Are all of the good men taken? And if they’re not…what’s wrong with them?
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It’s been over a year and a half now of pure singleness and in that time I’ve been dating.
Trying all of my options, refusing to shut any doors based on age, looks or personality quirks. I’ve dated men of all ages..26, 31, 33, 37, 38 and even 47! I’m 28.
The 47 year old was an incredibly interesting single father but there was no spark.The 37 year old calls himself a monk and can’t actually be with women physically. The 31 year old had an addiction to porn. The 26 year old wouldn’t or couldn’t stop talking about himself. The list goes on and on…
I have found that no matter what the age - they all have issues. But, as they age, these “issues” become even more solidified and the chances of changing or maybe correcting them are slim to none. If they’ ve been single for most of their adult life - what are the odds they’re finally going to take the plunge and “settle down.”It just leads me to wonder if there’s even a chance of finding an attractive, successful, happy, well-rounded man (over 30) who hasn’t been snatched up yet. Or one who actually wants a serious relationship.
If a guy is over 30 and has yet to commit to a woman in his life is there even a chance he would commit to a single mom? I just can’t see it happening. Besides, why would we waste our times with non-commital guys? We can’t. This is my new red flag…men over 30 who have never been married or had kids.
So, with that said - I have two options:
1. Dating divorced men or single dads.
We know they can commit. We can determine rather quickly what happened in their last relationship. Was it a mis-match from the beginning? Did he try everything in his power to keep her? Did she cheat on him or vice versa? He’s already been married, we can see how he handled it. Single fathers would understand the “baby thing” and we would also be able to tell what kind of parent they are - double bonus!
2. Dating younger men.
Ahhh…younger men. I’m talking 23-26. They are young, hopeful, unjaded and have little to no baggage. Sure they use terms you may not understand like, “most def”: translation - most definitely. But they are so refereshing. In just a few years time these younger men are bound to be snatched up and gone - off the market forever. It is so tempting to think that maybe, just maybe you could mold this young man into your perfect husband. They’re also fun, refreshing and so quick to fall in love and give you everything.
Please share your thoughts…your experiences. Beg to differ? Please do so. And if you’re an exception to my red flag let me know.
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hmmmm ok…
Single and very jaded.
Most women these days are “cougars” anyway
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Yep we are. Because we have to be. There are a lot of jerks out there and most of them happen to be older … and - go figure - still single.
…the irony of your blog is it works both ways. I find the same “options” in dating women. Younger , they’re beautiful,..fresh, energetic, and are willing to take a chance as they have nothing to lose,BUT, have not experienced those bumpy journeys in life so it requires raising another child. I’ll pass…to the dismay of my buddies! I am a single dad and would no longer be interested in any women that has not been married, and experienced raising children. They are much more insightful, intimate, and…well.. “get it”.
He’s out there…just don’t look so hard. All the best!
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Helloooo there from down under
as i was……… before my little Madam decided to press a few buttons .. ha ha!
Hello there from down under..
Have done experienced both ………. dated a single dad (2 gorgeous children) and have also dated the young ‘unjaded’ men. Am 25 so (little Madam is 3).. myself so these guys ARE younger than myself with no baggage at all..
Younger Men:
have dated 2 thus far, and have found them both to be so attentive and ‘willing’ to go out of their way to make your life easier.. but along with this came the unfortunate fact that i couldn’t just ‘drop’ everything and hang out like i would’ve if i didn’t have Maddie. Also felt at times, i had to explain to them in detail about my responsilities of providing a stable bkround for my daughter. Almost like explaining to another child.. The most recent has been a dreammmm.. except we argue a lot. I carry ‘baggage’ (aside from Maddie) from past relationships.. ????? wot do i do?!
Single Dad:
He did however understand the joys and woes of being a parent, which was a pleasant change from the ‘younger man’.
Still had ties with his ex, and still stayed at her house every now and then.. ‘for the kids sake’ as i was told! This obviously didn’t last very long
seemed to drabble on.. lol! sorrrrrrrrrry… but im still hopeful
x
ooohhh…. and no i don’t believe all the good men are taken just yet…. they’re asking the same question about us ‘Are all the good girls taken’?!
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