Comments on: E-Harmony Really Does Suck: Worst web site of the year by Time Magazine http://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Mon, 21 May 2012 18:45:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: James99http://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-63633 James99 Wed, 16 May 2012 04:27:48 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-63633 Hello eHarmony members, please note that I agree eHarmony is the worst company ever BUT there are valuable people, agents working there to help you in finding someone but in the coming years the service that you expect from eHarmony will fall..i know it sounds stupid but its true agents are working under pressure and we need your help in stopping this. Here is the fact, normally agents are being noted via csat ( named as Survey) the survey that you send evaluates the agent. Things such as refund policy, matches outside distance and matches who are ugly as well are being pointed out as the agent's fault EVEN IF ITS THE EHARMONY SYSTEM WHICH IS CRAP! so what will happen in the coming weeks the company will fire some agents and many more because of the csat that people give out might be due to lack of comprehension while filling them, what i would advise you if you really love what these agents do with all their heart kindly take the time to evaluate correctly what they do for example if you fill a csat as fair this is considered as the worst csat ever..so my advice would be that when you get the answer try to understand the pressure and the job critics i really love these agents that why i am still at eHarmony :) they do a fantastic job.. so when ever you receive a survey please rate it according to what has been said for example good or excellent but if it did not answer your query simply fill it poor there is no shame in it but as i said please understand the agent's as they are doing their best..thanks Hello eHarmony members, please note that I agree eHarmony is the worst company ever BUT there are valuable people, agents working there to help you in finding someone but in the coming years the service that you expect from eHarmony will fall..i know it sounds stupid but its true agents are working under pressure and we need your help in stopping this. Here is the fact, normally agents are being noted via csat ( named as Survey) the survey that you send evaluates the agent. Things such as refund policy, matches outside distance and matches who are ugly as well are being pointed out as the agent’s fault EVEN IF ITS THE EHARMONY SYSTEM WHICH IS CRAP! so what will happen in the coming weeks the company will fire some agents and many more because of the csat that people give out might be due to lack of comprehension while filling them, what i would advise you if you really love what these agents do with all their heart kindly take the time to evaluate correctly what they do for example if you fill a csat as fair this is considered as the worst csat ever..so my advice would be that when you get the answer try to understand the pressure and the job critics i really love these agents that why i am still at eHarmony :) they do a fantastic job.. so when ever you receive a survey please rate it according to what has been said for example good or excellent but if it did not answer your query simply fill it poor there is no shame in it but as i said please understand the agent’s as they are doing their best..thanks

]]> By: Cnastyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-39495 Cnasty Sat, 03 Dec 2011 02:51:07 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-39495 No crap. I was one of the richest hottest single guys in Houston and I didn't get a single match. I am going to ruin that website. No crap. I was one of the richest hottest single guys in Houston and I didn’t get a single match. I am going to ruin that website.

]]> By: Ekkahttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-30106 Ekka Sun, 28 Aug 2011 01:18:44 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-30106 Wish I had read this before. A big sham, worst thing is their automatic renewal which is the DEFAULT. Was told I had chosen it. Why would I when i had about 3 matches for the whole six months, and they lived 20 000 km's away. @ Lee, I am one of the 'disfunctional' 40 plus year olds. I don't want to get in an argument on this site, but I am quite normal, have had several long term relationships, but I am now single and quite a functional human being. There is nothing 'wrong' with me and I'm not trading up, or looking for the perfect person. I am quite a normal person who just happen to have never been married. Wish I had read this before. A big sham, worst thing is their automatic renewal which is the DEFAULT. Was told I had chosen it. Why would I when i had about 3 matches for the whole six months, and they lived 20 000 km’s away.

@ Lee, I am one of the ‘disfunctional’ 40 plus year olds. I don’t want to get in an argument on this site, but I am quite normal, have had several long term relationships, but I am now single and quite a functional human being. There is nothing ‘wrong’ with me and I’m not trading up, or looking for the perfect person. I am quite a normal person who just happen to have never been married.

]]> By: Ekkahttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-30105 Ekka Sun, 28 Aug 2011 01:04:08 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-30105 Old Blog, but they are still doing exactly the same thing, just got stung!!!! Old Blog, but they are still doing exactly the same thing, just got stung!!!!

]]> By: joeyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-28080 joey Thu, 28 Jul 2011 06:16:30 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-28080 They matched me up with a few different women everyday, none that I made a connection with beyond a few message exchanges. after six months I complained, they gave me six more months, nothing changed, I'm out of there for good. I do not understand their rating system, even though they pegged me 'right on' through the survey, my matches were not 'right on', they were all out in left field. still disgusted years later about it. The women I meet in my everyday life are so much better. They matched me up with a few different women everyday, none that I made a connection with beyond a few message exchanges. after six months I complained, they gave me six more months, nothing changed, I’m out of there for good. I do not understand their rating system, even though they pegged me ‘right on’ through the survey, my matches were not ‘right on’, they were all out in left field. still disgusted years later about it. The women I meet in my everyday life are so much better.

]]> By: Marshahttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-27617 Marsha Fri, 24 Jun 2011 13:18:53 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-27617 It's a sham. Like, if you put you don't want smokers, they'll send you "flexible matches" aka smokers. I think all I got was flexible matches, which meant I NEVER got what I wanted. The people I did try to contact, never got back to me which really wears down your self-esteem over time. I agree with Time magazine, that E-Harmony causes nothing but despair. (BTW...no IMing on this site either). It’s a sham. Like, if you put you don’t want smokers, they’ll send you “flexible matches” aka smokers. I think all I got was flexible matches, which meant I NEVER got what I wanted. The people I did try to contact, never got back to me which really wears down your self-esteem over time. I agree with Time magazine, that E-Harmony causes nothing but despair. (BTW…no IMing on this site either).

]]> By: Leehttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-27615 Lee Fri, 24 Jun 2011 05:30:11 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-27615 If you are looking for dirt cheapest way to online date then eHarmony is definetly not the way to go. Many of the criticisms here are spot on. The fact you only get to take the personality test once and the large number of dead accounts are real issues. They have put in a feature that tells you when the person last logged in. I do find the anonymity valuable, especially as compared to the others where pretty much everyone in the world can see your profile. The also play up the "looks aren't everything" deal but that is crap as in most relationships physical attraction probably counts for 40% or more of the relationship. That is just their way of matching you with fat and/or unattractive people and trying to make you feel good about it. I think one of the problems is geography. It is probably unrealistic if you live in the sticks to think any website can magically drum up local single compatable people for you. I'm a guy living in a metro area and have had no problem getting large numbers of "matches" on that site. Many of which turn into real dates. I will say it takes work. Sometimes you go a few weeks without a bite but I also had a few weeks where I met a number of women out each week. The 29 dimensions thing is a little bit BS but I look at it as a course filter nt a magic test that will "find my soulmate". If you are honest with the test, and hopefully your "matches" are also, then it does filter out people you probably should not bother with. The list you are left with are still not necessarily compatible but it is better than blind, which Match and some of the others are like. Another thing to remember, is that a lot of people on there do not have a healthy outlook for a relationship. There is a reason people get into their 30's, 40's, and 50's and have never been married. They are constantly trying to "trade up" or hold out for the "perfect" person. It will never happen and they will be 80 yrs old and still sifting through people who would probably be interesting to them if they just gave them half a chance. If you are looking for dirt cheapest way to online date then eHarmony is definetly not the way to go. Many of the criticisms here are spot on. The fact you only get to take the personality test once and the large number of dead accounts are real issues. They have put in a feature that tells you when the person last logged in. I do find the anonymity valuable, especially as compared to the others where pretty much everyone in the world can see your profile.

The also play up the “looks aren’t everything” deal but that is crap as in most relationships physical attraction probably counts for 40% or more of the relationship. That is just their way of matching you with fat and/or unattractive people and trying to make you feel good about it.

I think one of the problems is geography. It is probably unrealistic if you live in the sticks to think any website can magically drum up local single compatable people for you. I’m a guy living in a metro area and have had no problem getting large numbers of “matches” on that site. Many of which turn into real dates. I will say it takes work. Sometimes you go a few weeks without a bite but I also had a few weeks where I met a number of women out each week.

The 29 dimensions thing is a little bit BS but I look at it as a course filter nt a magic test that will “find my soulmate”. If you are honest with the test, and hopefully your “matches” are also, then it does filter out people you probably should not bother with. The list you are left with are still not necessarily compatible but it is better than blind, which Match and some of the others are like.

Another thing to remember, is that a lot of people on there do not have a healthy outlook for a relationship. There is a reason people get into their 30′s, 40′s, and 50′s and have never been married. They are constantly trying to “trade up” or hold out for the “perfect” person. It will never happen and they will be 80 yrs old and still sifting through people who would probably be interesting to them if they just gave them half a chance.

]]> By: James Anthonyhttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-22483 James Anthony Thu, 25 Nov 2010 13:34:01 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-22483 Eharmony is so BS. I signed up and was matched with nothing but fat, obese, out of shape dirt bags. I believe as the other blogger said, that there is better in a crackhouse! I swear I got 6 to 8 fat chicks a day, which would be alright, if I was a fat POS, but I am not. I am 35, in shape, no kids, good looking, have a six figure salary. Why do I want a fat chick? They said that is not included in their 29 dimensions. I kept complaining and the finally kicked me off yesterday. The only thing I can say is that they refunded my 137.00 and I did not even ask for it. Finally they go something right! So if you are a fat, out of shape dirtbag, eharmony has a lot to offer you, but if you take pride in the way you look..........be it known that there is little chance of success on this dating site. By the way I told them after I got the rely ID I did not ask for, that maybe I would get 2 more fat chicks a day. I also asked if they would throw in one flaming homosexual queer once a week and a circus midget since I did not ask for that either. That was the straw that broke their back. Stay away from these crap bags. Unless fat girls is your thing! Regards, James Eharmony is so BS. I signed up and was matched with nothing but fat, obese, out of shape dirt bags. I believe as the other blogger said, that there is better in a crackhouse! I swear I got 6 to 8 fat chicks a day, which would be alright, if I was a fat POS, but I am not. I am 35, in shape, no kids, good looking, have a six figure salary. Why do I want a fat chick? They said that is not included in their 29 dimensions. I kept complaining and the finally kicked me off yesterday. The only thing I can say is that they refunded my 137.00 and I did not even ask for it. Finally they go something right! So if you are a fat, out of shape dirtbag, eharmony has a lot to offer you, but if you take pride in the way you look……….be it known that there is little chance of success on this dating site.

By the way I told them after I got the rely ID I did not ask for, that maybe I would get 2 more fat chicks a day. I also asked if they would throw in one flaming homosexual queer once a week and a circus midget since I did not ask for that either. That was the straw that broke their back.

Stay away from these crap bags. Unless fat girls is your thing!

Regards,

James

]]> By: DLhttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-19430 DL Sun, 29 Aug 2010 16:30:44 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-19430 I just tried to join e-harmony. Went thru the questionnaires, started to fill out the profile, then ran out of time & figured I'd get back to it. Today I get an e-mail from them telling me they've canceled my account. No explanation and the e-mail basically said don't bother trying to find out why (okay, that's not verbatim, but the gist of the message). I thought.....WTF? So then I find out from my sister that she'd just gotten the same e-mail from them. She's been a member for awhile, i.e. not a new member like me. The only thing we can figure is that they think we are the same person, trying to post two different profiles. We are twins, so we share a birthdate, as well as live very near to each other (so maybe the address was similar). Plus, we have e-mail addresses that are almost identical.......again, because we're twins (we do dumb stuff like that). All I can say is that I am SO glad I hadn't yet paid for a membership. Any site that would automatically drop someone without explanation or investigation? Is a scam in my book. I just tried to join e-harmony. Went thru the questionnaires, started to fill out the profile, then ran out of time & figured I’d get back to it. Today I get an e-mail from them telling me they’ve canceled my account. No explanation and the e-mail basically said don’t bother trying to find out why (okay, that’s not verbatim, but the gist of the message). I thought…..WTF? So then I find out from my sister that she’d just gotten the same e-mail from them. She’s been a member for awhile, i.e. not a new member like me. The only thing we can figure is that they think we are the same person, trying to post two different profiles. We are twins, so we share a birthdate, as well as live very near to each other (so maybe the address was similar). Plus, we have e-mail addresses that are almost identical…….again, because we’re twins (we do dumb stuff like that). All I can say is that I am SO glad I hadn’t yet paid for a membership. Any site that would automatically drop someone without explanation or investigation? Is a scam in my book.

]]> By: Maxhttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-17835 Max Mon, 07 Jun 2010 14:21:33 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/12/10/e-harmony-really-does-suck-worst-web-site-of-the-year-by-time-magazine/#comment-17835 So I spend several hours filling out all the questionnaires. At the end they have showed me about 7 profiles, but I wasn’t able see photos or send messages. Sing of scam. I thought OK, since I have seen so many adds from them, maybe I should pay for a month of membership and see how it works, although I don’t trust those kind of web site, the web is full with a scam stories, but I have discovered that you have to pay for at least 3 month!!! When I write about my concerns to their customer services they offered me BIG discount to pay them around $60 for 3 month. Well, to me it is a another flag for scam. Thank fully I did not paid and made some research on the web and I have discovered that after you pay, all your matches will be “not-very-attractive-type ones” and plain “ugly” or form far, far away. I guess they are good in physiology, after a man spends so much time on creating profile, it would be much harder to cancel your profile, and easier to pay and see those mysterious perfect matches. So I spend several hours filling out all the questionnaires. At the end they have showed me about 7 profiles, but I wasn’t able see photos or send messages. Sing of scam. I thought OK, since I have seen so many adds from them, maybe I should pay for a month of membership and see how it works, although I don’t trust those kind of web site, the web is full with a scam stories, but I have discovered that you have to pay for at least 3 month!!! When I write about my concerns to their customer services they offered me BIG discount to pay them around $60 for 3 month. Well, to me it is a another flag for scam. Thank fully I did not paid and made some research on the web and I have discovered that after you pay, all your matches will be “not-very-attractive-type ones” and plain “ugly” or form far, far away.

I guess they are good in physiology, after a man spends so much time on creating profile, it would be much harder to cancel your profile, and easier to pay and see those mysterious perfect matches.

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