Comments on: How to escape a bad date.

By: Dan the Man

Dan the Man — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 09:42:18 +0000

Thanks.

By: mssinglemama

mssinglemama — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 13:05:04 +0000

Of course…but I learned that trick first from my mother when I called a guy I had met for two minutes at a bar (he was a friend of a friend). She said – “just do coffee, you can leave if it’s awful and everyone loves coffee!” Then I read the same advice in Rachel Sarah’s book, Single Mom Seeking. She has a lot of tips about online dating…so…there you go! All of our ideas originiate from somewhere don’t they? I’m not a worry wort about libel. This is a community of ideas, our country that is which is why it’s so great!

By: Dan the Man

Dan the Man — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 05:17:25 +0000

You’re very welcome! And by the way, I like your usual style, the coffee dates in the afternoon for brief time periods to check chemistry and stay in the safety of a public domain. Would you mind if I used that on my blog as an advice point? If you like, I can make sure you get 100% credit for it, I won’t commit Libel because I’d hate it if somebody did that to me. ^_^

By: mssinglemama

mssinglemama — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 12:41:57 +0000

Thank you so much for posting this Dan…very, very good point. I don’t think I would ever set up an evening date for a first meeting without bringing some friends. Instead I have done coffee dates in the afternoon – on a lunch break when you don’t have much time. Keeps it short and sweet if there’s no chemistry.

Thanks again!

By: Dan the Man

Dan the Man — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 07:44:33 +0000

One of the things I always advise when finding dates on the internet, is setting the expectation that the first date is never done alone, and for safety sake. This has a dual benefit. First, if the intended date feels that such a requirement is unnecessary and intrusive, the date does not happen. Only those with ulterior motives/plots argue that point, the ones who are truly interested in a possible relationship will agree to the wisdom immediately. The second benefit related to her need to get out of the bad date. If the chemistry is bad, the looks don’t quite sit right, the friend will know and there will be immediate support in backing out of the date immediately.

Understand, a lot of those out there who wish harm don’t look like creeps or freaks, in fact, some are just the opposite. They can have a winning, beautiful smile, a nice personality, and if you have to use the rest room, a roofie in the bottom of his blazer pocket. This is the guy who would complain about having a friend along, because he couldn’t spike that drink with the friend still at the table.

Stay safe, I guess is what I’m trying to say. Dating can be a brutal world, eliminating the evil from it as much as possible should be considered.

By: mssinglemama

mssinglemama — Fri, 15 Feb 2008 14:12:11 +0000

Not sure…she usually does talk to them on the phone first – maybe they just chatted online…but yes…one lesson I’ve learned always talk on the phone first before an internet date…and as you taught me in your book (Single Mom Seeking – a must read!) – always book a coffee date when it’s with a stranger. Cuts the date to an hour and eliminates the need for an escape plan.

Thank you!!! You too Rachel! I hope you had a wonderful V-Day with Mae.

By: singlemomseeking

singlemomseeking — Fri, 15 Feb 2008 07:12:43 +0000

Wait a sec, didn’t she talk to him on the phone first?… Hmmm.

Happy Heart Day to you Beautiful!!