Adventures in Potty Training

by mssinglemama on March 26, 2008

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*UPDATE*

Read his response here. Unfortunately he didn’t answer our question. But, hey, can you blame him? It’s a tough one.

Dear Random Esquire,

We’re kind of embarrassed to admit this, but we’re glad you discovered us. We’re also glad that we’ve sparked what seems like a minor fascination, on your part, in single moms. It’s flattering, but it also has us both questioning your motives.

Rather than send this via e-mail, we wanted to shed light on the obvious nuances we’ve all been leaving in comments on each other’s blogs. We don’t like keeping our readers in the dark, especially when there’s a chance for them to learn a few of our own lessons as single dating moms.

So who are you?

We do know a few things. You are an amazing writer. You make us laugh every day. You’re extremely charming. Oh and you’re also a successful lawyer in Chicago who has an ugly little dog whom you’ve aptly named, “Little Filthy.” And even that is adorable. The only thing you’re missing is a cape.So what’s the catch? We think we’ve found one and we want you to either a) come clean b) tell us what your true motives are or c) come to terms with the fact that you’re just not ready for single moms and to cease all flirtatious e-mails to us immediately.

Single Mom Seeking and I have been blogging friends for a while. And when I discovered your blog…so did she. It started with a few harmless comments and ended with e-mails to both of us on the side.

And then we compared notes and discovered that you were telling us the same things:

1. You think single moms are hot
2. You have a soft spot for mothers
3. You like strong, passionate women

And lastly, (this is the real doozie):

4. You’d rather have a family than a little black book.

You delivered the same lines to two different single moms. And, you had us both for a minute there. But we’re not alone. Look at the fluttering of females who respond to every one of your posts. Are you e-mailing all of them too?

Despite all of this, we still like you. And even though you won’t tell us your name — or post your photo – we don’t want to write you off just yet. Why? Because you represent the quintessential bachelor. And, guys like you drive us nuts with frustration and excitement.

Here’s the thing. It happens all the time. We (single moms) have all encountered men who tell us they want to settle down, be in a serious relationship and have a family. But what we find is that these men, living their bachelor lives to the fullest, are the least likely to actually walk the walk. It is, on the contrary, the men who don’t profess their willingness to settle down so blatantly who truly have their heart and head in the right place.

But because every single mom has encountered a bachelor like you, we thought you could take a moment to explain – for all of us single moms– one little thing?

Are you just wasting our time? If the answer is no…please, clarify:

Do you really think you could give up that spiffy bachelor pad, all of those beautiful women, all of those fabulous nights out on the town, and devote yourself to a single woman and her child?

And please, you owe this to us, since both of us have stayed up way too late and let our kids entertain themselves just to answer your e-mails.

Sincerely,

Ms. Single Mama and Single Mom Seeking

[Photo credit: http://www.sxc.hu/photo/967917]

sweetfeet.jpg

*UPDATE*

Read his response here. Unfortunately he didn’t answer our question. But, hey, can you blame him? It’s a tough one.

Dear Random Esquire,

We’re kind of embarrassed to admit this, but we’re glad you discovered us. We’re also glad that we’ve sparked what seems like a minor fascination, on your part, in single moms. It’s flattering, but it also has us both questioning your motives.

Rather than send this via e-mail, we wanted to shed light on the obvious nuances we’ve all been leaving in comments on each other’s blogs. We don’t like keeping our readers in the dark, especially when there’s a chance for them to learn a few of our own lessons as single dating moms.

So who are you?

We do know a few things. You are an amazing writer. You make us laugh every day. You’re extremely charming. Oh and you’re also a successful lawyer in Chicago who has an ugly little dog whom you’ve aptly named, “Little Filthy.” And even that is adorable. The only thing you’re missing is a cape.So what’s the catch? We think we’ve found one and we want you to either a) come clean b) tell us what your true motives are or c) come to terms with the fact that you’re just not ready for single moms and to cease all flirtatious e-mails to us immediately.

Single Mom Seeking and I have been blogging friends for a while. And when I discovered your blog…so did she. It started with a few harmless comments and ended with e-mails to both of us on the side.

And then we compared notes and discovered that you were telling us the same things:

1. You think single moms are hot
2. You have a soft spot for mothers
3. You like strong, passionate women

And lastly, (this is the real doozie):

4. You’d rather have a family than a little black book.

You delivered the same lines to two different single moms. And, you had us both for a minute there. But we’re not alone. Look at the fluttering of females who respond to every one of your posts. Are you e-mailing all of them too?

Despite all of this, we still like you. And even though you won’t tell us your name — or post your photo – we don’t want to write you off just yet. Why? Because you represent the quintessential bachelor. And, guys like you drive us nuts with frustration and excitement.

Here’s the thing. It happens all the time. We (single moms) have all encountered men who tell us they want to settle down, be in a serious relationship and have a family. But what we find is that these men, living their bachelor lives to the fullest, are the least likely to actually walk the walk. It is, on the contrary, the men who don’t profess their willingness to settle down so blatantly who truly have their heart and head in the right place.

But because every single mom has encountered a bachelor like you, we thought you could take a moment to explain – for all of us single moms– one little thing?

Are you just wasting our time? If the answer is no…please, clarify:

Do you really think you could give up that spiffy bachelor pad, all of those beautiful women, all of those fabulous nights out on the town, and devote yourself to a single woman and her child?

And please, you owe this to us, since both of us have stayed up way too late and let our kids entertain themselves just to answer your e-mails.

Sincerely,

Ms. Single Mama and Single Mom Seeking

[Photo credit: http://www.sxc.hu/photo/967917]

to this song.

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bIEOZCcaXzE&feature=related]

Not sure but I think the lyrics might be about a son losing his father. Regardless, every once in a while I find a song that just hits me and I listen to it until I’m dancing in my sleep.

Can’t wait to play it for Benjamin tonight when he gets back from his dad’s. He’s going to LOVE the beat.

MGMT at SXSW!!

 

sweetfeet.jpg

*UPDATE*

Read his response here. Unfortunately he didn’t answer our question. But, hey, can you blame him? It’s a tough one.

Dear Random Esquire,

We’re kind of embarrassed to admit this, but we’re glad you discovered us. We’re also glad that we’ve sparked what seems like a minor fascination, on your part, in single moms. It’s flattering, but it also has us both questioning your motives.

Rather than send this via e-mail, we wanted to shed light on the obvious nuances we’ve all been leaving in comments on each other’s blogs. We don’t like keeping our readers in the dark, especially when there’s a chance for them to learn a few of our own lessons as single dating moms.

So who are you?

We do know a few things. You are an amazing writer. You make us laugh every day. You’re extremely charming. Oh and you’re also a successful lawyer in Chicago who has an ugly little dog whom you’ve aptly named, “Little Filthy.” And even that is adorable. The only thing you’re missing is a cape.So what’s the catch? We think we’ve found one and we want you to either a) come clean b) tell us what your true motives are or c) come to terms with the fact that you’re just not ready for single moms and to cease all flirtatious e-mails to us immediately.

Single Mom Seeking and I have been blogging friends for a while. And when I discovered your blog…so did she. It started with a few harmless comments and ended with e-mails to both of us on the side.

And then we compared notes and discovered that you were telling us the same things:

1. You think single moms are hot
2. You have a soft spot for mothers
3. You like strong, passionate women

And lastly, (this is the real doozie):

4. You’d rather have a family than a little black book.

You delivered the same lines to two different single moms. And, you had us both for a minute there. But we’re not alone. Look at the fluttering of females who respond to every one of your posts. Are you e-mailing all of them too?

Despite all of this, we still like you. And even though you won’t tell us your name — or post your photo – we don’t want to write you off just yet. Why? Because you represent the quintessential bachelor. And, guys like you drive us nuts with frustration and excitement.

Here’s the thing. It happens all the time. We (single moms) have all encountered men who tell us they want to settle down, be in a serious relationship and have a family. But what we find is that these men, living their bachelor lives to the fullest, are the least likely to actually walk the walk. It is, on the contrary, the men who don’t profess their willingness to settle down so blatantly who truly have their heart and head in the right place.

But because every single mom has encountered a bachelor like you, we thought you could take a moment to explain – for all of us single moms– one little thing?

Are you just wasting our time? If the answer is no…please, clarify:

Do you really think you could give up that spiffy bachelor pad, all of those beautiful women, all of those fabulous nights out on the town, and devote yourself to a single woman and her child?

And please, you owe this to us, since both of us have stayed up way too late and let our kids entertain themselves just to answer your e-mails.

Sincerely,

Ms. Single Mama and Single Mom Seeking

[Photo credit: http://www.sxc.hu/photo/967917]

to this song.

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bIEOZCcaXzE&feature=related]

Not sure but I think the lyrics might be about a son losing his father. Regardless, every once in a while I find a song that just hits me and I listen to it until I’m dancing in my sleep.

Can’t wait to play it for Benjamin tonight when he gets back from his dad’s. He’s going to LOVE the beat.

MGMT at SXSW!!

 

to this song.

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bIEOZCcaXzE&feature=related]

Not sure but I think the lyrics might be about a son losing his father. Regardless, every once in a while I find a song that just hits me and I listen to it until I’m dancing in my sleep.

Can’t wait to play it for Benjamin tonight when he gets back from his dad’s. He’s going to LOVE the beat.

MGMT at SXSW!!

 

How in the hell is cleaning out a little tiny plastic toilet easier than changing a diaper? Please, please experienced mommies enlighten me. How do you get the little toilet bowl clean? Do I have to scoop it out with a paper towel? Sigh.

And Benjamin just took his first pee pee in the potty!!! Standing up, of course because he’s 100% boy.

*UPDATE* I FOUND A BABY URINAL!!! No, I’m not shitting you.

Apparently I am the owner of an old-school potty chair. Tonight after Benjamin’s first little go my best friend’s daughter was over and promptly told me that Benjamin’s potty wasn’t nearly as cool as hers. “His doesn’t flush or anything?” she said. Oh yeah. I hadn’t installed the flushy noise thing yet. (Man job = postponed until last possible minute).

So, she uses it anyway. And then … I get a good healthy run at dumping the little bowl in my toilet. No way. No way. Wasn’t cool. And I love that little girl like she’s my own. I can’t imagine two more years of dumping out this little cup.

I call my mom, or Yoda. She raised six. (I’m in the middle).

“Are you kidding? What kid wants to go on a fake potty? Why should he? He knows its not real. Forget it, just get a stool.”

No plastic potty? Really? Mom is nuts. I’m going to keep the plastic potty around. In the meantime though I’ve been shopping for a cooler one … look what I found!!!

A toddler urinal. Yes, a toddler urinal.

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And an Elmo potty! Yeah right. elmopottychair.jpg

{ 15 comments… read them below or add one }

Cara Hurley March 27, 2008 at 12:00 am

Can’t answer your first question.

Hurrah to baby Boy for his efforts in the peeing department.

🙂

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Cleidianasouza February 4, 2015 at 6:49 am

I have potty trained my share of tolredds and I can honestly say that I do not agree with the reward concept for such task. Now I do sometimes it’s whatever works but I am afraid that this upcoming generation will not know how to do anything for personal satisfaction or even for the benefit of others. Parents revolve everything around the child to the point that nothing else matters. Are we raising a generation of selfish individuals with a ongoing sense of entitlement?I do not want to over generalize this. If the rewards stop after potty training then Okay, but I see this as a pattern. I never once pulled out an M&M and all mine managed.

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Angie March 27, 2008 at 12:33 am

Your training toilet should have come with a lift-out portion you can just dump in the big potty….if yours doesn’t have it, I would get a new one!!!

Great job Benjamin!!

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mssinglemama March 27, 2008 at 2:16 am

Thanks Cara – but I also have two cats…feel so bad for your situation there with the stalking cat! That’s crazy stuff.

Angie – just updated my post you inspired me to shop.

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Cara Hurley March 27, 2008 at 6:53 am

Thanks. It’s gotten worse in recent hours.

I am tired.

*phew*

So how’s the new training toilet coming along?

🙂

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liz March 27, 2008 at 11:52 am

Both my boys (3 1/2 and 2) skipped the little potty. Perhaps because I have very “solid” children (bruisers, 90%+ on both height and weight…most of it in their thighs!), the openings didn’t ever seem big enough to get their legs far enough apart and aim DOWN (instead of just straigh out…). I bought potty seats for every regular toilet in the house and stools for them to use.

Good luck!!!

(I still can’t believe the urinal! Love it!!!)

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Andrea March 27, 2008 at 1:18 pm

The answer–as you already know–is that it’s not easier, it’s a whole lot harder and more time consuming, but there’s no way to skip this stage altogether on the way to self-pottying bliss. Now, when I’m sitting on the couch reading, and Frances says “I have to go pee!” and runs off, and then I hear the toilet flush and she runs back, and I’m still sitting on the couch reading a book? The months of using the plastic potty don’t seem so bad.

At the time, I hated it.

And even though my little girl is itty bitty bitty and so there was a long time when even with the potty seats and stools she couldnt’ use a toilet–she still moved to that option as soon as she could. Your mom’s right, kids know the difference and they’d rather use what the grown-ups are using if they can.

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mssinglemama March 27, 2008 at 4:38 pm

Cara – kill your cats or get rid of that damn door! So funny!!! So far no other requests for the potty. I do not push it. But he knows where it is … so I gently remind him or encourage using the potty. But no pressure. So it could be another week before he goes again.

Liz – good to know!!! I think I’ll try the potty seat then, I just know he’ll like it better and until then Andrea, we’ll use the gross plastic potty.

Thanks Andrea for that inspiring tale of self-potty trained kids. Can’t wait!!! But then again..I know I will miss my little guy when he turns into a big guy. Darn it. Can’t complain I guess.

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ana.biosis March 27, 2008 at 4:44 pm

oh doodles had one that jsut put a tiny toliet seat on the big one…

so he has always gone on mine….worked for me…no cleaning tiny toilets…

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missmegs March 27, 2008 at 6:47 pm

Haha I like how the Elmo one has the little peewee guard. I learned about that the hard way while babysitting back in the day.

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Asmik January 28, 2015 at 12:17 pm

he needed a potty tranier. It got the best reviews. *shrugs shoulder* I hope it works for them. I didn’t get the toilet seat one, though. I thought the chair was better since you can use it anywhere. (I have no idea though since I don’t have any kids.)

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mommypie March 27, 2008 at 7:40 pm

Okay, THIS I know about.

We went through two or three models until we found the best. The Baby Bjorn potty is FANTASTIC. There are no little cracks and crevices to get disgustingly dirty. And there’s a little pee pee guard for the boys that’s round with no hard edges in case of … er … snags. The seat just lifts out, you turn on the tub, fill the bowl with hot water and throw it all in the big toilet. Not nearly as much gag reflex action as you’d get if you scooped it out. Pretty painless, even for a germiphobe like me!

Okay, that’s my poop talk quota for the day.

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mssinglemama March 28, 2008 at 1:28 am

Woah! Good advice Mommy Pie…but what if Benjamin wants to rinse it out himself? I envision a struggle … him grabbing the bowl from my hands and you know what flying everywhere. Ha. I’ll try it though…I saw those baby bjorns, they also have a plastic bjorn potty seat… so maybe that one. Hmmm….decisions, decisions.

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Najwa January 29, 2015 at 4:34 am

we have the bjorn that goes over the toilet and the bjorn potty chair. chiarle is not too interested in the chair, but he likes the one that goes on the toilet. it’s great because he can’t get off without our help, so he has to sit there!

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Ramya January 28, 2015 at 6:31 am

First off everything annoye has ever told me about pt is that boys take A LOT longer. Secondly Kailey is three and just now starting to really use the potty. Clint and I started threatening time outs for potting in her pants and that is finally what cured her of diapers. I was completely against the whole idea to begin with but it worked. We’ve gone an entire week with NO diapers. Kailey has no choice at this point. I signed her up for preschool in September and she HAS to be pt by then. My thoughts on it are this; Kids need/expect us to set the rule/standard/example if I let Kailey she would diapers all the time because it’s easier. I really think that at this age the diapers become a comfort, a security blanket of sorts. With Kailey the only way we have been able to accomplish getting rid of binkies and now diapers was one cold turkey and two force by time outs. It’s taken me a YEAR to get to this point, so no I don’t think you’re pushing to soon.

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