Comments on: The Single Mom Dating Conundrum.

By: susan

susan — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 04:04:04 +0000

Yep I reckon it’s a package deal. I know this is an old post, and so interesting considering where you are now, but I’ve been reflecting on this very issue.
What if you wait 6 months and then the kids and him can’t stand each other? what if you introduce them too early and it wrecks the relationship? what if the person is slowly introduced, the kids love him, and it turns out you don’t?
Seems to me it’s almost a no win. that said, I am OVER hearing people say to me óh if I were in your situation I’d just accept that I have to be single until my children leave home’(ffs, they are only 5 and 8….that’s a long time between drinks!)

By: Heaven

Heaven — Fri, 22 Jul 2011 15:43:25 +0000

YES he should tryto love your children, my aunt is in a similar situation he and her boyfriend of ten yrs now, when they first meet they both had one child and she treated and loved his child like she did her own but he wasnt there emotionally for hers she acted as if this was normal and now they have a child together. The problem is that his son and the son they had together both thrive emotional and socially like a child should but her son doesnt do so well emotionally with men and will openly admit he doesnt like his moms boyfriend because he doesnt treat him the same.

By: Clarissa

Clarissa — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 16:57:13 +0000

Hi, I'm a single mother of two little men, ages four and five. I've been seeing someone for over a year now, and I love and appreciate every, single aspect of him except for his view on what he feels his role should be in my boys lives. He doesn't feel as if it's his responsibility to ever try to create any kind of emotional connection with them. He said that he just feels as if that's my job seeing as they're not his own, and that if we ever decide to tie the knot in the future, as long as he's taking care of them financially and teaching them the life skills they'll need to be good men, not truly "loving" them won't have an impact on what type of people they'll grow up to be…what kind of crap is that?! The whole situation really upsets me every time I think about it because everything else about him is literally everything I've ever dreamed about finding in someone. If he loves me, he should learn or at least attempt to love my children just as much, if not more, right? Am I wrong to feel this way?

By: Katy Mendoza

Katy Mendoza — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 02:01:48 +0000

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By: Corey

Corey — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 19:11:50 +0000

Thanks for pointing me to this. I had to keep my boyfriend from my daughter due to custody/divorce issues for almost a year. Once he did get to meet her, he was afraid (as was I!) but has completely fallen in love with her. He does a lot of things with us, but doesn’t spend the night (because I don’t want my daughter to completely feel like he *is* a part of our family). We’re still working things out and our relationship may never progress from the point it’s at now. But for now, that’s ok.

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