Comments on: Single moms and the men who love us. http://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/06/single-moms-and-the-men-who-love-us/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:59:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: sadmomhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/06/single-moms-and-the-men-who-love-us/#comment-26666 sadmom Thu, 14 Apr 2011 19:38:35 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-26666 I agree with everything in this article. They are pretty much the main reasons my (ex) boyfriend gave for falling for me. It has ended badly though and last night he told me I have ruined his life :(. We've been together for quite a while, but things have not "gelled" with my children the way I would have liked; in particular my daughter is not at all on board with me dating anyone, not just him. Yet, she's over the moon for her dad's soon to be wife :(. My boyfriend has come to the point in his life where it's all or nothing with me - either we make a full time long term commitment (move in together/get married), or we have nothing. My kids are not at ALL ready for that (despite being fine with their dad doing it), mostly my 10 year old daughter. She barely knows him; because of all the tension, we just haven't done a lot together. It would be totally irresponsible of me to make a giant leap like us all living together when things are not even close to being good between the four of us together (me, him, and my son & daughter). My boyfriend feels if it was worth it enough to me, I'd just take the risk, and things would fall into line (i.e. kids are resilient). He is younger than me, doesn't have kids, and frankly my kids' feelings are probably just not one of his priorities like they are mine :(. He feels this as rejection of him, when it isn't. I'd be perfectly happy to keep things the way they are until we all blend better but he says no, all or nothing :(. We are so good together, just the two of us, but my kids will always come first :(. I agree with everything in this article. They are pretty much the main reasons my (ex) boyfriend gave for falling for me. It has ended badly though and last night he told me I have ruined his life :( . We’ve been together for quite a while, but things have not “gelled” with my children the way I would have liked; in particular my daughter is not at all on board with me dating anyone, not just him. Yet, she’s over the moon for her dad’s soon to be wife :( . My boyfriend has come to the point in his life where it’s all or nothing with me – either we make a full time long term commitment (move in together/get married), or we have nothing. My kids are not at ALL ready for that (despite being fine with their dad doing it), mostly my 10 year old daughter. She barely knows him; because of all the tension, we just haven’t done a lot together. It would be totally irresponsible of me to make a giant leap like us all living together when things are not even close to being good between the four of us together (me, him, and my son & daughter). My boyfriend feels if it was worth it enough to me, I’d just take the risk, and things would fall into line (i.e. kids are resilient). He is younger than me, doesn’t have kids, and frankly my kids’ feelings are probably just not one of his priorities like they are mine :( . He feels this as rejection of him, when it isn’t. I’d be perfectly happy to keep things the way they are until we all blend better but he says no, all or nothing :( . We are so good together, just the two of us, but my kids will always come first :( .

]]> By: Turkeyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/06/single-moms-and-the-men-who-love-us/#comment-26137 Turkey Mon, 28 Feb 2011 13:04:55 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-26137 Well after 13 yrs. of not talking I ran across an old college crush from my freshman year on Facebook. She went through a bad divorce as well as me. I fell hard a little over a month into it. She has a 7 yr. old girl and 6. yr. old boy who I enjoy. Listen ladies I consider myself a fairly attractive guy. I have no kids and have plenty of hobbies and she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I love the no B.S. way she is with me. I love watching her be a mom to her kids. I love how she tells me "exactly" what she wants and when she wants it. I also love that she treats me and sees me like a MAN and appreciates it. For all you girls thinking I am a man who loves to be dominated. I am a football coach and a mans man. I am just a good guy who appreciates a good thing. Girls keep doing your thing and don't settle b/c there are good guys out there. I love this blog and used it when we first started dating b/c I didn't have a clue:) Well after 13 yrs. of not talking I ran across an old college crush from my freshman year on Facebook. She went through a bad divorce as well as me. I fell hard a little over a month into it. She has a 7 yr. old girl and 6. yr. old boy who I enjoy. Listen ladies I consider myself a fairly attractive guy. I have no kids and have plenty of hobbies and she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I love the no B.S. way she is with me. I love watching her be a mom to her kids. I love how she tells me “exactly” what she wants and when she wants it. I also love that she treats me and sees me like a MAN and appreciates it. For all you girls thinking I am a man who loves to be dominated. I am a football coach and a mans man. I am just a good guy who appreciates a good thing. Girls keep doing your thing and don’t settle b/c there are good guys out there. I love this blog and used it when we first started dating b/c I didn’t have a clue:)

]]> By: aidachkahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/06/single-moms-and-the-men-who-love-us/#comment-17405 aidachka Tue, 25 May 2010 05:24:34 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-17405 please someone give me advice,should i go on and date this person,he is really nice, well iam not bad either, i cook, i am sexy, smart and more but i come with the bagggage please someone give me advice,should i go on and date this person,he is really nice, well iam not bad either, i cook, i am sexy, smart and more but i come with the bagggage

]]> By: aidachkahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/06/single-moms-and-the-men-who-love-us/#comment-17404 aidachka Tue, 25 May 2010 05:21:48 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-17404 i am single mom,a single guy likes me and he is 5 years younger then me,he loves the way i am. ,but its just weird,why me, there are single girls out there,,,why me? i am single mom,a single guy likes me and he is 5 years younger then me,he loves the way i am. ,but its just weird,why me, there are single girls out there,,,why me?

]]> By: aidachkahttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/06/single-moms-and-the-men-who-love-us/#comment-17403 aidachka Tue, 25 May 2010 05:18:59 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-17403 i love it i love it

]]> By: Sunflowerhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/06/single-moms-and-the-men-who-love-us/#comment-17359 Sunflower Thu, 20 May 2010 19:36:43 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-17359 Well with an attitude like that you get what you put out Well with an attitude like that you get what you put out

]]> By: HonestGalhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/06/single-moms-and-the-men-who-love-us/#comment-15781 HonestGal Sun, 07 Feb 2010 13:19:22 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-15781 What a load of nonsense. Being a single mother is not 'cool' or 'sexy' or 'awsome' or any of the rest of it. "We are not easy and that makes us all the more special" In whos eyes? Certainly not in the eyes or 99% of normal men who have a very strong nature-given instinct against rearing another man's child. P.S. I don't expect this will be posted, even though it has been written by a single mom. What a load of nonsense. Being a single mother is not ‘cool’ or ‘sexy’ or ‘awsome’ or any of the rest of it. “We are not easy and that makes us all the more special” In whos eyes? Certainly not in the eyes or 99% of normal men who have a very strong nature-given instinct against rearing another man’s child.
P.S. I don’t expect this will be posted, even though it has been written by a single mom.

]]> By: JOEL DOEhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/06/single-moms-and-the-men-who-love-us/#comment-15199 JOEL DOE Mon, 11 Jan 2010 13:15:49 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-15199 HI GOOD FRIEND: I AM JOEL DOE A MALE FRIEND FROM LIBERIA. WISHING TO MET WITH REAL FRIENDS. THIS IS MY EMAIL ADDRESS: kjoeldee@yahoo.com IF YOU WANT TO MEET WITH NEW FRIEND, PLS SEND ME TEXT. HI GOOD FRIEND:

I AM JOEL DOE A MALE FRIEND FROM LIBERIA.
WISHING TO MET WITH REAL FRIENDS. THIS IS MY EMAIL ADDRESS: kjoeldee@yahoo.com

IF YOU WANT TO MEET WITH NEW FRIEND, PLS SEND ME TEXT.

]]> By: jamhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/06/single-moms-and-the-men-who-love-us/#comment-14817 jam Wed, 16 Dec 2009 20:09:05 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-14817 i love this post. it helped me remind that I am as much as special as I was before. I have this freind who treats me special and runaway when he founds i got pregnant. Myebe is one of those jerks that just to play with me. Now i know. i love this post. it helped me remind that I am as much as special as I was before. I have this freind who treats me special and runaway when he founds i got pregnant. Myebe is one of those jerks that just to play with me. Now i know.

]]> By: sbateshttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/03/06/single-moms-and-the-men-who-love-us/#comment-12590 sbates Thu, 03 Sep 2009 19:23:30 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=238#comment-12590 I am a single mom of 2. I was raised by a single mom. I agree that when it comes to finding the right guy, sticking to our "no time for games" policy pays off big time!!! Men are drawn to women that will make good "WIVES" and partying hard and sleeping around is not what they are attracted to. They want to settle down, and being a single mom you ARE supposed to be settled down. That is if you don't pawn your kids off on other ppl so you can do whatever. Thanks Again ;) I am a single mom of 2. I was raised by a single mom. I agree that when it comes to finding the right guy, sticking to our “no time for games” policy pays off big time!!! Men are drawn to women that will make good “WIVES” and partying hard and sleeping around is not what they are attracted to. They want to settle down, and being a single mom you ARE supposed to be settled down. That is if you don’t pawn your kids off on other ppl so you can do whatever. Thanks Again ;)

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