Comments on: On sharing a child. http://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/31/on-sharing-a-child/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Mon, 21 May 2012 18:45:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Sparklehttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/31/on-sharing-a-child/#comment-56099 Sparkle Mon, 16 Apr 2012 04:47:43 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/31/on-sharing-a-child/#comment-56099 Yes, I also felt mixed feelings about letting my kids out of my sight for 24 hours or more. Not that I was worried about their safety (their dad seems to have now have been hit with symptoms of a real father ever since he got served), I was more concerned for them and about what they think of the back and forth (ages 10,4,2). Granted I have had them 85+ percent of the time over the past 6 months, and a break was definitely due, but you start to get your single parent routine down & BAM! Something changes and you wonder how the kids will be able to handle it. (LOL the worry is never ending) Also yes, I was head over heels for this man until I started to catch on little by little after the infatuation stage disappeared, 3 babies later & 15 years that we were NOT compatible (and when you begin at 12 you probably can't even spell compatible- enough said). By the time it really hit home there was so much damage done on both sides, irreparable. Best tip from me? Don't sign up for a long term thing when you've barely hit puberty. This is in my humble opinion. Yes, I also felt mixed feelings about letting my kids out of my sight for 24 hours or more. Not that I was worried about their safety (their dad seems to have now have been hit with symptoms of a real father ever since he got served), I was more concerned for them and about what they think of the back and forth (ages 10,4,2). Granted I have had them 85+ percent of the time over the past 6 months, and a break was definitely due, but you start to get your single parent routine down & BAM! Something changes and you wonder how the kids will be able to handle it. (LOL the worry is never ending)

Also yes, I was head over heels for this man until I started to catch on little by little after the infatuation stage disappeared, 3 babies later & 15 years that we were NOT compatible (and when you begin at 12 you probably can’t even spell compatible- enough said). By the time it really hit home there was so much damage done on both sides, irreparable. Best tip from me? Don’t sign up for a long term thing when you’ve barely hit puberty. This is in my humble opinion.

]]> By: Woman With Kidshttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/31/on-sharing-a-child/#comment-266 Woman With Kids Fri, 04 Jan 2008 01:14:53 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/31/on-sharing-a-child/#comment-266 Um, same thing I said above, but I don't think I put the right website in... Hopefully it's not porn or anything! Um, same thing I said above, but I don’t think I put the right website in… Hopefully it’s not porn or anything!

]]> By: Woman With Kidshttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/31/on-sharing-a-child/#comment-265 Woman With Kids Fri, 04 Jan 2008 01:13:44 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/31/on-sharing-a-child/#comment-265 I've been in your shoes... the first times without the kiddos are so hard, and it's perfectly normal to feel both awful and happy. Everyone needs a break. It used to help me to think of it as time to relax and refresh, so that I would be at my best when the boys came home. And I would shop. It does get easier. The ex, his wife and I are friends, it's easier to let the boys go. It will get easier over time. I’ve been in your shoes… the first times without the kiddos are so hard, and it’s perfectly normal to feel both awful and happy. Everyone needs a break.

It used to help me to think of it as time to relax and refresh, so that I would be at my best when the boys came home. And I would shop.

It does get easier. The ex, his wife and I are friends, it’s easier to let the boys go. It will get easier over time.

]]> By: mssinglemamahttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/31/on-sharing-a-child/#comment-264 mssinglemama Mon, 31 Dec 2007 22:44:38 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/31/on-sharing-a-child/#comment-264 Thanks so much! So far so good...all though I wore myself out with shopping. Now I'm going to try to sleep it off before the parties start! I'll definitely keep everyone posted. Thanks so much! So far so good…all though I wore myself out with shopping. Now I’m going to try to sleep it off before the parties start! I’ll definitely keep everyone posted.

]]> By: Haniehttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/31/on-sharing-a-child/#comment-263 Hanie Mon, 31 Dec 2007 16:34:19 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/31/on-sharing-a-child/#comment-263 Well, all I can say is, have a blast of time! Benjamin will be ok with his dad I am sure. Maybe this is normal for a first time-out. Happy New Year! H Well, all I can say is, have a blast of time! Benjamin will be ok with his dad I am sure. Maybe this is normal for a first time-out.

Happy New Year! H

]]> By: Sharonhttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/31/on-sharing-a-child/#comment-262 Sharon Mon, 31 Dec 2007 15:51:09 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/31/on-sharing-a-child/#comment-262 It is interesting what you put and I feel for you. I do not know how your situation feels, but I can imagine it is rough. Please remember to write about how it goes. It is interesting what you put and I feel for you. I do not know how your situation feels, but I can imagine it is rough. Please remember to write about how it goes.

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