Being a Single Mom With a Glass Half Full

by mssinglemama on October 12, 2007

After my last potential prince turned into a frog I looked at my best friend and said, “I just need a nice boyfriend.”

“I know,” she looked slightly concernted, “but it’s okay to be single for a while.” I realized…I have become way too desperate. It is okay to be single. It’s more than okay, it’s actually quite nice.

I used to love being single, used to relish in it and savour every moment knowing I could meet a new boyfriend any day and that these single moments would be lost. So in the past week it’s hit me – why do I really want a man? Do I even need one?

Sure, he could give me back rubs, sex, kisses, cuddles and hopefully make me laugh. But what else? Other than the fact that Benjamin will need a father, I can’t see any other reason to make room for a man in my life right now.

The reasons why I love being a single mom:

  • I get to parent the way I want to parent
  • I get to do whatever I want with Benjamin, whenever
  • I get to focus 100% of my attention on Benjamin
  • I am less stressed out
  • I have more time to keep my life in order: cooking, cleaning, shopping
  • I get to buy whatever I want without criticism
  • I can hang out with whoever, whenever
  • And the best part, I’m completely free and there’s always the chance that some day I will meet my Prince Charming.

Why do you love being a single mom?

Let’s focus on the positive for a moment, shall we? Being a single mom rocks. Really. We are pretty damn amazing. Every single mother I’ve ever met has been so strong, like a rock, fortified in her own solitude completely aware of the challenges and the rewards.

We don’t all have the answers. We don’t know why fate turned us down this path… but we go on, because we have to and in reality it’s not as hard as it sounds. At least we’re not married – that’s what really scares me. Do I need therapy? Maybe. Am I happy? Most of the time. Do I want to find someone eventually? Yes.

That will be another challenge and I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it. Right now I’ve got a pretty big bridge to cross. Can I cross two at once? Usually these things happen in a nice order. Love. Marriage. Baby in the baby carriage. Not baby in the baby carriage. Love and then marriage. But, doesn’t that sound like it could be, dare I say it, romantic and fun?

***UPDATE***

You might be interested in another post I wrote on loving single momminess that caused quite a stir with some angry readers. Read it here.

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Arm Jerker J. October 26, 2007 at 2:39 am

I would like to do an interview with you sometime. This is exactly what I’ve been driving at…Single isn’t a sentance.

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Mama 2 Mak June 9, 2009 at 2:44 am

Your SO right, being a single mom ROCKS!! I wouldn't have it any other way… It's almost scary to think that one day I may choose to try it again with someone else… MAYBE! :)

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Anonymous March 4, 2010 at 3:13 pm

You just made me feel 100% better about being a single mom. I just hope my son will be okay without a full time dad.

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Ashley August 13, 2012 at 2:51 am

Being a single mom is amazing! It has it’s tough days but I’ve raised my 16 yr old son by myself his whole life. I’ve been single again now for 2 years raising both my boys 16 & 8 and I wouldn’t change anything. I love being able to care for them on my own, I did it when I was married also my ex-husband was never home but now I have less stress & don’t have to worry about anyone gripping about anything.

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Babes For Troops January 14, 2013 at 10:35 am

wow funny but true some girls do do tbat i got ditched after the 6th date cus i wpuldnt give a news flash i dont want to have
sex cus? i dk the person duh

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