I want to bring your attention to another great comment that came in recently…this one’s from Finch, one of nearly 500 men who have now read my post on “How to Date a Single Mom.“
Dating a single mom never even crossed my mind until my current relationship just fell into my lap. Now I couldn’t be happier. We’ve only been dating two months and I’ve already fallen hard for her. And her three-year-old daughter? Icing on the cake! This relationship actually made me realize I love kids! And yes, one thing I love about her more than anything is the complete lack of bullshit games that younger women typically play. I’m not looking at a fake plastic mask, I’m looking at her. Just her. That’s a bigger turn-on than anything. – Finch
I just absolutely LOVE this. It proves my point – that when the right guy comes along, the fact that you’re a single mom doesn’t mean squat. It might be harder on us (for reasons they can’t really understand) but for them – we’re pretty damn hot. Check this out … Yahoo Personals polled men on what makes a single mom so sexy. Here are some of the reasons:
- She’s strong.
- She’s not going to gamble her child’s happiness on just any man - so by dating you, she’s paying you a compliment.
- When you do get together, she’ll make it worth your while.
- She enjoys her time out more than women who can come and go as they please.
- No spur of the moment dates – you have to plan. But planning entails anticipation…and that’s cool
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I LOVE this post! You A) took the words right out of my mouth and B) said it like it needs to be said. Being a single-mother IS awesome, and any man who can’t truly appreciate the magnitude of supremacy in which we operate needs to hit the road.
Awesome. Enjoy your trip.
I LOVE this! We are sexy, strong and we are a great catch!!
Thanks for posting.
My pleasure! Happy to remind myself and everyone else why we are so fabulous! And this time we’re hearing it straight from the men…nice.
I imagine many of qualities that make a single moms so irresistible can also be said for single dads too. I don’t know if I agree with all of Yahoo’s top ten(yes, we are stronger than most dating candidates thanks to the emotional (and physical!) workout we get handling the responsibilities of single parenthood, but no, we can’t necessarily cook (unless you count unwrapping a power bar preparing a meal). =)
Thanks Ms. Single Mama, I love your blog.
Modern single momma – we spell momma differently! I’ve noticed the variation on the spelling on mama since starting my blog…
You’re absolutely right – I’m definitely not a great cook – I definitely cook more than I used too, but not quite a mommy cook yet! Just don’t have the time to prepare an amazing meal.
And thanks for the compliment! So glad you like it!
LOVE this post – everything’s so right on. I’m VERY picky, but I can tell you, when I DO decide to finally let someone in again, I’ll definitely make it worth their while
Read Jon’s comment under my post “Porn for New Moms” Awesome! How adorable!
Couldn’t agree more with Finch… maybe guys like us are the minority…I certainly hope so
Great post there finch. Showing that men do appreciate single mama’s will certainly help alot of womens self esteem.
it's like i said to my boyfriend over lunch last saturday, "it's so nice to have a kid-free day. we haven't had a kid-free day in AGES." he looked at me. i said, "wow. i bet last year you would have never thought you'd hear your girlfriend say that!"
Being a single mom and dating is tough! I was a single mom with a son for almost 8 years. Patience and staying true to what you are looking for is key. Just when I was about to give up all hope a great guy came into my life that I didnt have to settle or lower my standards for. My current boyfriend of a year and a half considered himself someone who would never date a single mom, however after we met and he learned more about me and what I was all about the relationship grew. My relationship with him is the most strong, developed, stable relationship that I have ever been in and the role he plays in my son's life is a dedicated, devoted mentor.. Be patient ladies, theres a guy out there who understands you, your needs and is perfect for you!
Awesome post. I'm all pumped up now!
Ahh said so well! I can't help but feel a little more desirable after reading this
Awesome!!! That was my point entirely and it's very true. Trust me… the only difference about being a single mom and single and childless is that we attract the good ones – men who realize how awesome we are for taking all of this on solo.
Any stigma is all in your head – not theirs…
Yes!! thank you for that uplifting blog! Man did i need it!!!! ive been a single mom since i was seven 1/2 months pregnant, and the reality is soo much harder than anyone could prepare you for. dating becomes complicated and delicate. i still have faith my Dream Man is out there, but most of the time i am too tired to try to find him!
we gotta stay strong, we are not easy and that makes us all the more special !
I am a single mom of 2. I was raised by a single mom. I agree that when it comes to finding the right guy, sticking to our “no time for games” policy pays off big time!!! Men are drawn to women that will make good “WIVES” and partying hard and sleeping around is not what they are attracted to. They want to settle down, and being a single mom you ARE supposed to be settled down. That is if you don’t pawn your kids off on other ppl so you can do whatever. Thanks Again
i love this post. it helped me remind that I am as much as special as I was before. I have this freind who treats me special and runaway when he founds i got pregnant. Myebe is one of those jerks that just to play with me. Now i know.
HI GOOD FRIEND:
I AM JOEL DOE A MALE FRIEND FROM LIBERIA.
WISHING TO MET WITH REAL FRIENDS. THIS IS MY EMAIL ADDRESS: kjoeldee@yahoo.com
IF YOU WANT TO MEET WITH NEW FRIEND, PLS SEND ME TEXT.
What a load of nonsense. Being a single mother is not ‘cool’ or ‘sexy’ or ‘awsome’ or any of the rest of it. “We are not easy and that makes us all the more special” In whos eyes? Certainly not in the eyes or 99% of normal men who have a very strong nature-given instinct against rearing another man’s child.
P.S. I don’t expect this will be posted, even though it has been written by a single mom.
Well with an attitude like that you get what you put out
i love it
i am single mom,a single guy likes me and he is 5 years younger then me,he loves the way i am. ,but its just weird,why me, there are single girls out there,,,why me?
please someone give me advice,should i go on and date this person,he is really nice, well iam not bad either, i cook, i am sexy, smart and more but i come with the bagggage
Well after 13 yrs. of not talking I ran across an old college crush from my freshman year on Facebook. She went through a bad divorce as well as me. I fell hard a little over a month into it. She has a 7 yr. old girl and 6. yr. old boy who I enjoy. Listen ladies I consider myself a fairly attractive guy. I have no kids and have plenty of hobbies and she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I love the no B.S. way she is with me. I love watching her be a mom to her kids. I love how she tells me “exactly” what she wants and when she wants it. I also love that she treats me and sees me like a MAN and appreciates it. For all you girls thinking I am a man who loves to be dominated. I am a football coach and a mans man. I am just a good guy who appreciates a good thing. Girls keep doing your thing and don’t settle b/c there are good guys out there. I love this blog and used it when we first started dating b/c I didn’t have a clue:)
I agree with everything in this article. They are pretty much the main reasons my (ex) boyfriend gave for falling for me. It has ended badly though and last night he told me I have ruined his life
. We’ve been together for quite a while, but things have not “gelled” with my children the way I would have liked; in particular my daughter is not at all on board with me dating anyone, not just him. Yet, she’s over the moon for her dad’s soon to be wife 
. My boyfriend has come to the point in his life where it’s all or nothing with me – either we make a full time long term commitment (move in together/get married), or we have nothing. My kids are not at ALL ready for that (despite being fine with their dad doing it), mostly my 10 year old daughter. She barely knows him; because of all the tension, we just haven’t done a lot together. It would be totally irresponsible of me to make a giant leap like us all living together when things are not even close to being good between the four of us together (me, him, and my son & daughter). My boyfriend feels if it was worth it enough to me, I’d just take the risk, and things would fall into line (i.e. kids are resilient). He is younger than me, doesn’t have kids, and frankly my kids’ feelings are probably just not one of his priorities like they are mine 
. He feels this as rejection of him, when it isn’t. I’d be perfectly happy to keep things the way they are until we all blend better but he says no, all or nothing 
. We are so good together, just the two of us, but my kids will always come first 
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