Dr. Single Mom vs. the Pediatrician, and the winner is…

by mssinglemama on April 2, 2008

pediatrician.jpgWhen it comes to my son and his health…I always cave the minute a doctor says, “looks like he needs some antibiotics.”

I blame my knee-jerk and submissive reaction to 1. my ignorance about all things medical, 2. my severe guilt for being a full-time single working mom and 3. my desire to just get the hell out of his office because we’ve been waiting over an hour in that stuffy little room.

It’s happened three times this winter. We go in. Wait nearly two hours to see the pediatrician. And then leave 10 minutes later with a prescription for an ear infection. Always the same. This is followed by 10 days of hell as I force Benjamin to take the nasty stuff and spend a majority of my time cleaning his diarrhea diapers.

So when Benjamin started rubbing his ear this past weekend I tensed up. Oh no. No. Not again. I prayed it was a fluke but then he started shaking his head, then tipping it and finally pressing his ear to his shoulder while shrieking and crying in pain. Yep. Another ear infection.

Now, this should be the time that mommy runs to the pediatrician’s office and gets another antibiotic, right?

Nope. To hell with that guy and his stupid antibiotics. So I read up (online, of course). And look what I found. This article on Dr. Greene.com. He says a few things:

  • Some kids really need them, but most don’t
  • Antibiotics only speed the healing of an ear infection by a day or two
  • Ear infection pain can be treated in other ways and,
  • Most children recover completely without antibiotics*

I kept reading his site and found some homeopathic remedies like ear drops that sooth the pain and ear ache wellness chewable tablets. The next day I dragged Benjamin to Whole Foods and stocked up. And now, four days later and many, many nights of fevers and aching ears he’s feeling better.

Go, Benjamin Go! I knew you could do it!

Note to self: start acting like a real mom and read up on this stuff; ditch the guilt and find another pediatrician.

*[If your child is still spiking high fevers and in pain after 48 hours of said ear infection Dr. Greene recommends taking them to a physician]

UPDATE: The homeopathic stuff worked – he’s 100% better now…just 5 days after the first signs of that ear infection. Dr. Single Mommy rocks! And so do natural fixes.

{ 9 comments… read them below or add one }

jonb April 2, 2008 at 2:12 am

My girl’s little guy is constantly suffering from ear infections. He had tubes in I think she said…I was always sick when I was a kid until I got on some natural herbs(not herb) and medicines which boosted me up to the point where I haven’t had a signifigant illness in years. The doctor isn’t always the answer, but these days there are so many weird viruses and illnesses floating around that you never know. Parenthood is like a minefield, I swear. I don’t know how you do it alone sometimes. Way to go on your research and being proactive.


mssinglemama April 2, 2008 at 2:43 am

Tks Jon B.!!!

And did you know that we ALL absolutely love you!???

When I was shopping for Benjamin’s natural meds I picked up some for myself … and so far, so good.


Lauren April 2, 2008 at 11:20 am

That reminds me… Anna’s 1 week checkup is today. Ugh!

I had SO MANY ear infections when I was little. I had some ear drops, but that’s as much as I can remember. I’m pretty sure my parents went with whatever the ped told them. Eventually, I had a tube put in one of my ears… not a fun time!


singleworkingmommy April 2, 2008 at 6:32 pm

Son has tubes. Still gets ear infections, although not as much. Demanded the tubes after a winter of antibiotics–didn’t want my little guy on that many antis when he was so young. So far so good.

But like I said, he still gets ear infections from time to time, so I’m curious about these natural remedies. I wonder if it would work to give him those instead of the steroid ear drops when the gunk starts coming out. Something to think about.


mssinglemama April 2, 2008 at 6:39 pm

Single Working Mommy – I found our drops at CVS actually…they’re made by Similasan. And the little homeopathic pills he’s taking are called “Wellness Earache” by Source Naturals.

He is still sick today…but the ear aches have essentially stopped the drops definitely made all of the difference.

Good luck at that appointment Lauren! Try to post pone the immunization shots if you can. I waited until Benjamin was one year old … they can lower her immunity and also have been linked to autism. But that’s an entirely new post right there…


liz April 2, 2008 at 10:14 pm

I was lucky enough to have a doctor back in RI (where we just moved from) that was a big believer in homeopathic remedies. He would reluctantly prescribe antibiotics only if really begged — when it came to ear infections at least. (I don’t know his antibiotic stance on other nasty germs…)

My older son has had 2 ear infections (he’s almost 4) and my 2 year old has only had one. Between the three ear infections we’ve only gotten the antibiotics once. Tylenol was what really helped…

Oh, and on the immunizations linked to autism issue (I know we shouldn’t even get in to it!) — This same doctor, really into homeopathic remedies, was big into immunizations. The one ingredient that may or may not have links to autism is NO LONGER used in vaccinations. I felt like he wasn’t pushing vaccinations just to push them (since he would hardly prescribe antibiotics!) and felt completely safe giving them to my children. I might be, however, wise to spread some of them out. There are some visits where they could get 4 shots in their tiny little bodies. But like you said, a debate for another time…


pseudonymblog April 6, 2008 at 4:52 pm

Don’t feel guilty for being a single mom. I thank God every day that my mother had the sense enough to become a single mom…it was better than having a father around who drank to much and threatened her with violence…there are many important life lessons that you are going to be able to teach him, because you are a single mom…don’t feel guilty, stand up and be proud!!


mssinglemama April 7, 2008 at 1:28 am

Thanks Pseud – I definitely don’t feel guilty that often…just when he gets really, really sick. I think those are natural mommy guilt feelings though. You know?


googleguy August 14, 2009 at 8:33 am

I read your comment that you should postpone immunization shots until the baby is one year old because it has been linked to autism. There is no conclusive evidence that links these two together and postponing the shots can be very dangerous to your baby’s health since he/she only has the antibodies that your body has created and in order for him/her to fight off the illness he needs the proper antibodies that the immunization shots provide.


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