Comments on: Single Mom Dating Tips, Part 2

By: Jamie

Jamie — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 01:54:45 +0000

I’m a single mom, of a 10 year old. I’ve been a single mother his whole life. I’ve been dating my bf for almost 6 years now. We own a house together and have made a pretty good life for ourselves. The only problem is the way my son and my bf get along. My son has been raised by women. He’s slighty sensitive and doesnt respond well to being criticized by a man. My bf doesnt understand and thinks that I baby him….maybe I do. I dont know. My bf and I have been in a little bit of a rut here latley and one of the things that needs to change is the relationship he has with my son. I’m not sure what to do with these 2. My son will not let me have any alone time with my bf, so that is causing tension also. Has anybody else ever had this problem? I found this blog by googling single parent relationships…… I am desperate at this point.

By: Suga V

Suga V — Mon, 10 Jan 2011 23:18:24 +0000

Hi, I have been a single mom ever since I got pregnant with my son 10 years ago. All I can say is I never intended it that way but the more you “force” a relationship the worse it gets. So I try not to look at the desperate aspect as time flies. However keeping myself “rare” was probably the most successful strategy so far. Being “rare” surrounds you with that air of mystery and tickles a man´s hunter´s instinct. Meanwhile you have enough time to figure out a successful “win – him- over” – strategy as you get to know him more little by little. Good luck and don t give up!

By: Nerlande

Nerlande — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 05:08:02 +0000

Hi I read part 1 & 2 and I got to say this scares me just a little. I have a 6 month old and I’m going on my first date since me and the father of my child split up over a year ago(yup a year ago…didn’t want a child right now so we broke when I found out I was pregnant) So I been a single mom since my pregnancy…But anyways…I’m going on a date so I decided to google advice for a single mom and dating…I came across this site and I sort of want to cancel my date now lol…I don’t know maybe I should just stay single for the rest of my life and focus on taking care of my daughter and giving her the best life ever. I don’t know…Just tired of the crap with men….No but seriously this is keeping it real so I guess I needed to see. Thanks for the tips!!!

By: Britt8706

Britt8706 — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 20:28:29 +0000

Hi Yall. I have been a single mom since my daughter was born it feels like i was married but he was to high and drunk to care. We been separated for 1 yr and 3 mo. He wont sign the papers. anyways. At the time i met my now bf i was working at a bar. Him and his roomate where regulars i loved serving them cause they werent creepy and tipped well and listen to my problems. So by the time my bf asked me out he knew i was techanly married altho my husband live 2,000 miles away he knew i was a single mom. And still asked me out. We took things slow told him up front he would not meet my daughter for at least 3 mo and she is first in my life then work.
He got up at 6 to go to work and i was getting off at 3 he would stay up just to talk to me. After 2 mo he asked if i would wanted a dayjob the company he works for is hiring! i said sure I am a field clerk now he a project engineer. At 3 months i said i am ready for you to meet Haylee she was 15 months old he was great w her they still on interacted once or twice a month for the next 4 months.
o and ps i was living w my inlaws for the 1st 4 mo.
He started regaulary coming over twice a week hung out w me saw how i was w haylee helped out when he could. its been 10 mo now and last night she woke up cause of a loud noise he went and got her and rubber her back till she feel asleep.
This Man has put up w so much from cancelled dates cause Haylee was sick or no sitter to me taking her to see her dad and trusting me to stay there. He has been amazing. I feel so lucky. Altho he not ready for marriage yet he 27 he knows i want to have another kid and be married at 25. I dont want kids after 25 and i told him you know what i want you dont think you can give it to then let me know now. I also have trust issue from my past marriage he cheated on me all the time w my friends. So i looked thro my bf cell last week found somethink that i didnt think was respectful not him but a girl from his home town was calling him babe and saying i miss you so on… i told he i looked tho ur text i saw this i dont like this its is not respecting our relationship nor me and i will not put up w it. He said i am sorry i didnt know you would take offence to that i am not cheating on you i am so sorry i hurt you. And hugged me a long w the fact he never got mad for me invading his privacy. That to be show maturity. We get along great never yell at eachother always have fun. And some guys dont say there feeling they do lil things just like being there when u need someone to fix ur heater or ucar dies and u need someone to pick up you daughter.
I say all of this to say there are great guys out there who will love you for you and your kid. And just like my bf when he decibes me one of the 1st things he says is she the best mom!

By: Cherron

Cherron — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 20:06:25 +0000

Val makes a good point. I’m 24 and the single mom to two girls. So my biggest problem with dating is trusting the men. I’m borderline paranoid when it comes to my kids.

Oh, and I definitely call too much. Its like a drug talking to another adult about adult things.

By: Val

Val — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 17:27:58 +0000

To Melissa……… Just have to say…with dating any man esp. in the beginning, be very careful and watchful regarding him wanting to meet your kids to soon. There are a lot of freaks out there and like to prey on a single mom’s loneliness and vulnerability . Above all, TRUST your gut instincts!

I dated a man for a few months, he came to pick me up for a date (asked to use the washroom) and after a time when he didn’t come back from the washroom, I tipped toed up the stairs only to find him in my daughter’s bedroom going through her panty drawer!! A few weeks later I received a phone call from the police, he had been arrested for possession of child pornography, photos and on his personal computer and they had gotten my name from his email list.

So just be very watchful, observant and trust how you’re feeling!

By: melissa

melissa — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 00:23:30 +0000

I have been a single mom for a year and a half. I started to online date about 6 months ago. I realize alot of guys say they dont care about you having kids till it comes down to the relality of it. Then on top of the getting burned so many times im very weary of men, but about 2 and a half months ago i started to talk to this guy. We talk for 2 months then meet for the first time 2 weeks ago, we have really hit it off, im scared to trust again, and im afraid to get serious, he seems extremely excited about meet my kids sometime. any advice?

By: jules

jules — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 03:17:37 +0000

I have been a single mom for 6yrs now, and during those 6yrs i had a 1 yr relationship, that ended very badly. I have been very cautious in letting anyone come close to me. But recently met a man who has full custody of his 9yrs old daughter. Things are going great..we speak everyday and text in the morning..he understand my situation, we only see each other once a week…and i already feel connected to him but a part of me is scared and is worry about where this is going..It so hard doing it on my own especially now that i just turned 34 and want someone to be there for me…my daughter on the other hand doesn’t want to hear the word that mom has a boyfriend..she said we are fine just the two of us…my daughter has never had a father figure and this man he is so great with his daughter..my advice is don’t lock yourself away from the world..be honest..live..choose carefully and be ready to let go..if it doesn’t work out..

By: Sara

Sara — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 20:41:07 +0000

I have been dating a man since my daughter was six months old, she will be starting JK in 3 weeks. BF loves us both very much, we spend alot of time with his extended family, he is a very ambitious hard working man that comes from a solid christian home. However, after 4 years in this relationship he still shies away from talk of marriage, children or a mortgage. he has adapted and grown ALOT in the past 4 years to fit into our lives but I still feel like there’s something lacking.

Do I give him an ultimatum? wait it out? bail?

By: janie

janie — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 22:14:58 +0000

I do that too! Delete…..and sometimes you may be suprised:)