by mssinglemama on January 21, 2008
I’ve had a rough day.
I didn’t get dumped but my best girl friend did. And she’s a single mom. Needless to say I want to kill the guy (not really FBI guys, but I do want to punch him in the face).
Instead of ranting about what a jerk her now ex-boyfriend is I’ve decided to channel my negative energy into a cynical but hopefully interesting post.
I have a theory – how we break up with someone is a true reflection of our character.
Here are some of the most common ways to break up with someone (in my dating experience) – guess which one the guy used on my single mom friend?
by mssinglemama on January 20, 2008
The founder of Craigslist.com, Craig Newmark, says it often in interviews…”nerds make better lovers.” When I first read this I giggled to myself because I have been happily dating nerds now since becoming a single mother. Since switching to nerds the cool, suave guys don’t even phase me anymore. This is coming from a woman who used to date the hottest, slickest guys out there.
So with that said…here’s why nerds make better lovers:
- It’s all about you…all of the time. Nerds always, always make sure you’re satisfied. Can’t emphasize this one enough. Why? Because if a man doesn’t take the time to satisfy you in bed do you really think he’ll take the time to satisfy you outside of bed? [click to continue…]
by mssinglemama on January 19, 2008
Yes, there are downsides to being a single mom.
We have to cook every meal, change every diaper, deal with every tantrum and clean every room – every day, 365 days a year. But I absolutely love being a single mom. Why? Because I’m happy. I don’t really know how to explain it but I’ll try…this no husband thing really isn’t that bad. [click to continue…]
by mssinglemama on January 17, 2008
Not unless you do.
The question should be “Do you think men really care if you’re a single mom?” If the answer is no – you’re good to go. If not … keep reading.
When I started to date again, 5 months after my husband and I separated, I could imagine the end result – a sweet husband, a sweet father. But how would I get there? How would a man not run away screaming after spending more than one day with my feisty little baby? What if he saw me change a poopy diaper? What if Benjamin threw food in his face? And how would I even find the time to date him?
I didn’t think any man could actually handle that. But in reality – it was me.
I couldn’t imagine them entering our lives…so I never let any of them get in. I was pushing them away. More importantly, my desperation was pushing them away.
In the end it was a man who made me see the light.
This past summer I had a fun fling. He was super sweet and completely smitten with me. It was only because he was “safe and non-threatening” that I was able to let him see everything – me changing diapers, me covered in messy baby food, me cleaning the house, me being with my son.
In the end we broke up mutually and we’re still friends – he was a great guy! The lesson he left me with … men can fall in love with single moms – and just like always – when a man falls for a woman, they fall hard. And that whole kid thing? It’s icing on the cake.
This is all true if you’ve got a good one. The jerks will fall away and some may hurt you in the process but over time you’ll be better at spotting them
Have you pushed men away? Do you still feel desirable?
by mssinglemama on January 15, 2008
I love my adorable toddler and I love my adorable boyfriend…oh, and I love my amazing job. I love them all so much I just don’t want to sleep as much as I should. Life is too good but my life is also incredibly tiring. What’s a single mom to do? Say no to the boyfriend. Nope. That’s not going to happen. After all good lovin’ is one of my favorite things in life. Can’t pass that up.
How about the toddler – could tell him to chill out with a good book so mommy can take a nap. Nope. And the job – well, can’t quit that. Does anyone have any energy tips? [click to continue…]
