Comments on: When Do You Tell Him You’re a Single Mom?

By: Nick Stanham

Nick Stanham — Fri, 04 Mar 2011 10:25:37 +0000

I think it was more the way you phrased it, to me, that comment would have made me think you just weren’t interested. Relationships are based on honesty. You have to be honest from the start. If someone has a child, it doesn’t bother me, i get on great with kids. But I can’t accept decieving behaviour.

By: New to the single life

New to the single life — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 09:32:41 +0000

Hi, Im recently divorced 26 yr old mother Of 3 beautiful children. I was so scared Of dating so i put it off for 3 yrs. Now i think im ready to start to get to know someone. I dont want to deny i have kids, but i Aldo dont want to scare a guy off. I feel if i say something they will take me less seriously. Then again do i really want to tell them something so personal from the start.

By: “No worries.”

“No worries.” — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 12:32:51 +0000

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By: Shadows & Light

Shadows & Light — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 05:19:56 +0000

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By: Justin

Justin — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 12:07:32 +0000

In general I agree with you, I think. I do not think there is one simple, perfect answer to dating while being the single parent of any number of children. There are so many factors that play both into defining the question asked (and the words in it) and the answer. Maybe a case-by-case question and answer is one of the only ways to really approach the search for someone.

By: Justin

Justin — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 23:12:27 +0000

It seems like the question should mostly be about who you are meeting versus when you are telling them about your children. If one were dating 10 year olds, obviously it would not matter if they were told about their date’s children because 10 year olds would not be ready for anything. Likewise with a lot of normal people, who are simply not ready for children of their own let alone those of someone else.

If you have answered questions about yourself such as, what it is you are really searching for in someone else, then maybe you should be asking yourself what type of people you are meeting. Is there a way to meet certain people who are dating? What kind of person are you to the rest of the world? And, who would be interested in that and, if there is a kind of person who might be interested in that, are there lots of those people in special groups? Maybe adds are one of the best ways.

By: Michael

Michael — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 20:16:09 +0000

This one is really simple: Simply meet and date people that you get set up with (so they already know the situation) and or date online. Every online site has this question answered. It is a big world and web really expands your ability to mingle. As a single father I have come to the conclusion that I would rather date women with children because we have more compatibility. Woman without children generally want to have children and I don’t and I won’t lie to just hook up.

By: The Best of Ms. Single Mama

The Best of Ms. Single Mama — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 13:41:02 +0000

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By: David (a dad)

David (a dad) — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 18:07:13 +0000

When i meet women in the street, i bring it up when it comes up and present it as if why in the hell would this be a problem? Like if you were talking about widgets and were like “yeah, that’s just like the one in my son’s room!” i’m all about natural.

When i’m meeting women online, i put that sort of thing out there right quick and its relevance. As in… i’m a parent of a sweet little son… this is what he and i are about together… you probably won’t meet him unless i think you’re going to stick around…

Of course this is a different world. Men, i’d guess, run away scared or get turned on fetish-wise (MILFers). The women i meet, initially, seem to take the child living with me as evidence of stability and trustworthiness, and then after they decide they like me (a few weeks) they panic and consider whether they want to adopt my life (as if they need to!?) and take the child living with me as evidence of the need to dump me.

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I’ve got mail - from Rachel Sarah! « Ms. Single Mama — Mon, 19 May 2008 00:22:48 +0000

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