Comments on: I LOVE being a single mom.

By: Sara

Sara — Sun, 13 Sep 2009 21:03:29 +0000

Wow! I am new to your blog and I am so happy to find some ladies to commiserate with! I was never married to my daughter’s father, but at 33 and discovering I was preggo, I felt that I was ready to be a mother. Miss A is two now and has made me a better woman in so many profound ways. It ain’t always easy, but given the choice, I would do it this way again. The funny thing is, is that I am very close to BD’s mother, who was also a single mom, and loves being a grandmother. I have discovered the resolve that I needed to do this through so many strong and intelligent women who have gone it alone. The only thing I miss is sex, but, I am so completely happy and fulfilled, that it’s sort of an afterthought. : )

By: Melissa

Melissa — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 21:35:37 +0000

Lauren,
How did you just decide it was all hormones in a week? 10weeks ago you wanted out, and then 9 weeks ago it was all peachy!?! Is that the hormones too? Yikes, what a roller coaster you must be on!! I will tell you just as the rest of us will, being a single mommy aint all its cracked up to be!! I've been at it for 5 years, and I still have moments where the world is crumbling and I just wish….just once…that someone would help out. With anything. ANYTHING!! Think before you act! If being overly sensitive is an issue for you, think about all the rest of us on the other side of the spectrum…where the heck are all the men with emotions? ugh, no one is perfect, but if thats your biggest complaint….I wish I was you.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 23:56:14 +0000

Just thought I'd let you guys know that it was all pregnancy hormones… I cant believe how real it seemed!!! But I commend you all for succeeding as single parents, just the thought of having to do it alone was terifying. Best of luck to you all.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 22:55:37 +0000

Yes he works, I go to school twice a week and stay home with our baby, but that doesn't mean he should just come home, do what he wants to with what interests him and barely hold a conversation with me about anything..unless it is fishing and hunting. He works a night job and stays up late to drink beer every other night. I don't know when he crawls into bed, but we never really go to bed at the same time everynight. I love him, but we are drifting apart and I feel that since we have a son together we should stay together. I've told him before that I am unhappy and that I would like us to be more involved with one another as a family…but I really don't see him putting in much effort. I am 22, he is in his 30's. I want to keep a budget, he could care less about keeping track of the money. We have different beliefs in the world. I would have no place to go if we broke up. No money unless I lived with my parents…and that is the last thing I want to do. Being a single sounds nice.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 22:54:26 +0000

I wish my boyrfriend would help more around the house because he wants to not beacuse I ask (tell) him to!! He keeps his fishing tackle and hunting stuff soooo organized…but when it comes to everyday household chores…he could care less, he thinks that household chores is only doing the dishes….but when he misses the toilet…who cleans that up??? I do. I have to ask/tell him to give our son a bath. Asking him more than once turns into telling him.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 18:01:13 +0000

Well we talked last ngiht and we were able to boil it down to the fact that I am not attracted to his sensitivity. For instance, he says how he’s lonely if I dont text him during the day and that “sometimes he needs to be held and told that everything is going to be alright”. To me, and maybe this is stereotypical, but all of that’s just weird. I am so not attracted to a guy who needs that kind of reassurance, emotionally. I mean, once in awhile if there’s like a tragedy or something but I feel like I am more attracted to a man that has the feelings of, well, a man… does that make sense to you guys?

By: Lauren

Lauren — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 19:34:41 +0000

Well I am going to stay at my dads for awhile, although its a commute to work. Perhaps in a few months we can work this out if i realize its just hormones. But I feel fine. We havent been together very long, known each other for 4 years but only together 3 months before I got pregnant and lived together 1 month of that. Which, is my fault too. We thought we knew eachother well enough and rushed it. Bad idea.

By: MorseMusings

MorseMusings — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 20:56:33 +0000

Would it be outlandish to suggest you already know what to do and to look more deeply at what's right for you. The need for attention, approval or love do play a part at these kinds of crossroads … you can distinguish the differences any time you choose.

By: Ms. Single Mama

Ms. Single Mama — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 19:37:25 +0000

Lauren – don't make any rash decisions right now… you could also be feeling unattracted and completely annoyed to him right now b/c you're pregnant.

I know you may want to punch me for saying that but leaving a man while pregnant may be tough. I did when my son was just 4 months old … I just hope you exhaust all options before making this decision.

Being a single mom is fantastic but it's not easy.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:42:57 +0000

Good advice. But I dont feel like I want to have to be that way with someone, it causes more stress and spent energy on something that I feel like I shouldn't have to do, you know? I guess right now I just see living without him as the only door to relief and I am grasping at it! But there is so much more involved.