From the monthly archives:

January 2008

Good guys do exist.

January 30, 2008

One downside to dating a single mother – you get sick. Really sick. The last time I saw my boyfriend, Kris, he was his healthy, energetic, happy, nerdy self…and then this sickness hit him too. He’s been in a sleepy, feverish haze of pain ever since. That was four days ago. And he caught it from us. The day care germies must have jumped him late last week when he came over to help me watch Benjamin. Why? Because I asked him too. Why? Because I was starting to feel sick. Sigh. I feel guilty. I usually don’t feel guilty – but I can’t express to you enough the pain of this particular viral strand. It’s unreal.

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Things I try not to think about: What if’s? and Whys?

January 29, 2008

Benjamin and I spent 4 hours in urgent care today. 4 hours! Between chasing Benjamin and keeping him entertained my mind did have a few minutes to wander.

I thought about my father. He was a doctor and all hospitals bring his memory back front and center. I imagined what our lives would be like if he hadn’t died of cancer. First of all – I know we wouldn’t have to be in this horrible urgent care, waiting for hours and hours. I daydreamed about talking to him on the phone – telling him about my day, about Benjamin, about Kris.

Then the thoughts stop. They have to stop – Benjamin has disappeared down the hall – he’s deep into the radiology department. Ironic. Yes. Annoying. More so.

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Do day care bugs ever end?

January 27, 2008

Both of us are sick…again. Since Benjamin started day care last September he’s been sick on and off ever since. This time it’s some nasty, rotten head and stomach cold thing that’s had us miserable for four days now. Each one of these day care bugs is unique. I’ll spare you the details but it’s a little bit freaky. Never, ever in my life have I ever been so sick, so often. It has me considering trading day care for in-home care. But, he’ll be starting montessori this fall so I want him to stay in a school-like environment.

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What women really want.

January 24, 2008

This is for the guys. Because so many of you are turning to my blog for insights into the female mind I’m going to give you the secrets. Ladies please add to my list by leaving a comment. The more the merrier.

This list is based on years and years of listening. I’ve been listening to both women and men. The topic of dating – what draws us to each other and what turns us off – has always fascinated me. (I know, I’m weird but my loss is your gain). So here goes…this one is for all women – child or not … see below for the single mom addendums.

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Single Mom S.O.S. – Explaining a Break Up

January 23, 2008

My best friend and fellow single mom, Abby, is still reeling from her break up. And so is her 5 year old daughter, Penny. She’s a beautiful, happy little girl who also fell in love with mommy’s boyfriend. How couldn’t she? He was over at their house at least three to four nights a week. They’d been together for nearly one year and had been talking about moving in together, starting a family – the whole kit and caboodle. And now – poof – he’s gone and Penny is broken hearted. If you’ve never seen a 5 year old with a little broken heart – lucky you – because I saw my first one tonight and it was unbearable.

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The Fine Art of Dumping.

January 21, 2008

I’ve had a rough day. I didn’t get dumped but my best friend did and she’s a single mom. Needless to say I want to kill the guy (not really FBI, but I would like to punch him in the face). Instead of ranting about what a jerk her now ex-boyfriend is I decided to channel my negative energy into a cynical but hopefully interesting post on how to break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend.

I have a theory – how we dump someone is a clear reflection of our character.

Here are some of the most common dumping methods – guess which one the guy used on my single mom friend?

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Nerds make better lovers.

January 20, 2008

The founder of, Craig Newmark, says it often in interviews…”nerds make better lovers.” When I first read this I giggled to myself because I have been happily dating nerds now since becoming a single mother. Since switching to nerds the cool, suave guys don’t even phase me anymore. This is coming from a woman […]

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I LOVE being a single mom.

January 19, 2008

Yes, there are downsides to being a single mom. We have to cook every meal, change every diaper, deal with every tantrum and clean every room – every day, 365 days a year. But I absolutely love being a single mom. Why? Because I’m happy. I don’t really know how to explain it but I’ll try…I just think I’m on to something here. This no husband thing really isn’t that bad.

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Do men really care if you’re a single mom?

January 17, 2008

The question should be “do you think men really care if you’re a single mom?” If the answer is no – you’re good to go. If not … keep reading.

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Boyfriend + toddler + work = tired single mama

January 15, 2008

When you’re a single mom or a single dad online dating is sometimes the only viable option. You can’t get out of the house at night without shelling out for a sitter so one solution is shopping for your men or women online. I personally didn’t have much luck dating online but I largely blame […]

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