, don’t take it out on me). need to control dates. too physical too soon.

But, on the subject, I’m going to put a plea out there to rethink the “two divorces” deal. I know everyone has their own standards, but I think a person with two divorces who has learned from their mistakes or is committed to doing so is a better bet than someone who has one divorce and whose only explanation is “my wife was crazy.”

I say this because I am in the process of getting my second divorce, and I know how it looks. Some of us are worth getting to know.

By: Heidi

Heidi — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 14:09:42 +0000

Turn-Offs: Tattoos, facial hair, stupidity, immaturity, long hair,

Red Flags: Any sign of mental instability, lying, unemployment (or inability to hold a job for any length of time), lack of motivation, too charming/smooth.

I’m sure I could list things all day. Perhaps this is why I’m single?

By: liz

liz — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 11:49:05 +0000

Turn-offs: Caring more about how you look than I do, Being way more into video games than a 30+ year old man should, lack of ability to talk about anything other than one’s self, chronic tardiness

Red flags: Close mindedness, racist/bigoted tendencies, lack of ambition, serious family issues, a lack of some sort of religion/set of moral values, lack of chivalry, constantly criticizing the ex(es) as if you’re shopping for something better…

(Oh wait, I’m describing my ex!!)