From the monthly archives:

March 2008

Can he really drop his little black book for a family?

March 24, 2008

We’re kind of embarrassed to admit this, but we’re glad you discovered us. We’re also glad that we’ve sparked what seems like a minor fascination, on your part, in single moms. It’s flattering, but it also has us both questioning your motives.
Rather than send this via e-mail, we wanted to shed light on the obvious nuances we’ve all been leaving in comments on each other’s blogs. We don’t like keeping our readers in the dark, especially when there’s a chance for them to learn a few of our own lessons as single dating moms.

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What do jerks and shoes have in common? Heels.

March 23, 2008

We’ve all met them (and most of us have unfortunately fallen for) one of them, or in my case, several of them – men who are complete heels.

The worst of the worst, they have actually taken the time to understand women, know our vulnerabilities and then they suck us in with the illusion that they may be the perfect man.

This is all according to Daphne Merkin who wrote an article in The New York Times this weekend that sums it all up. “Like four inch stilletos,” she writes, “these men make you feel good just by being part of your person, like the most enticing accessories.”

Please, please, please read this entire article. I don’t think I’ve ever read such an accurate portrayal of some of the men I’ve encountered out there. But I’ll try my best to sum it up. Here goes…

Before defining the heel Merkin first defines “the less damning subspecies of lethally seductive men known as cads and jerks.”

More…

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Thomas rocks and Momma Cum Laude could be in labor…

March 22, 2008

You’re the freakiest little train with a face only a mother could love. But my son has been playing with you all afternoon. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I forgive you and your freaky little train friends for being so damn freaky looking. ________ Sounds like Mamma Cum Laude will be going into labor [...]

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A few things to get off my chest…

March 21, 2008

Benjamin is teething. He’s been feverish and super fussy for five days straight now. I think I’m going to lose my mind. In these moments I do have secret husband fantasies:

“Hey, honey could you watch our extremely needy child right now so I can just sit down for three minutes?”

“Sure, sweetie…actually why don’t you go get a hair cut and a manicure – it has been four months now.”

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Will our kids be worse off?

March 20, 2008

There’s a very interesting comment thread going on in an old post I wrote on how much I love being a single mom….

It’s a fantastic discussion between Dad’s House and another single father, Jim. They’re debating on whether or not our children, the children of single parents are essentially worse off because they’re being raised by single parents….

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Thou shalt not speak of…

March 19, 2008

sleeping in when in the presence of a single mother.

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The Ex Factor

March 19, 2008

You rarely hear mention of him on my blog. Maybe because it usually breaks my heart to write about it. Maybe because I don’t want Benjamin to read this someday and think his father’s a lousy (enter superlative of your choice here). But now that Benjamin’s two…soon there will be questions which means Mommy needs [...]

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Shared custody…shared toys?

March 17, 2008

I was beaming with pride last night. I bought Benjamin his first Thomas train set for his birthday. After I spent 30 minutes setting the track up perfectly to fit his little bedroom play table, he spent an hour choo chooing the trains around. This morning (like every Monday) his father came to pick him [...]

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Date night.

March 17, 2008

When you’re a dating single mom it’s hard to get a night out with your boyfriend. But it means we appreciate these nights out more than single, childless women would! And as for the men who are dating a single mom, they really are amazing.

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Wanna get a hotel room? And other dating horror stories.

March 15, 2008

I have quite a few very single, very independent and very happy single girlfriends. And they’re very busy dating. Not quite sure how they manage to keep going out on new ones after experiences like these. ALL of these stories are true. Case 1: After a lovely dinner he informs her that yes, he’s separated [...]

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