My experience with E-Harmony over the past year has been a continuous disappointment. I think it’s one of the biggest scams out there, preying on innocent singles who are truly looking for love. Therefore, I want to keep getting the word out there to avoid the site all together. Instead sites like Yahoo Personals and Match.com have served myself and my friends much better. Also, just discovered Oodle, which collects all of the personal posts in your area. So you can see who is who and where their personal ad is listed.
Because in the end, the E-Harmony matching system is a joke. And Time Magazine agrees, they’ve named Eharmony.com as the worst web site of 2007. Read the article, here.
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Ughhh…I agree. I was only matched to people who lived in far away places. I live in Ohio…1 guy lived in Alaska, and another lived in Hawaii. The rest of them were in between with only 1 from Ohio.
Ug. I’m considering eharmony. Now I’m not so sure. What now?!
If you live in a large, large city might be better. Have you tried Match or Yahoo? I just know that relying on a crock matching system is not going to get you anywhere. If you like anonymity – I know Match has an option to make it so that you aren’t listed … but you can search other listings. That’s kind of nice. EHarmony is just filled with inactive members which is why so many people are unsatisfied. If there is anyone out there who’s had a good one – please let me know.
I think I know why there's so many unactive users.. they're all just like me, unwilling to pay before I see what I'm going to get.. eHarmony doesn't let you view the pictures of the matched profiles…. eHarmony is a joke…
if you're not going to have a picture you'd at least want a body type, right? (both boys and girls, I think, can agree with that). eHarmony didn't ask me for my weight… BZZZZ red flag……
It did nail my personality – which is interesting. It may be worth it to fill in all the answers, then copy and paste your personality information to an alternative dating stie, match.com or singlesnet.com or some Yahoo (didn't know Yahoo did online dating?).
I checked out eharmony. I don’t like its complex registration. And I don’t think its matching system can work for singles. Too many women but few of men there.
Indeed, eharmony does suck. I spent THREE NIGHTS SOLID filling out their voluminous questionaires and when I got thru, they said they could not match me. This is in spite of the fact that I have good kids. They and my large extended family love me and each other and we have all lived generally wholesome middle class lives.
Does that mean there is no one else in their “great” database that comes even close??! Or that their matching method is really limited?
Or is it that I am a REALLY twisted person … probably weirder that ozy osborne. Thank you e-disharmony.
Eharmony is bad. I have been on it for a month and I am matched with people that are all looking for a, “committed Christian.” I have not been to church in 10 years. I am definitely not what they are looking for. Their site is always going down too.
They do allege to have a great matching system, but (anecdotally) the dozen or so people I’ve spoken with about it expressed this general view: the matches it made did not fit what they were looking for. For example, one person who is very liberal and not very religious kept getting matched constantly with very conservative fundamentalists. One of my friends joked that she thought it was a cult conspiracy.
Eharmony is horrendous.
Believe me, I am a super normal, middle of the road, very responsible, working parent.
The men that I met on eharmony told me about the volumes of dates that are sent to them. We women pay the same price for the service and get really few matchs. That means we woman are getting royally screwed!!!!
The only time they “pour” on the matchs are when they get the cancellation notcice.
They “use” woman by creating hope, how disgusting. I have finally figured them out.
MT
I paid $250 to eharmony.com for 1 year membership. Then I tried to use RelyID from eHARMony which FAILED but I got charged $5.95 twice! eHarmony, RelyID and Paypal refused to refund my money! Eharmony kept all $250 + $5.95 + $5/95 of mine no mater how many times I called. Also eHarmony told me I’ve been on a 3 day (that’s right, not 30 day, but three day) trial and it expired. Paypal refused my chargebacks stating it was intangible goods, so they can’t help me. Paypal never refunded any of my money ever and even hen I got scammed as a seller they just withdrew the scammer’s charged back money from my Paypal account… So much about “buyer protection” from Paypal and so much “service” from Eharmony.
I know this is an OLD blog, but I just had a run in with eHArmony. I had the one year subscription that just got auto-renewed on the 23rd. $250!!!! I called the 24th and explained I don’t use the service (which they confirmed with my last login Nov. of ‘07) and wanted to cancel and be refunded.
They said it’s against their policy and they couldn’t refund my money since I never unchecked the auto-renew button on my profile. WTF – I hadn’t even logged in to uncheck anything!!
Anywho – I cried and said it was unacceptable, I wouldn’t have food to put on the table for my children and they thought this was OK? (It helped that my kids were home, came in the room and said “mommy, why are you crying?”)
They ended up refunding, against their policy. BUT – you, and all your readers – make sure you uncheck auto-renew….f-ing eHarmony!!!!!
eHarmony is the WORST! They send you profiles of old members as matches, never seek to satisfy their customers, nothing. It’s the worse commercial SCAM ever. I’ve had it for less than a month, hate it, my matches are SOOO not for me. I could find a better woman in the neighborhood crackhouse (joke, lol). Anywho, please don’t waste your money. I signed up for a year but a payment plan, I’m changing my debit card number so they can’t get the 2nd and 3rd payment of 80 bucks each. They won’t refund under any circumstance, it seems. I guess they will have to take me to court or try to put it on my credit history. We’ll see, either way, the dispute should be fun.
I just wrote an article about my friend Sophie’s experience with eHarmony … falling FLAT. It’s ridiculous … She lives in NYC and they were telling her that she should increase her distance. Check out the article for a good laugh. This company is going down fast.
http://heartsareeverywhere.blogspot.com/2008/08/eharmony-falls-flat.html
Hey Single Mama,
I have to “Kind of”, respectively disagree with your review of E-Harmony. The reason I say “kind of” is that while It’s fair to say that E_Harmony does not live up to it’s hype, I feel it’s unfair for Time to give it a “Worst” ranking of the year. (join PlentyofFish.com if you want to experience just plain AWFUL!).
I’ve used E-Harmony off and on since 2000.(and used on line dating WAY before it was “cool” to do so, back in 1996–just as the World Wide Web was coming to life).
I’ve found the people I’ve been “Matched” with on E-Harmony to be of very high Caliber(i.e. MD’s, Lawyers, etc.). I point this out because I feel “those people” are not the people who would post on Match or Yahoo.
In addition, the people I’ve met face to face all seemed normal.
I think the problem that we all have with online Dating is we’re all given “Too Many Choices”.
It’s called “The Paradox of Choice”–http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Paradox_of_Choice
So, the ISSUE is the OVERWHELMING number of choices that you have sort through, then make, that you could not POSSIBLY make “in the real world”. I just did a quick search on Match.com, within 5 miles of my zip code, it found over 500 possible matches in my age range!
Finally, I think one reason women might have more to complain about when using E-Harmony is that they outnumber men 2:1
67% Female / 37% Male
http://www.quantcast.com/eharmony.com
Just something to consider……
Jason
P.S.
Although I must admit that this review of E-Harmony’s Advertising is “Spot On”.
http://adweek.blogs.com/adfreak/2006/10/do_eharmonycoms.html
eHarmony ads are utterly repulsive!!!
From the charlatan doctor in their ads, to the pathetic hollywood scripted relationships between actors who don’t know one another’s names, much less one other, all overlayed upon the cheesiest background music and jingle in the advertising industry…sickening.
It’s like “K-Fed gets introduced to Brittany Spears through a Richard Simmons commercial website…”
What a waste time, and internet bandwidth…!!!
DON’T get near eHarmony!!! They are crooks from the word go. When I discovered it’s a scam, I called for a refund, and their response was. “You only have seven days for a refund.” This was 11 days in!
I tried to get the $10 rebate, was run around in circles for three weeks, then, when I sent it in, I was sent a magazine subscription I did not want instead of the money.
Now, they have shut down their customer service phone number, so I can’t even call to complain!
AVOID eHarmony !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
EHarmony is horrible!! I spent several months on this website and never found anyone! Scam!!
I was matched up to a man who was attractive, fun, loving, had a good job, many wonderful friends, and seemingly-character. After marrying him, he seemed to withdraw, was hard to please, and 9 months later he told me that he was only staying in the marriage out of commitment not love. Found out he was emailing ex. I emailed his ex and found out how awful he had been to her and all of the lies he had perpetuated through our marriage. Through short lived marriage counseling I also found out he had a personality disorder! I RAN to get a divorce. People beware: Eharmony or not we do not know who these people are. Take your time, ask for references, and take some more time. Watch for every red flag.
I thought eHarmony was great. I received tons of matches of people with the same interests. I am now married with the woman on met on the website.
E harmony was the biggest waste of money. i did it for 6 months and never met anyone or communicated with anyone. Most of the men they sent me were not appealing at all. On average they would send me 1 a week but with 1 week to go on my membership all of a sudden I received probably 10 and then another 5 the day after my member ship expired. Do not sign up warn your friends
Came across this and had to comment.
I tried eHarmony for a while and it did suck. I used match and ended up going on about 2 dates per week which were mostly amiable. Dating and meeting the right person is a numbers game and all eHarmony seemed to do was filter me out from meeting people. Oh yeah, I did meet someone through match and we have been married for over 3 years now. Glad to be out of the dating game.
E-Harmony is bullshit.
Wish I hadn’t done it.
The matching system is a joke.
They are thieves.
Worst $134 I’ve ever spent on nothing.
Eharmony Sucks!! not recommended to anyone
Aweful site. It was so slow, they few matches i did have took seriously 5 minutes just to load…and it wasnt my computer. Had the creepiest people sent to me and lots of out of state matches. The main page of my account is very hard to navigate, and before you can get rid of a match you dont like, you have to give reasons why and select all this crap to get them out of your list. I just cant believe how slow the site is. I gave up. What a waste of money.