Comments on: Does romance really exist?

By: Gem

Gem — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 14:12:25 +0000

I know I’m late here, but I read this and it struck a chord with me. I stopped being (quite so) disappointed about the lack of traditional romantic outpourings from the guys I dated pretty early on when I tried to think of things from their perspective. My boyfriend brings me lunch to work. He picks up little things for me that he finds. He lends me books that he thinks I’ll love. I don’t expect flowers and chocolates because that just isn’t how he (and the other guys I’ve been involved with) rolls. My dad is a flower, card and jewelry man. He’s traditional to the letter. I just learned a long time ago to take a man for who he is and he’ll show you in his own way that you are special to him, if he is worth a damn.

By: Jokingho

Jokingho — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 20:00:51 +0000

romance stems from love and love never dies, only changes form. http://www.jokinghorsepub.com/index.php?main_page...

By: date guys

date guys — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 17:02:09 +0000

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By: Sara

Sara — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 15:51:00 +0000

Thanks, Ms. Single Mama. I’m finding that you must be willing to let that romantic love come to you and when it does know it, see it, appreciate it. As much as men sometimes lack the instinct to give love in these little everyday acts, women (me) sometimes have a tendency to take them for granted. I had a love like this, but I let other things get in the way. I stopped appreciating what he was doing (almost all of the above) and now that love is gone.

So, yes, gentlemen please keep up on the little things. And ladies take a moment each day to put everything else out of your head and appreciate them. Romance is the act of taking a moment to look at your partner and really see them. The rest follows naturally from there.

By: Mark

Mark — Sat, 09 Feb 2008 13:26:05 +0000

mssinglemama – It’s hard to put a definition on romance. I know alot of women and they all find different things to be romantic. Some see getting flowers for no reason as romantic, Others think romance can be a simple look that they can see the love in your eyes. My wife and I think it is more the small simple things, like having her tea ready when she gets up in the morning or just cuddling on the sofa watching TV at night. It can be as simple as a gentle touch on her cheek or coming up behind her and for no reason hugging her and whispering in her ear how special I think she is. Now don’t get me wrong, we aren’t without our problems but we work things out. To say what is romantic, you would have to know the woman you are romancing. Everyone is different and everyone has a different view on what is romantic. Bottom line, pay attention to your other half and let them know they are loved by your actions and not just you words. words can get old and repetitive fast.

By: mssinglemama

mssinglemama — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 19:44:22 +0000

Mark – thank you, thank you – I was hoping to hear a happily married and romantic man contradict me. It would be great if you could add some specifics – how are you romantic? Any tips for the other guys out there?

Dreamzz…very interesting – the definition of romance! Wow. Thanks so much for that!

By: dreamzzz

dreamzzz — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 19:15:07 +0000

What you wrote made me think and I think you’ll find this interesting – I searched *romance* in dictionary.com and its synonyms it shows 1.. story, fiction. 4. falsehood, fable. 6. allure, fascination, exoticism.

I am not sure about that you know my mind says one thing and my heart the other. I am, like you have depicted, a believer – in love, in romance and in fairy tales. Lots of fairy tale things have happened with me and then they have disappeared too.

I believe men could be romantic but for short terms. Your dad was an exception ( we all aren’t lucky like your mom to be loved to such an extent ) but almost 99.99% men could be romantic only short term or between huge breaks. But then even that little time makes life so much more beautiful and gives me energy and desire and hope and yes, happiness.

I think romantic things done with all there heart is a way to show love but then there are other things as well that show love. So I think we should cut those men some slack and try to see the good things. I am glad they are atl east programmed for that little romance that they show.

Romance to me somehow only revolves around the significant other and I couldn’t make myself assure of the other definitions. The other things you mentioned are sure *beautiful* but thats all they are. They are simple joys of life but not romance for me.

As for valentine’s day, for me it’s always crap if I am not in love during valentine’s it’s depressing. I try to assure myself that a lot of things like valentines day are meaningless and just commercial – blah blah – but in the end I cannot restrain myself from feeling low for I don’t have a valentine to simply celebrate the love between me and a significant other.

By: Mark

Mark — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 19:09:38 +0000

Not all men are lacking in the romance catagory. The romance between my wife and I, is wonderful and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Guys you do all need to remember to show her your love or it could be the biggest mistake you ever made. Trust me I know.