From the monthly archives:

November 2007

Oh…the pressure.

November 29, 2007

It’s less than one month away from Christmas. I have yet to buy a single present. I don’t know how I’m going to manage to afford them, let alone have the time to actually shop for them.

I was giving Benjamin his bath tonight and started humming a Christmas carol. I can never remember the words to songs, I have always just been a hummer. So, I’m humming along, he’s smiling – beaming actually – he loves music. And then I stop. It hits me like a ton of bricks. It’s all on me.

6 comments Read the full article →

One side effect of being a dating single mama…my baby is trying to make out with me.

November 27, 2007

Okay this is weird. My son, is 20 months old. I guess he’s a toddler now, but I still call him a baby. Bear with me, I’m hanging on to his babyhood for as long as I can get away with it. He just learned how to kiss. The first time he pecked my on my lips. That was before I met Kris. Since then he has seen all kind of hugging, hand holding and all around sweet affections which include “adult kisses.”

33 comments Read the full article →

Turkeys, babies and men…oh my!

November 22, 2007

I’m packing…well, taking a break at the moment to write. I’m nervous as hell. Not because I have to spend 7 hours in the car with a toddler, but because I have to spend 7 hours in the car with a toddler…and a man. He’s my new man and quite a man at that.

0 comments Read the full article →

Something amazing happened.

November 21, 2007

Benjamin woke up last night…at 3:30 a.m. and wouldn’t go back down. Wide awake with a little cough, I decide to take him downstairs to mommy’s bed. Kris was staying over. It’s been five weeks now and this would be his first experience with a fussy baby in the dead of night. Benjamin was lying on my belly, breathing deeply and coughing. “What’s up deep breather?” Kris says.

1 comment Read the full article →

Single motherhood – turns out, not so easy, but not so tough either.

November 19, 2007

Being a single mom is tough. But like anything else in life – you get used to it. you adapt, you become stronger and you survive. You also have the power of love on your side – the love you feel for your child is stronger than anything you’ve ever felt – itcompels you and drives you day in and day out.

1 comment Read the full article →

Dating a Single Mom, Part 1

November 15, 2007

Hi guys. So you’ve fallen for a single mom? I don’t blame you. You’ve found a woman who has been put to one of life’s hardest tests – on her own – and survived. Single mothers are amazing. But, she’s created a life for her and her little ones and letting anyone in could be risky. If you want in, you’ve got to be patient, understanding and respectful. Here are some tips on how to date a single mom.

83 comments Read the full article →

Best Single Mama Movies

November 14, 2007

I don’t know about you, but movies just aren’t the same anymore. A lot of things aren’t. If I am going to take a few hours to sit down and watch one it better be good, or I flip it off within the first 20 minutes.

Last night I watched Paris, Je Taime (Paris, I Love You). It was unbelievable. There are 18, maybe more, short 5 minute love stories from Paris. Love stories you wouldn’t expect. Love between divorced couples, old couples, young couples, friends and a few on the love between a mother and her child.

4 comments Read the full article →

E-Harmony’s Matches are Dead Wrong

November 13, 2007

I’ve been an online dating “lurker” since my divorce. I actually joined eHarmony on last year’s very depressing Valentine’s Day. I wanted to find someone. So, I turned to eHarmony. Here’s my review.

17 comments Read the full article →

Cigarrettes, men and some major trust issues.

November 13, 2007

My new boyfriend and I decided to quit smoking – together. It’s the first time I’ve done something together, as a couple in years. Well, if you count my divorce, it’s been nearly a year. Knowing Saturday night was going to be a baby-free all-nighter we pick Sunday to go cold turkey. I’m scared. Scared to quit smoking and scared to enter into a verbal contract with someone – a commitment.

0 comments Read the full article →

The Single Mom Dating Conundrum.

November 11, 2007

It’s been four weeks now. My new relationship status is beginning to sink in. I have a boyfriend, and I’m actually enjoying it immensely. Usually this is the point where fear takes over and I start pushing them away. I slowly eject them from my life, or cut it clean depending on my mood. But this time, I’m not feeling that way. I’m not stressed at all. I’m completely comfortable with him and totally into him. So far, the feeling is mutual.

13 comments Read the full article →