Comments on: Am I Single Mother By Choice?

By: finsalscollons

finsalscollons — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 01:04:16 +0000

Yes, you are a single mom by choice. Not for dumping your pathetic ex (well done)but for choosing him to be the father of your child. I see responsible men being rejected every day while jerks get all the woman.

He has always been a jerk (and you have always known how he was but you wanted to delude yourself because he was exciting). So everybody reaps what he/she sows. Now accept the responsibility and move on, instead of blaming other people of your own mistakes. An adult admits his/her mistakes. A child want to blame the world for them.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 16:30:13 +0000

Remarks of this kind are just a game I call “Drunk Thinking.”

To meet him where his mind is can be a real trick, and admit it, you don’t want to go THERE — instead, look for areas where you both agree. Agree that you chose not to stay married, and say something like, “Yes, it’s true I chose not to be married, you may be right.”

Steer clear of “Drunk Thinking” … keep your eyes on the road of mutual agreements. WARNING: may cause erections.

By: Penelope

Penelope — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 02:56:10 +0000

I’m just going through your archives now and reading some random posts….this one really resonated with me. I hear – often – from my ex husband that it was MY choice to leave, and so I basically have to “suck up” the difficulties that I am faced with. The good news is that he’s NOT a dead-beat dad – he’s a GREAT father to his girls….just not so great as a husband.

I hate the fact that he’s soooo unwilling to take responsibility for his part in the failure of our marriage. Sure, I was the one who decided that I couldn’t do it anymore…but he had a very big hand in helping me to reach that point. I guess that some people tell themselves whatever they have to, in order to be able to sleep at night…

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By: Ms. Single Mama

Ms. Single Mama — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 15:43:10 +0000

Go right ahead!!! I love that one too. Another one of my stunning revelations. : )

By: single mommy

single mommy — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 13:34:42 +0000

“It was his choice to give me no choice”

I’m going to steal this!

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