Comments on: Daycare ladies: a tribute to my better halves. http://mssinglemama.com/2008/02/13/calling-all-daycares/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 00:59:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: jon bhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/02/13/calling-all-daycares/#comment-506 jon b Fri, 07 Mar 2008 15:20:17 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=185#comment-506 My girl is like this too. When he is with his bio-parent she will call to check up and then to say goodnight. At first I thought she was being overprotective and also keeping tabs on the ex. But i have come to see her point of view and that once a child depends on you and loves you it is hard to be apart. At times when we go on a date she gets sappy half way through and says she misses him. I have grown to love the little guy too but I think after only five months it isn't like hers. he and I have this mutual respect and love hting going. It scares the shit out of me at times to be honest. Any way, back on track. You aren;' alone in calling. She does, and lord when she drops him off in the morning and he cries for her to come back and to not leave she is a wreck every day. Is this normal? I don't know, maybe I'm a guy and deep down I'm a Klingon(Spartan for you non trekkies) and can turn the emotions off and walk away. He is a smart boy and knows how to push her buttons and is definitely making her feel guilty(you'd swear he was Jewish). But I'm not a woman and definitely not his mom so although I empathize with her I can;t entirely understand where she is coming from sometimes. One thing I have learned from being involved with her and now taking on a more prominent role in his life is how much it makes you reflect on yourself and ask so many questions of yourself. Am I ready for htis? Can I DO this? Do I love him? Can we make htis work? God I never want to hurt either of them. Your head is on a swivel non stop with a child. One thing is for sure, it ain't boring! My girl is like this too. When he is with his bio-parent she will call to check up and then to say goodnight. At first I thought she was being overprotective and also keeping tabs on the ex. But i have come to see her point of view and that once a child depends on you and loves you it is hard to be apart. At times when we go on a date she gets sappy half way through and says she misses him. I have grown to love the little guy too but I think after only five months it isn’t like hers. he and I have this mutual respect and love hting going. It scares the shit out of me at times to be honest.

Any way, back on track. You aren;’ alone in calling. She does, and lord when she drops him off in the morning and he cries for her to come back and to not leave she is a wreck every day. Is this normal? I don’t know, maybe I’m a guy and deep down I’m a Klingon(Spartan for you non trekkies) and can turn the emotions off and walk away. He is a smart boy and knows how to push her buttons and is definitely making her feel guilty(you’d swear he was Jewish). But I’m not a woman and definitely not his mom so although I empathize with her I can;t entirely understand where she is coming from sometimes.

One thing I have learned from being involved with her and now taking on a more prominent role in his life is how much it makes you reflect on yourself and ask so many questions of yourself. Am I ready for htis? Can I DO this? Do I love him? Can we make htis work? God I never want to hurt either of them. Your head is on a swivel non stop with a child. One thing is for sure, it ain’t boring!

]]> By: ana.biosishttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/02/13/calling-all-daycares/#comment-504 ana.biosis Tue, 19 Feb 2008 19:37:53 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=185#comment-504 Here this may make ya feel better. I can actually log on and see what my Doodle is doing....I used to do it a zillion times a day but I don't anymore.... I stay around when I pick him up, talk to the other children, the teacher, sometimes I even get onthe floor and play for 10-15 minutes. This is my Doodles home away from home...of course I want to be part of it too. Here this may make ya feel better. I can actually log on and see what my Doodle is doing….I used to do it a zillion times a day but I don’t anymore….

I stay around when I pick him up, talk to the other children, the teacher, sometimes I even get onthe floor and play for 10-15 minutes. This is my Doodles home away from home…of course I want to be part of it too.

]]> By: singlemomseekinghttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/02/13/calling-all-daycares/#comment-505 singlemomseeking Thu, 14 Feb 2008 00:15:49 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/?p=185#comment-505 Ah, this cracked me up... because I SO relate! Last year, at my daughter's parent-teacher conference, I'd already gone 5 minutes overtime and I was on the verge of tears as the teacher gushed about her. I didn't want to go. It's like you said: when you don't have anyone to talk to about your child, you just want to hang onto those moments for a few more minutes. Now, I often call my sister. "Guess what your niece did today?" It helps, it really does. Ah, this cracked me up… because I SO relate! Last year, at my daughter’s parent-teacher conference, I’d already gone 5 minutes overtime and I was on the verge of tears as the teacher gushed about her. I didn’t want to go.

It’s like you said: when you don’t have anyone to talk to about your child, you just want to hang onto those moments for a few more minutes.

Now, I often call my sister. “Guess what your niece did today?” It helps, it really does.

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