Comments on: Can single moms really “fall in love”? http://mssinglemama.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Mon, 21 May 2012 18:45:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: CHristinehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-63878 CHristine Thu, 17 May 2012 03:27:31 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-63878 Hey... Read your reply about your bf and kids...are you guys now married? How are you? you happy together... I think I need your advice. Hey…

Read your reply about your bf and kids…are you guys now married? How are you? you happy together… I think I need your advice.

]]> By: Jenniferhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-47549 Jennifer Sun, 05 Feb 2012 09:17:36 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-47549 I am a 22 yr old single mother of a 3 year old. I have been a single mother since i was 5 months pregnant and its been a really rough 3+ years but its been the most rewarding struggle of my life. The father is in the picture and a top rate dad, basically everything our son could ask for from seperated parents. We have had an ongoing affair since we split and although its never been more than physical its hard not to let it affect me emotionally. I still love him and im sure i always will but i just don't need him the way i used to, it just doesn't hurt the way it used to and i feel like for the first time i'm okay without him. I haven't really dated and have lived alone for so long that i feel like i've hit an all time low but then out of nowhere a little less than a year ago i had a man walk into my life and for the first time ever ask nothing of me but friendship and in the past few months i have started to fall for him in the best way. He is everything my son and i could ask for and he respects that my sons dad will always be his dad and he in no way wants to disrupt that relationship. Problem is...i'm SO scared of falling. When the father and i got pregnant it was in a dumb college crazy phase and what we thought was true love ended up being nothing more for him. I feel like this is the first time for me and i'm not sure that i'm read becuase i know with all my heart that this man could easily be our forever and i think that marrying your best friend is the best way to go and i do love him and i can't imagine life without him but what if i'm wrong? is it worth putting my son and through the pain that would come with a bad judgement call like that? i'm SO confused! any input is greatly appreciated I am a 22 yr old single mother of a 3 year old. I have been a single mother since i was 5 months pregnant and its been a really rough 3+ years but its been the most rewarding struggle of my life. The father is in the picture and a top rate dad, basically everything our son could ask for from seperated parents. We have had an ongoing affair since we split and although its never been more than physical its hard not to let it affect me emotionally. I still love him and im sure i always will but i just don’t need him the way i used to, it just doesn’t hurt the way it used to and i feel like for the first time i’m okay without him. I haven’t really dated and have lived alone for so long that i feel like i’ve hit an all time low but then out of nowhere a little less than a year ago i had a man walk into my life and for the first time ever ask nothing of me but friendship and in the past few months i have started to fall for him in the best way. He is everything my son and i could ask for and he respects that my sons dad will always be his dad and he in no way wants to disrupt that relationship. Problem is…i’m SO scared of falling. When the father and i got pregnant it was in a dumb college crazy phase and what we thought was true love ended up being nothing more for him. I feel like this is the first time for me and i’m not sure that i’m read becuase i know with all my heart that this man could easily be our forever and i think that marrying your best friend is the best way to go and i do love him and i can’t imagine life without him but what if i’m wrong? is it worth putting my son and through the pain that would come with a bad judgement call like that? i’m SO confused! any input is greatly appreciated

]]> By: pre-ownedhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-26789 pre-owned Wed, 04 May 2011 13:31:38 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-26789 i accidentally came across this blog trying to find some ways to discourage a man from asking me out. i am a single mom of 2 (from different men, ex-husband of 10 years and ex-bf for 3 years), 38 years old, 2 jobs, trying to make both ends meet. this man is a co-worker, 30 years old, single dad, who claims that he loved me the first time he saw me but has to respect the fact that i was in a relationship then. he presented himself the minute my ex-bf left me. problem? he has his son with a single mom, relationship didn't work out, he said it was an accident, he didn't love the woman enough to marry her and according to him is the same way with the girl. he is claiming he will take on my responisibilities with my kids, he will marry me and settle down with me, he will take care of me. I've been the "carer" of the ex's in my life. he is saying that it's time for me to be taken cared of by somebody. so? i like him, i want to give in to him but i don't trust him. i doubt his intentions. i can't believe that somebody can actually love me despite my status. i'm trying to convince him to go out there and meet other people that his eyes might be open to other options and possibilities, might even find a better woman to spend time with and not waste it on trying to persuade me to go out with him. i want him to enjoy life, he's still young. i don't want him to stop searching for his soulmate just because he thinks he's in love with me and that i am "the one". he's my friend and i want him to be really happy. i accidentally came across this blog trying to find some ways to discourage a man from asking me out. i am a single mom of 2 (from different men, ex-husband of 10 years and ex-bf for 3 years), 38 years old, 2 jobs, trying to make both ends meet. this man is a co-worker, 30 years old, single dad, who claims that he loved me the first time he saw me but has to respect the fact that i was in a relationship then. he presented himself the minute my ex-bf left me. problem? he has his son with a single mom, relationship didn’t work out, he said it was an accident, he didn’t love the woman enough to marry her and according to him is the same way with the girl. he is claiming he will take on my responisibilities with my kids, he will marry me and settle down with me, he will take care of me. I’ve been the “carer” of the ex’s in my life. he is saying that it’s time for me to be taken cared of by somebody. so? i like him, i want to give in to him but i don’t trust him. i doubt his intentions. i can’t believe that somebody can actually love me despite my status. i’m trying to convince him to go out there and meet other people that his eyes might be open to other options and possibilities, might even find a better woman to spend time with and not waste it on trying to persuade me to go out with him. i want him to enjoy life, he’s still young. i don’t want him to stop searching for his soulmate just because he thinks he’s in love with me and that i am “the one”. he’s my friend and i want him to be really happy.

]]> By: Tshirthttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-20953 Tshirt Fri, 08 Oct 2010 16:34:00 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-20953 Glad I came across this page! Im a single dad, had a relationship with a great single mom(her daughter and my son same age).Recently she asked for space because she said I wasnt emotional enough for her.I paid bills,picked up kids from school daycare,prepared meals when I had the kids(she worked late) and provided for her household for the 3 years we were together.In Aug. I confront her about some pics from her vegas trips with her gfs and now she wants space.Than in Sept I spot a guys car at her house.She tells me he's her friend and that she doesnt plan on leaving the friend...but still loves me.WTF? I've told her I want all 4 of us to be under 1 roof and basically looked like a sorry sap to erbody around me...I know I'm a great father and everything she wants in a man(at least thats what she said) but why is it that Im at this place in the relationship...I want to move on( she has!) but I keep thinking bout the lil girl I've grown to love and care for (her biological dad is a deadbeat). I think I should move on...I know I should....Damn! lol Glad I came across this page! Im a single dad, had a relationship with a great single mom(her daughter and my son same age).Recently she asked for space because she said I wasnt emotional enough for her.I paid bills,picked up kids from school daycare,prepared meals when I had the kids(she worked late) and provided for her household for the 3 years we were together.In Aug. I confront her about some pics from her vegas trips with her gfs and now she wants space.Than in Sept I spot a guys car at her house.She tells me he’s her friend and that she doesnt plan on leaving the friend…but still loves me.WTF? I’ve told her I want all 4 of us to be under 1 roof and basically looked like a sorry sap to erbody around me…I know I’m a great father and everything she wants in a man(at least thats what she said) but why is it that Im at this place in the relationship…I want to move on( she has!) but I keep thinking bout the lil girl I’ve grown to love and care for (her biological dad is a deadbeat). I think I should move on…I know I should….Damn! lol

]]> By: joiehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-13488 joie Tue, 20 Oct 2009 17:27:11 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-13488 wow i came across this page accidentally and i am so pleased to know that there are a lot of single moms out there like me. im a single mom of 2, (6 and 2 years old) and im 24. i met a wonderful guy as soon as i got separated with the father of my kids,i was nursing a broken heart and i never knew he would take me seriously but he did..not only he loves me but my children as well. we are together for more than a year now and the feeling keeps getting stronger everyday, he already proposed but his parents came in the picture ( we live in the philippines so the culture is a bit different) but now he is in the states and we made a deal that as soon as he come's back, we will get married, with or without his parents blessings. wow i came across this page accidentally and i am so pleased to know that there are a lot of single moms out there like me. im a single mom of 2, (6 and 2 years old) and im 24. i met a wonderful guy as soon as i got separated with the father of my kids,i was nursing a broken heart and i never knew he would take me seriously but he did..not only he loves me but my children as well. we are together for more than a year now and the feeling keeps getting stronger everyday, he already proposed but his parents came in the picture ( we live in the philippines so the culture is a bit different) but now he is in the states and we made a deal that as soon as he come’s back, we will get married, with or without his parents blessings.

]]> By: Tracyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-11420 Tracy Sat, 25 Jul 2009 00:31:52 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-11420 Thank you for this information... I am a single mother and in love ( I think) with an amazing man. I just keep wondering why there are no fireworks or feelings like when I was in my 20's. Now I know...I am to busy with 2 boys and 2 jobs. I am so relieved to know that I am in love it is just different at 47 than it was at 25. I guess in a way it is much more real and I am so lucky to have a great guy. I have a question though.... do you think he is wondering where the fireworks are too??? Nah he is head over heals!! Thank you for this information… I am a single mother and in love ( I think) with an amazing man. I just keep wondering why there are no fireworks or feelings like when I was in my 20′s. Now I know…I am to busy with 2 boys and 2 jobs. I am so relieved to know that I am in love it is just different at 47 than it was at 25. I guess in a way it is much more real and I am so lucky to have a great guy. I have a question though…. do you think he is wondering where the fireworks are too??? Nah he is head over heals!!

]]> By: marileyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-10509 mariley Sun, 21 Jun 2009 06:10:37 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-10509 Being a single mom and "dad" to my son has been the most rewarding aspect of my life. But the issue of TRUST is a big question to me especially when it comes to relationship with the opposite sex. Now I know my priorities and my son is at the top of the list. And I must say that sometimes, it can get overwhelmingly lonesome that I feel like crying wishing i had someone to do adult stuff with and share with. Oh well, guess you can't have it all sometimes. Being a single mom and “dad” to my son has been the most rewarding aspect of my life. But the issue of TRUST is a big question to me especially when it comes to relationship with the opposite sex. Now I know my priorities and my son is at the top of the list. And I must say that sometimes, it can get overwhelmingly lonesome that I feel like crying wishing i had someone to do adult stuff with and share with. Oh well, guess you can’t have it all sometimes.

]]> By: ChicaBondhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-9737 ChicaBond Tue, 26 May 2009 15:27:27 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-9737 I think in the past, love and (definitely) lust came first. But now as a single mother, my child is my number one priority and she is my love. What I need now is a stable environment for her. That's why my whole perception of love (between two adults) has disappeared. Meaning that I adjust my belief/lifestyle/professional career and needs to this new mindset. I don't mind at all, coz when I see my daughter, I see love, stability, hope and future. I think in the past, love and (definitely) lust came first. But now as a single mother, my child is my number one priority and she is my love. What I need now is a stable environment for her. That's why my whole perception of love (between two adults) has disappeared. Meaning that I adjust my belief/lifestyle/professional career and needs to this new mindset. I don't mind at all, coz when I see my daughter, I see love, stability, hope and future.

]]> By: lansprettyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-9301 lanspretty Thu, 07 May 2009 12:12:19 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-9301 I came across this website because I was wondering what to do with my baby. I'm 25 years old.. my baby just turned 1 year old last month... I'm still in the process of moving on.. and I think I haven't taken enough steps away yet.. I am worried how we will survive.. Do I have enough strength for me and my baby? Won't anger and pain totally swallow my whole being... Please help me... I came across this website because I was wondering what to do with my baby. I'm 25 years old.. my baby just turned 1 year old last month… I'm still in the process of moving on.. and I think I haven't taken enough steps away yet.. I am worried how we will survive.. Do I have enough strength for me and my baby? Won't anger and pain totally swallow my whole being… Please help me…

]]> By: AdrianInLovehttp://mssinglemama.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-7575 AdrianInLove Wed, 18 Mar 2009 01:48:50 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2008/01/10/for-single-moms-will-being-in-love-ever-be-the-same/#comment-7575 I am new here.... I am young, 27 and I am crazy head over heels into my junior high/ high school classmate. We just got back in touch about 5 months ago via myspace. Im crazy about her and her TWO kids now. Tristan 10 and Brianna 6. Shes adorable. Shes a little crazy though!! Damaged a little emotionally in my opinion and she agrees. Many times she has told me that she needs me to just be her bestfriend right now and be there for her. My mother asks about her but thinks it is a mistake. Im crazy about her kids and like to reach out to them but dont want to come off like im trying to get to her heart through them, shes defensive against that! I am sure that I want to try with her, yet i wonder if im just being naive. Any advice? By the way, Ive never been the one woman guy. Ive never been in a honest monogamous relationship longer than six months!! I know I know. I am new here…. I am young, 27 and I am crazy head over heels into my junior high/ high school classmate. We just got back in touch about 5 months ago via myspace. Im crazy about her and her TWO kids now. Tristan 10 and Brianna 6. Shes adorable. Shes a little crazy though!! Damaged a little emotionally in my opinion and she agrees. Many times she has told me that she needs me to just be her bestfriend right now and be there for her. My mother asks about her but thinks it is a mistake. Im crazy about her kids and like to reach out to them but dont want to come off like im trying to get to her heart through them, shes defensive against that! I am sure that I want to try with her, yet i wonder if im just being naive. Any advice? By the way, Ive never been the one woman guy. Ive never been in a honest monogamous relationship longer than six months!! I know I know.

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