Comments on: Need a man? Look in mommy’s bed. http://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/30/need-a-man-look-in-mommys-bed/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Tue, 22 May 2012 16:28:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: delexhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/30/need-a-man-look-in-mommys-bed/#comment-48899 delex Tue, 21 Feb 2012 19:03:40 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=293#comment-48899 i need serious mature single mother for long term relationship...email me any time. i need serious mature single mother for long term relationship…email me any time.

]]> By: Single Mama 2http://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/30/need-a-man-look-in-mommys-bed/#comment-47720 Single Mama 2 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 02:23:50 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=293#comment-47720 I recently stumble upon your blog only recently thus I'm not sure if you would marry the John Bear for good. It's your life I know but it's somehow unpleasant to see your dating involve the little one. As you already aware by now, kids get involve emotionally with the men you're involving. Be it starting from resisting, getting close to attaching, it's pain for them to see someone they attached to are leaving. So imagine, how many time of their little heart get broken in each of your breaking up. I could barely see this. Then again, your dilemma is real and pain as well. Are we confine to only the married one before showing him to the child? Not really. Following tips might be useful for single mama dating: 1) He must be deem a nice guy who adore you for you, which you did well by identifying it. 2) Someone who are serious about you and has the husband potential 3) Introduce the man officially to your child only when both you're ready to expose/to the child. 4) Be sure the child could click, which you has a successful one with Kris:). 5) Get feedback from the child if you should be seeing the man more often. but get them to prepare chances of losing him (get ready for the worst) 6) Be honest in the even if it's really broken up, the child must be well informed, which other mama had advise earlier. Bravo for this idea 7) Remember, they deserve to know the truth and make them involve in bit decision making so to induce responsibility and prepare for the consequence 8) Most of all, gather feedback from them from time to time if they are comfortable in relationship like this. I recently stumble upon your blog only recently thus I’m not sure if you would marry the John Bear for good. It’s your life I know but it’s somehow unpleasant to see your dating involve the little one. As you already aware by now, kids get involve emotionally with the men you’re involving. Be it starting from resisting, getting close to attaching, it’s pain for them to see someone they attached to are leaving. So imagine, how many time of their little heart get broken in each of your breaking up. I could barely see this.

Then again, your dilemma is real and pain as well. Are we confine to only the married one before showing him to the child? Not really. Following tips might be useful for single mama dating:

1) He must be deem a nice guy who adore you for you, which you did well by identifying it.
2) Someone who are serious about you and has the husband potential
3) Introduce the man officially to your child only when both you’re ready to expose/to the child.
4) Be sure the child could click, which you has a successful one with Kris:).
5) Get feedback from the child if you should be seeing the man more often. but get them to prepare chances of losing him (get ready for the worst)
6) Be honest in the even if it’s really broken up, the child must be well informed, which other mama had advise earlier. Bravo for this idea
7) Remember, they deserve to know the truth and make them involve in bit decision making so to induce responsibility and prepare for the consequence
8) Most of all, gather feedback from them from time to time if they are comfortable in relationship like this.

]]> By: mommypiehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/30/need-a-man-look-in-mommys-bed/#comment-890 mommypie Tue, 01 Apr 2008 04:51:02 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=293#comment-890 MSM - to answer your question - we dated for about a year, beginning when she was about 20 months ... so that makes it 20 months old to 32 months old, which is ... roughly two and a half? Sorry, it's late and my math skills ... uh, never existed. And yep, she just turned four, but still remembers ... *sigh* MSM – to answer your question – we dated for about a year, beginning when she was about 20 months … so that makes it 20 months old to 32 months old, which is … roughly two and a half? Sorry, it’s late and my math skills … uh, never existed. And yep, she just turned four, but still remembers … *sigh*

]]> By: mediakemihttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/30/need-a-man-look-in-mommys-bed/#comment-889 mediakemi Mon, 31 Mar 2008 16:24:48 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=293#comment-889 http://celebritysinglemoms.blogspot.com/2008/03/once-again-congrats-to-ms-single-mama.html Your reign ends today and I thank you for being our dynamic Single Mom of the Month!!! Kemi at CELEBRITY SINGLE MOMS http://celebritysinglemoms.blogspot.com http://celebritysinglemoms.blogspot.com/2008/03/once-again-congrats-to-ms-single-mama.html

Your reign ends today and I thank you for being our dynamic Single Mom of the Month!!!

Kemi at CELEBRITY SINGLE MOMS
http://celebritysinglemoms.blogspot.com

]]> By: QTMamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/30/need-a-man-look-in-mommys-bed/#comment-888 QTMama Mon, 31 Mar 2008 16:13:21 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=293#comment-888 All the answers are in my blog. :) My girl is five. I postjacked, and I'm sorry. I'm tired and totally have PMS! I don't think that you should call it quits. It is entirely possible that things will not end badly. All we can do, right now, it take one day at a time. Sometimes I wish I had an instruction manual tho. I guess that is what we are writing by way of these blogs. :) All the answers are in my blog. :) My girl is five.

I postjacked, and I’m sorry. I’m tired and totally have PMS!

I don’t think that you should call it quits. It is entirely possible that things will not end badly. All we can do, right now, it take one day at a time. Sometimes I wish I had an instruction manual tho. I guess that is what we are writing by way of these blogs. :)

]]> By: mssinglemamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/30/need-a-man-look-in-mommys-bed/#comment-887 mssinglemama Mon, 31 Mar 2008 15:53:38 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=293#comment-887 Mommy Pie - how old was MP when she last saw him? How long were you together? She's 4 now, right? QT Mama - I know! This is my worst fear...same question to you - how old is your daughter? How long were you with the guy, etc. Well...one good thing is that Kris is a good one ... not the type to hurt us in anyway and there are no intentions of marriage. And to Cara .. . Kris and I never, ever kiss in front of Benjamin. We learned this the hard way when Benjamin actually started trying to make out with us. (here's the entry on it: http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/11/27/one-side-effect-of-being-a-dating-single-mamamy-baby-is-trying-to-make-out-with-me/ Anyway - the only thing Benjamin sees are standing hugs. Mommy Pie – how old was MP when she last saw him? How long were you together? She’s 4 now, right?

QT Mama – I know! This is my worst fear…same question to you – how old is your daughter? How long were you with the guy, etc.

Well…one good thing is that Kris is a good one … not the type to hurt us in anyway and there are no intentions of marriage.

And to Cara .. . Kris and I never, ever kiss in front of Benjamin. We learned this the hard way when Benjamin actually started trying to make out with us. (here’s the entry on it:

http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/11/27/one-side-effect-of-being-a-dating-single-mamamy-baby-is-trying-to-make-out-with-me/

Anyway – the only thing Benjamin sees are standing hugs.

]]> By: QTMamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/30/need-a-man-look-in-mommys-bed/#comment-886 QTMama Mon, 31 Mar 2008 15:29:13 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=293#comment-886 woops, typo. Changed HIS mind. woops, typo. Changed HIS mind.

]]> By: QTMamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/30/need-a-man-look-in-mommys-bed/#comment-885 QTMama Mon, 31 Mar 2008 15:28:14 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=293#comment-885 You know, I'm going through this same thing right now. We had talked of marriage, he did spend the night and she did see him in the mornings. She asked him if he was going to marry mommy, he said yes. And then he left. Now it's me explaining to her that he for some reason that even I am not sure of, changed her mind. It was MY intention to marry him, I thought it was his intention as well. Things change, and now I'm left wondering the same thing - how long do I date someone before she is to meet him? When we talk of marriage? Cuz that didn't work out so well for me last time. And what happens in the next relationship? I just don't know. But I can say that for right now, she isn't seeing another man other than her daddy around here for one helluva long time. We both need some time to heal. You know, I’m going through this same thing right now. We had talked of marriage, he did spend the night and she did see him in the mornings. She asked him if he was going to marry mommy, he said yes. And then he left. Now it’s me explaining to her that he for some reason that even I am not sure of, changed her mind. It was MY intention to marry him, I thought it was his intention as well. Things change, and now I’m left wondering the same thing – how long do I date someone before she is to meet him? When we talk of marriage? Cuz that didn’t work out so well for me last time. And what happens in the next relationship? I just don’t know. But I can say that for right now, she isn’t seeing another man other than her daddy around here for one helluva long time. We both need some time to heal.

]]> By: mommypiehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/30/need-a-man-look-in-mommys-bed/#comment-884 mommypie Mon, 31 Mar 2008 06:58:39 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=293#comment-884 Well, I'm probably not the best to give advice on this, but the conundrum you find yourself in is exactly why I've taken myself out of the dating pool for the time being. I've only dated one guy seriously since splitting with my daughter's father. She was two at the time. He spent time at the house - she never did see him in my bed, and had no idea there were ever sleepovers, but she did grow very attached. When we decided to call it quits, she would ask where he was. I'd just say he was at home, and that would be that. Not a big deal, really. But I was amazed that even a YEAR later, she would still occasionally ask. I thought for sure she'd forget. Having him around definitely made an impression. It's a complicated thing, to say the least, and unfortunately, there are no clear cut, black and white, absolutely right answers. Like Single Mom Seeking, I also applaud the two of you for your honest conversations. One way or the other, you'll work it out. Well, I’m probably not the best to give advice on this, but the conundrum you find yourself in is exactly why I’ve taken myself out of the dating pool for the time being.

I’ve only dated one guy seriously since splitting with my daughter’s father. She was two at the time. He spent time at the house – she never did see him in my bed, and had no idea there were ever sleepovers, but she did grow very attached.

When we decided to call it quits, she would ask where he was. I’d just say he was at home, and that would be that. Not a big deal, really. But I was amazed that even a YEAR later, she would still occasionally ask. I thought for sure she’d forget. Having him around definitely made an impression.

It’s a complicated thing, to say the least, and unfortunately, there are no clear cut, black and white, absolutely right answers. Like Single Mom Seeking, I also applaud the two of you for your honest conversations. One way or the other, you’ll work it out.

]]> By: Carahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/30/need-a-man-look-in-mommys-bed/#comment-883 Cara Mon, 31 Mar 2008 01:47:28 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=293#comment-883 Blast! I just realised I gave you the wrong link above (last link given). It should be this one instead: http://carahurley.blogspot.com/2008/03/my-mother_13.html Blast! I just realised I gave you the wrong link above (last link given). It should be this one instead:

http://carahurley.blogspot.com/2008/03/my-mother_13.html

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