Comments on: Dating a Single Mom, Part 1 http://mssinglemama.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/ Single Mom Dating? Real advice from a real single mom. Mon, 21 May 2012 18:45:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Raymond Lumhttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-51761 Raymond Lum Sun, 18 Mar 2012 20:53:46 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-51761 I meet single mother about 6 month ago. It's been hard (I should of Google 'dating a single mother in the beginning'. Her son is 13 months I come into his life when he was between 8-9 months ago. We are friends at the moment. This great advice I have to be very patience too. The Father is out of the picture (for the moment he may come to his senses and come back I don't know) Anyway I will keep reading this blog and add a link to your blog to mine. Raymond from Cromwell, New Zealand I meet single mother about 6 month ago. It’s been hard (I should of Google ‘dating a single mother in the beginning’.
Her son is 13 months I come into his life when he was between 8-9 months ago.
We are friends at the moment. This great advice I have to be very patience too. The Father is out of the picture (for the moment he may come to his senses and come back I don’t know)
Anyway I will keep reading this blog and add a link to your blog to mine.
Raymond from Cromwell, New Zealand

]]> By: Bobolhttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-50992 Bobol Mon, 12 Mar 2012 17:03:22 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-50992 Bonjour, Fact: Remember guys, when you end your relationship with a single mom you may be liable to pay child support to the mother for years, even if the child is not yours! A judge will decide that! Do yo really want to expose yourself to that risk? Apparently the author of this blog did not bother to mention this. I wonder why? Best, Bobol Bonjour,

Fact: Remember guys, when you end your relationship with a single mom you may be liable to pay child support to the mother for years, even if the child is not yours! A judge will decide that! Do yo really want to expose yourself to that risk?

Apparently the author of this blog did not bother to mention this. I wonder why?

Best,

Bobol

]]> By: singlemom702http://mssinglemama.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-49261 singlemom702 Sun, 26 Feb 2012 23:09:55 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-49261 im dating a single guy ( no kids ) . i been seeing him for over a year now. not easy at all. he loves me but whenever my kids around the weekends we always end up arguing. i love him but i love my kids more :( im dating a single guy ( no kids ) . i been seeing him for over a year now. not easy at all. he loves me but whenever my kids around the weekends we always end up arguing. i love him but i love my kids more :(

]]> By: Mikehttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-46656 Mike Sun, 29 Jan 2012 07:15:12 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-46656 I just wanted to say thank you for your blog! After a bad relationship of 4 years I have gotten back in contact with an old friend from high school, it has been 10 years since we have spoken and we used to get along so well but somewhere along the line lost contact. This friend now has two gorgeous boys of two and six, they are just like their mummy. :) She is now single and has also been through a bad relationship. At this stage we are just good friends, we have so much in common and have a great time with eachother. I am trying to take things slowly because there are children involved, but... I really have fallen for this loverly lady and love her kids also :) I definitely don't see her children as baggage, quite the opposite actually. I am 30 and have wanted children for a few years now so her kids are a refreshing change to my life, they are great kids and I love spending time with them. What I've taken from your blog is to be myself and really, just be a decent man... If I do this and nothing develops beyond a friendship I can still come out of it with the best friend I've ever had. Thank you! Mike I just wanted to say thank you for your blog!
After a bad relationship of 4 years I have gotten back in contact with an old friend from high school, it has been 10 years since we have spoken and we used to get along so well but somewhere along the line lost contact.
This friend now has two gorgeous boys of two and six, they are just like their mummy. :) She is now single and has also been through a bad relationship.
At this stage we are just good friends, we have so much in common and have a great time with eachother. I am trying to take things slowly because there are children involved, but… I really have fallen for this loverly lady and love her kids also :) I definitely don’t see her children as baggage, quite the opposite actually.
I am 30 and have wanted children for a few years now so her kids are a refreshing change to my life, they are great kids and I love spending time with them.
What I’ve taken from your blog is to be myself and really, just be a decent man… If I do this and nothing develops beyond a friendship I can still come out of it with the best friend I’ve ever had.

Thank you!
Mike

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]]> By: Margiehttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-41354 Margie Sun, 18 Dec 2011 03:41:31 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-41354 A really good answer, full of raintoality! A really good answer, full of raintoality!

]]> By: Elisa Knighthttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-39347 Elisa Knight Mon, 28 Nov 2011 21:05:15 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-39347 I just have to say that it's very difficult for single mom's but what about the one's like me? My husband passed away and I'm raising a 16 yr old. boy and a 10 month old baby girl. I'm a widow doing this on my own and I'm only 41 yrs. old. I appreciate my life and all that I have but I've found this dating thing hard. Especially when I see so much negativity in men. I realize my life is a gift and want to say please have some understanding and empathy. Life can be hard but it's what you do with it that makes it all worth while! I just have to say that it’s very difficult for single mom’s but what about the one’s like me? My husband passed away and I’m raising a 16 yr old. boy and a 10 month old baby girl. I’m a widow doing this on my own and I’m only 41 yrs. old. I appreciate my life and all that I have but I’ve found this dating thing hard. Especially when I see so much negativity in men. I realize my life is a gift and want to say please have some understanding and empathy. Life can be hard but it’s what you do with it that makes it all worth while!

]]> By: Davidhttp://mssinglemama.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-35836 David Thu, 27 Oct 2011 18:15:42 +0000 http://mssinglemama.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/tips-on-how-to-date-a-single-mom-for-the-guys/#comment-35836 The only problem I have with single moms is that MOST of the time, the father of the children is around! They want to see their children, or have joint custody. They might still be battling legally, etc. It's a nightmare. They don't like you being "dad" around their kids, etc. You want to knock him out, but that can possibly cause her to loose custody of the kids, and not doing anything about it raises your blood pressure. I'd rather he just pay child support! I've seen a lot of my friends and cousins who have single mothers bring in a new boyfriend every 6 months- a year or so. My fear is being "that step dad" and never the "dad". I've dated a single mom, and she was wonderful, but I didn't want to deal with the problems and challenges. Just about all of the problems were with the father of the child. He didn't like me being "dad" to his kid. Her family only wanted him to come to the family get together. Not because they didn't like me, but because his family was there too, and we don't like each other... What a nightmare. Thinking I would have to deal with this problem for another 18 or more years is enough to make me go crazy. I'm sure problems and challenges were more specific to the woman I dated, but for now, I'm holding off on single moms. Hopefully I can find one without the baby daddy in the picture! Just stick to paying child support. The only problem I have with single moms is that MOST of the time, the father of the children is around! They want to see their children, or have joint custody. They might still be battling legally, etc. It’s a nightmare. They don’t like you being “dad” around their kids, etc. You want to knock him out, but that can possibly cause her to loose custody of the kids, and not doing anything about it raises your blood pressure. I’d rather he just pay child support!

I’ve seen a lot of my friends and cousins who have single mothers bring in a new boyfriend every 6 months- a year or so. My fear is being “that step dad” and never the “dad”.

I’ve dated a single mom, and she was wonderful, but I didn’t want to deal with the problems and challenges. Just about all of the problems were with the father of the child. He didn’t like me being “dad” to his kid. Her family only wanted him to come to the family get together. Not because they didn’t like me, but because his family was there too, and we don’t like each other… What a nightmare. Thinking I would have to deal with this problem for another 18 or more years is enough to make me go crazy. I’m sure problems and challenges were more specific to the woman I dated, but for now, I’m holding off on single moms. Hopefully I can find one without the baby daddy in the picture! Just stick to paying child support.

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