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by mssinglemama on March 6, 2008

124315322_efe6bf96ed.jpgI want to bring your attention to another great comment that came in recently…this one’s from Finch, one of nearly 500 men who have now read my post on “How to Date a Single Mom.“ 

Dating a single mom never even crossed my mind until my current relationship just fell into my lap. Now I couldn’t be happier. We’ve only been dating two months and I’ve already fallen hard for her. And her three-year-old daughter? Icing on the cake! This relationship actually made me realize I love kids! And yes, one thing I love about her more than anything is the complete lack of bullshit games that younger women typically play. I’m not looking at a fake plastic mask, I’m looking at her. Just her. That’s a bigger turn-on than anything.   – Finch

I just absolutely LOVE this. It proves my point – that when the right guy comes along, the fact that you’re a single mom doesn’t mean squat. It might be harder on us (for reasons they can’t really understand) but for them – we’re pretty damn hot.  Check this out … Yahoo Personals polled men on what makes a single mom so sexy. Here are some of the reasons:

  1. She’s strong.
  2. She’s not going to gamble her child’s happiness on just any man  - so by dating you, she’s paying you a compliment.
  3. When you do get together, she’ll make it worth your while. 
  4. She enjoys her time out more than women who can come and go as they please.
  5. No spur of the moment dates – you have to plan. But planning entails anticipation…and that’s cool
See? Isn’t that nice to hear?
 
I think one of the best reasons about being a single mom is this – we get to weed out the jerks, quickly. Whether we want them to or not – the players run away screaming while the good guys stick around. Pretty sweet bonus for all of our hard work, don’t you think?
 
Now, this sexy single mama has to go pack for her first trip in 3 years. More on that later…

[Photo credit: By Katie Tegtmeyer on Flicker]

{ 19 comments… read them below or add one }

1 ianeksi March 6, 2008 at 5:30 am

I LOVE this post! You A) took the words right out of my mouth and B) said it like it needs to be said. Being a single-mother IS awesome, and any man who can’t truly appreciate the magnitude of supremacy in which we operate needs to hit the road.

Awesome. Enjoy your trip. :)

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2 erzsi1113 March 6, 2008 at 2:33 pm

I LOVE this! We are sexy, strong and we are a great catch!!

Thanks for posting.

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3 mssinglemama March 6, 2008 at 4:13 pm

My pleasure! Happy to remind myself and everyone else why we are so fabulous! And this time we’re hearing it straight from the men…nice.

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4 modernsinglemomma March 6, 2008 at 11:41 pm

I imagine many of qualities that make a single moms so irresistible can also be said for single dads too. I don’t know if I agree with all of Yahoo’s top ten(yes, we are stronger than most dating candidates thanks to the emotional (and physical!) workout we get handling the responsibilities of single parenthood, but no, we can’t necessarily cook (unless you count unwrapping a power bar preparing a meal). =)
Thanks Ms. Single Mama, I love your blog.

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5 mssinglemama March 7, 2008 at 3:37 am

Modern single momma – we spell momma differently! I’ve noticed the variation on the spelling on mama since starting my blog…

You’re absolutely right – I’m definitely not a great cook – I definitely cook more than I used too, but not quite a mommy cook yet! Just don’t have the time to prepare an amazing meal.

And thanks for the compliment! So glad you like it!

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6 mommypie March 7, 2008 at 6:32 am

LOVE this post – everything’s so right on. I’m VERY picky, but I can tell you, when I DO decide to finally let someone in again, I’ll definitely make it worth their while ;)

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7 mssinglemama March 7, 2008 at 12:28 pm

Read Jon’s comment under my post “Porn for New Moms” Awesome! How adorable!

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8 milo March 13, 2008 at 12:18 pm

Couldn’t agree more with Finch… maybe guys like us are the minority…I certainly hope so ;)

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9 Sara Stanford July 7, 2008 at 6:11 am

Great post there finch. Showing that men do appreciate single mama’s will certainly help alot of womens self esteem.

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10 liv March 19, 2009 at 6:10 pm

it's like i said to my boyfriend over lunch last saturday, "it's so nice to have a kid-free day. we haven't had a kid-free day in AGES." he looked at me. i said, "wow. i bet last year you would have never thought you'd hear your girlfriend say that!"

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11 LauraKidsLinked March 19, 2009 at 6:14 pm

Being a single mom and dating is tough! I was a single mom with a son for almost 8 years. Patience and staying true to what you are looking for is key. Just when I was about to give up all hope a great guy came into my life that I didnt have to settle or lower my standards for. My current boyfriend of a year and a half considered himself someone who would never date a single mom, however after we met and he learned more about me and what I was all about the relationship grew. My relationship with him is the most strong, developed, stable relationship that I have ever been in and the role he plays in my son's life is a dedicated, devoted mentor.. Be patient ladies, theres a guy out there who understands you, your needs and is perfect for you!

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12 Janet March 21, 2009 at 1:45 am

Awesome post. I'm all pumped up now!

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13 janey March 21, 2009 at 3:09 am

Ahh said so well! I can't help but feel a little more desirable after reading this :)

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14 mssinglemama March 21, 2009 at 11:45 am

Awesome!!! That was my point entirely and it's very true. Trust me… the only difference about being a single mom and single and childless is that we attract the good ones – men who realize how awesome we are for taking all of this on solo.

Any stigma is all in your head – not theirs…

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15 babymamadrama March 24, 2009 at 8:45 pm

Yes!! thank you for that uplifting blog! Man did i need it!!!! ive been a single mom since i was seven 1/2 months pregnant, and the reality is soo much harder than anyone could prepare you for. dating becomes complicated and delicate. i still have faith my Dream Man is out there, but most of the time i am too tired to try to find him! ;-) we gotta stay strong, we are not easy and that makes us all the more special !

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16 sbates September 3, 2009 at 12:23 pm

I am a single mom of 2. I was raised by a single mom. I agree that when it comes to finding the right guy, sticking to our “no time for games” policy pays off big time!!! Men are drawn to women that will make good “WIVES” and partying hard and sleeping around is not what they are attracted to. They want to settle down, and being a single mom you ARE supposed to be settled down. That is if you don’t pawn your kids off on other ppl so you can do whatever. Thanks Again ;)

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17 jam December 16, 2009 at 1:09 pm

i love this post. it helped me remind that I am as much as special as I was before. I have this freind who treats me special and runaway when he founds i got pregnant. Myebe is one of those jerks that just to play with me. Now i know.

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18 JOEL DOE January 11, 2010 at 6:15 am

HI GOOD FRIEND:

I AM JOEL DOE A MALE FRIEND FROM LIBERIA.
WISHING TO MET WITH REAL FRIENDS. THIS IS MY EMAIL ADDRESS: kjoeldee@yahoo.com

IF YOU WANT TO MEET WITH NEW FRIEND, PLS SEND ME TEXT.

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19 HonestGal February 7, 2010 at 6:19 am

What a load of nonsense. Being a single mother is not ‘cool’ or ’sexy’ or ‘awsome’ or any of the rest of it. “We are not easy and that makes us all the more special” In whos eyes? Certainly not in the eyes or 99% of normal men who have a very strong nature-given instinct against rearing another man’s child.
P.S. I don’t expect this will be posted, even though it has been written by a single mom.

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